I'm a 24 year old guy working in a depart with 15 women over 30. At least twice per week, there's always something they want me to pitch in for. Either they want me to pitch for some babyshower of someone in some other department I don't even know friend of theirs, or they want me to pitch in for one of the girl's B-day that I don't talk to. They buy these special cakes and lunches celebrating stupid stuff like one of them getting a BF, or one of them getting over her BF. I don't talk t them, they don't talk to me, except when there's something "everyone" in the department needs to pitch including me, the only guy who doesn't get along with them. It sucks.
2006-06-14 08:07:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
I've been in this spot and it got way out of hand. Just tell them, hey, I don't know who this person is. If they get p'd off, so be it. You're supposed to be there everyday working, not celebrating someones new hair style or anther's perfect attendance, or whatever lame ideas they come up with.
2006-06-14 08:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by curious 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you just tell them you can't afford it. Or tell them you don't want to participate in the parties and such.. just remember that when it's time to throw you a party, they won't be obligated.
Don't ever feel like you HAVE to include yourself on these things.. especially if you don't know the people. They are being rude if they expect you to do it all the time. Just be honest and let them know when you do and don't want to be a part of it.
:-)
Crystal
2006-06-14 15:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by oo_whatchulike_oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My coworkers knew that my finances were tight so they let me know that they were collecting money, but never expected me to pitch in. They still put my name on the card.
You could tell them that you're low on funds at the moment. Or just say something simple -I can't, no thanks, etc. Or just say no. You don't need to give them a reason. After a while they'll stop asking.
2006-06-14 15:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by eebrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with tjadensmommy27. Just tell them that you don't really know the person and you don't feel the need to contribute to someone you know nothing about. ESPECIALLY for the bf ones.
Better yet, say you will contribute to their fund if they will contribute to you're new 52" plasma screen fund when they come a-knockin'
2006-06-14 15:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by dewitthm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them that you are going to politely bow out... explain that you don't feel comfortable contributing to something for someone you really don't know. If they get an attitude about it... maybe they will throw a 'this guys a jerk' lunch... either way... you need to say something! :)
2006-06-14 15:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by tjadensmommy27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new job at a company where the employees don't give a crap about each other.
2006-06-14 15:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by Forrest O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kindly decline and let them know that you do like doing this kind of crap!!!
2006-06-14 15:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by luckyboi75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I plead poverty.
2006-06-14 15:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋