What do I do about my parents?

Question

Yesterday, My boyfriend came over and we were in my room and we were laying on the floor, watching and movie, and kissing, what most teens do. Then my mom opened the door and we moved really fast, she didn't really see the whole thing, so she goes to my step dad and says that he was on top of me and she didn't know what we were doing. So my step dad called me over there after my bf went home and asked if we were having sex, which we weren't there was a lot of yelling and cussing and he said if u want to be a lil whore then get out of my house and go live with your real dad. Me and my boyfriend are scared to know what will come out of his mouth next. So what do I say to him where he will believe that we weren't doing anything wrong? He's the type that always thinks he has to be right! so please help me!

Answer 1

How old are you and your boyfriend? Here is what I would suggest you do: Since you live in that house and need to respect their rules, then you should wait a little bit until he calms down, then go calmly ask to speak to him and your mother together. Explain to them that you know and respect their rules and do not want to cause any problems or do anything wrong, but you would like for them to know what really happened, which was nothing as drastic as they initially thought. You need to be honest with them and show them that you are mature enough to handle the situation if it got out of control. If they raised you right and you know the values they instilled in you, then you need to tell them that and gain their trust. They are just trying to protect you and make sure that you are not in any danger or put into a situation that you possibly could not handle - don't blame them for that. Sometimes adults are so scared that they react in ways that seem out of anger, but are really out of concern. You need to see their side of this just as they need to see your side. Remember, they have been around a lot longer than you have!

Good luck!

Answer 2

Unfortunatley there isn't anything that you can say to him to make him believe you. The only thing you can do is just tell the truth - tell them that you were kissing and watching a movie, not having sex. There is nothing wrong with kissing, the fact that you guys acted guilty and jumped off eachother when the door opened is what is making you look guilty. Next time just stay still - theres nothing wrong with your mom seeing you kissing.
Just be honest with your parents - thats all you can do. When your bf comes over, keep your door open or half shut - that will show your parents that you aren't doing anything.

Answer 3

Seem 2 me that u're caught btween a rock & a hard place. u hav ur rites but u can't dfend them cause if u do u're called dirty names etc. I'm sorry 2 hear of ur dilemma. however may I suggest that as far as possible, u keep out of ur step dad's way & try as best u can 2 do the rite always. U didn't say how old u were but just remember that 1 day u'll b old enough 2 b out of his/ur mom's house & most of all try @ all times 2 show him respect even if u think he's not deserving.Keep ur b/f out of ur room & any secluded place around the house, that way u'll b above suspicion & all time,maintain visibility & lastly; since he's already convinced that u're a "whore", I suggest u don't even try 2 defend urself.Best of all 2 u my dear! 4 God's sake please don't take prettybunny's advise!!, u're the only 1 who'd suffer 4 trying 2 spite ur parent,& honey, it is a scientific fact that kissing can b dangerous 4 a teenager since it is definately a prelude 2 sex 4 all the emotions it stirs up. Just let urself b a teenager b4 u bgin 2 take on adult things.

Answer 4

My step mother did the same thing to me, we weren't even touching or anything. She freaked out because the girl was in my room. Naturally my dad freaked out because she did. Later I talked with my dad and I was like we weren't doing anything we werent even touching and stuff. He was like youre step mom just didn't know how to react and she freaked out on you. So the advice here is to talk to youre mom let her know you wouldn't do something like have sex in the house, especially while they are home. She needs to know you have more common sense then that. It's a guess but if your like any other teenagers, you wait till the parents are gone and then it's a secret and whoever it was is gone long before they get home. I wouldn't invite the b-freind over when Step -dad is around, just go to his place or something. Dads have a hard time understanding daughters and thier sexuality. You Mom was were you were at one time so it may be best to just talk to her about it.

Answer 5

My parents are the same. They think I'm constantly having sex with my guy, though i'm not & don't even go very far at all. I've told them many, many times of this, but they never seem to believe me either.

You can sit them down with your boyfriend & explain to them what happened, & next time your in your room together you'll leave the door open a little to make them feel better.

If that doesn't work..there's honestly not much you can do to change their opinion. all parents think their children are having sex when they're with someone, there's no real way to stop them from assuming that. Your dad was way out of line saying that to you.

What you may have to end up doing is letting them think what they want too, & if your stepdad speaks to you like that again, tell him he shouldn't speak to you like that, or ignore him & walk away.

I hope they do change their minds though.

Answer 6

Talk to your mom ... Your step father is over stepping his bounds by saying you have to leave his house cause your mother lives there to and if your mom has custody he can not throw you out.

your mother has been there and of you talk to her and just explain that when the door openned you were startled and that is why you jumped. Comprimise with your mom and make her feel more comfortable about you growing up ... eith tell her you won't have him in your room or that if you are in your room the door will always be left open.

Comunication with your mom is most important right now ... DO NOT let you step father get in between that.

Answer 7

Behave and quit the sexual petting. He has a right to be concerned. Don't do anything besides hold hands or kiss. Its his right to not want you getting knocked up. And don't tell me it won't happen. I said that too, but eventually went all the way with my guy and had a baby. So respect yourself and your parents. Don't do anything with that boy that you'ld not do with your Mom in the room. Keep your door open and start earning back their trust. Once you move out you can do whatever you want. But until you are 18, you are still legally a kid. Keep it PG with that boy and don't let him get on top of you again.

Answer 8

If he is the type that thinks that he is always right then probably nothing you will say will convince him. that was really mean of him to say that to you. Does your mom let him talk to you this way? Go to your mom and tell her that you and ur bf were kissing and only jumped because you were startled by her opening the door.

Answer 9

Simply talk to your step dad AND mom.
I would say straight up tell them that you were making out and not having sex.
Give the option of him taking your door away to show that nothing will be going on.
Group dates are always good also.

Answer 10

I think just dont have your bf over for a min... and just keep talking to your step dad about sex and that u are not doing it and show him that too.. in the long run if your step dad keeps callin u names talk to your mom about it and maybe she can talk to your step dad...