My husband and I are in our 20s and in a serious rut. We have 7 month old and don't get out much any more. I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas for something special for the two of us. We need a "jump start". :)
2006-06-14 08:04:42 · 13 answers · asked by number1mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i fell your pain I'm in my mid 20s and Ive have two kids. Is there any one that can watch the baby over night or even for a few hours. Go out to eat dinner doesn't have to be fancy just as long as the two of you are alone go watch a movie, take a long bath together and continue in other areas what did you used to do when you were dating. Try doing some of those things again. Being in a rut leads to being unhappy you need to find that reason you fell in love and run with it. Time to be alone with your spouse is important, just like you need time to yourself. Do something you really like together with out the baby,it will help good luck
2006-06-14 08:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by klynnd1981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you both have to have lives away from baby. Put baby down and step away from the baby. Children are a blessing, but they don't come before your relationship with your spouse, ever. You can both be better parents when you are in tune to eachother, and everyone needs a break every once in awhile. Hire a sitter, somebody you can trust to watch the baby. Make a date with eachother and stick to it, reconnect and refresh. A date night is highly suggested to couples in counseling and it works. You have to think ahead to the future. Your children will leave you someday, that's how life goes...and when they do will you and your spouse be staring at eachother saying "I don't know you anymore, or the most famous line "I don't love you anymore" ? when they do??? My suggestion is to pick up the phone and call a sitter and incorporate a much needed date night, and at least once if not twice a month. Think about it...
2006-06-14 08:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you enjoy. If you're the type that like the romantic night out, go out to dinner and a movie. If you're the homebody type get a babysitter and stay at home order some take out and just enjoy each others company. The best times I remember between my husband and I are when we went on a weekend trip away. If that's an option, that would be my recommendation.
2006-06-14 08:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can start by leaving sweet notes in his close so he can find during work. Find a sitter if possible and have a date.. Sounds like you two need to start going out on dates yes its hard but you two needed. If sitter is hard to find, try putting the baby to sleep early and plan just u and him time. Simple dinner, or movie on the sofa.. Remember sometimes its the small things that matter, dont try to go above and beyond bc then you might be dissapoited.
2006-06-14 08:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by mep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sitter or relative and go out for a night out together. You need to make time for just the 2 of you. Try to go out at least once a week or once every 2 weeks, where you get a sitter and enjoy a couples night out. You can see a movie, have dinner, go dancing, - whatever it is that you both enjoy doing together.
2006-06-14 08:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babysitter, champagne, hotel room, walk on the beach, cuddle after the child is in bed.
If you find ways to be together at this child's age, it will get more difficult in a couple years.
My kids are 4 and 3, wife works midnites, time is VERY limited. It becomes quality time when it used to be quantity time. When you look at quality instead of quantity, the moment gets better.
2006-06-14 08:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids always do a number on all relationships. Last valentines day I went to the store and got a bottle of chocolate syrup, big marshmallows, rose petals, Hershey kisses. I made a big bath of hot chocolate with marshmallows, I took the rose petals and lined them on the fan blades and made a big heart on our bed out of the kisses. I got all dressed in nice lingerie and he could smell the chocolate but I did not show him I took him to the room made him close his eyes opened the door and turned on the fan when he opened his eyes the rose petals were floating down to the bed with the big heart of kisses and then we went and took our hot chocolate bath and I am sure you know the rest but it was a lot of fun. A babysitter is a good idea but not necessary early bed time.
2006-06-14 08:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date night! My husband and I do it every now and then, and it's always nice and refreshing. Don't let having a baby tie you down and take the fun out of life. This should be an exciting time for you. May God continue to bless you all, take care.
2006-06-14 08:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by candy0813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if your or his parents can watch your baby on Saturdays - then spend the whole day together and go out for a date in the evening. It will give you something to look forward to every week!
2006-06-14 08:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a habit of date night.
2006-06-14 08:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋