if you been in a relationship for 5 years and your other half dosent wanna get marry yet, what can you do?

Answer 1

I have been living with my bf for 4 years and 5 months. he says he cant marry me until I stop my jealousy and like his daughter. I see that as an excuse. but sometimes when we have a heart to heart conversation he makes me see that is really important for him to make sure I'll treat his daughter good. She doesnt live with us but when she comes over i just cant stand her. she hates me and it's all because of her mother. I cant be nice to her when she is not nice to me at all. I've told him that I'm just going to wait another year and no more. He says that eventually we are going to get married but then when we fight (our fights are because of his daughter) he tells me that he wont marry me until i get along with the kid and he feels like she likes me too. I hang in there because i love him and because things are great when we dont fight but in the other hand it really bothers me to see that all my friends are getting married and I'm the stupid one who is givining the "milk for free" but in the other hand I know he is not the kind of guy who is playing games. he is very responsible, very decent and all the things i was looking in a guy but maybe he is afraid of getting married again. he married the mother of his kid when they were like 22 because she was pregnant and obviously something really bad happened and they got divorced. he wont talk about that at all so i just assume that he doesnt want to deal another divorcec again. I ignore if you live with your bf or how old are you but if you really know him and think he is not playin games with you, just be patient and wait. now, if you think he is insecure and you cant wait anymore even if you love him, then move on. I'll move on if by the end of next year I'm not married. I'm 27 (almost) and i want to get married and have 2 babies before 30 so, if my bf doesnt want to make me happy and refuse to marry me, I'm sorry but I'll say bye.

Answer 2

If you have been in a relationship for more than a year and a half and the subject of marriage is not in the works than you don't have a serious relationship. If you are a woman than you are being used, and you need to terminate this thing now. If you are a guy, the same thing applies. The other person is putting themselves in front of you and a marriage would not work anyway. Just chalk it up to experience and move on.

Answer 3

Why don't they wanna get married? Is there commitment issues? Trust issues? Do they know you want to get married? If you've talked to the other half before and you want marriage and its out of the question for the other half, then definitely leave. You're wasting your time. But if they are just procrastinating for no apparent reason, talk to them, find out if there is a good reason, then work from there. You'll know if they are just riding the clock so to speak. If thats the case, get out of that relationship and find someone worth your while.

Answer 4

Well this one hits pretty close to home for me. Myself & Jo-Jo have had one hell of great time together since late 2001. I was married for almost 13 yrs, but was never happy or satisified with the way things were, after being with Jo-Jo, I thought that my "soul-mate" had been located. We seperated briefly about 1 month after x-mas 2003, it was during this time apart that I decided if she were to return I'd ask her to marry me. She returned 'bout thte end of January, it was like a prayer had been answered. . .so just like a big ole' fool, I got down on 1 knee,& the hole 9 yards and she said what's the rush. . . huh I said I thought we were in love etc, etc(said as the king, in The King & I), If you both are still not sure by this time it might be time to move on, however if just being together is what counts, not what some piece of paper might say 'bout your relationship, the status quo is the only way to go. Good Luck colvonryansa

Answer 5

It sucks but you got to give him an ultimatum. It's not always about what he wants it's about what you both want, Sounds cheesy but relationships only work when both people are satisfied on all levels and if he's not working to make you an honest woman, Married then he is to straighten up is act a bit or move on. I hate reality sometimes but it's the best medicine.

Answer 6

5 years? Umm...it's time for you all to start talking about some things. If they don't have any interest of getting married, it's time to find someone who is ready to get married. Stop playing house if he isn't ready or doesn't appear to even be interested in the topic.

Answer 7

I guess people stayed in a relationship because they truly love and care for each other irregardless of whether they wanted to get married or not. Love is deeper & stronger not because of what they get from the other but rather what they give for each other.

Answer 8

if ur relationship is good why ruin a good thing marriage is only a peice of paper it dosent change anything accept the relationship 9 outta 10 goes to hell if you got it good dont ruin it

Answer 9

Talk to your partner about how you feel and let him/her know you are ready for a commitment. The only thing you can do is be honest about what you want, you can't force your partner to get married. You have to decide whats important to you and whether or not your partner wants what you want.

Answer 10

i agree with the other girl! if your spouse doesn't want to marry you then why stick around? Don't let another 5,10, 20 years pass before you realize that your spouse isn't going to marry you. why is your spouse so scared of marriage yet he sticks around for 5 years

Answer 11

Enjoy the relationship for another 25 years. Why wreck it by trying to force him into marriage? If your relationship is otherwise good, don't go and ruin it!