i want a baby?

Question

i want a baby n so does my b/f who i love im 13 but alot of grls my age hav babys but n my mom wuld kill me

i want a baby n so does my boyfriend who i love im 13 turnin 14 in september n he 15 turnin 16 at the end of this month but alot of gurls my age have babys but my mom wuld kill me so i realy dont know

Answer 1

You do NOT want a baby at 13! You can barely take care of yourself, let alone govern another life! You are far too young to be making decisions of this kind! You should be worried about what outfit you will wear tomorrow or what snack you are going to have while you watch TV! If you want a baby, get a doll! You aren't old enough to work to support the baby and its endless needs. I really don't think you know how much time and money are invested in properly raising a child! You have things you must do to become a productive member of society! Having a baby at 13 is NOT on that list!

Of course your mom would be upset if you told her you wanted to have a baby or that you were pregnant! Any sensible parent would! They know how hard it is to raise a child and that at 13, no one is emotionally or financially capable of such a thing!

You need to use your head, I'm afraid to say! Grow up first, then have a baby!

Answer 2

You think you want a baby? Offer to take care of a friend's baby fulltime for one week ... 24/7!! Just YOU, not your Mom or any other help. That will give you just a small taste of what you are in for if you have a baby. YOU figure out how to take care of it financially ... diapers, formula, any doctor's bills, etc. YOU change all the diapers and give it baths. YOU get it to stop crying and to go to sleep. (And remember ... NEVER SHAKE A BABY!!! That causes severe brain injury and can negatively affect their intelligence and personality for the rest of their lives!) Take the baby with you when you go out to the store, when you go to see your friends, when you go to school and church. No fair dumping the baby on your Mom or other person!! If you have to leave the baby, pay a babysitter or find an appropriate daycare situation ... and YOU pay for it! And this is just for one week. Think about if this was for the next 18 years of your life! If you mess up on a baby you bring into the world, you're not just messing up your own life, you are messing up the life of a tiny, helpless human being! And DO NOT say, "Well, I'll just go on welfare or get other social assistance." You should not have a baby until you can do it without help from taxpayers! Not to mention, you should be married first, and it will be several years before you are old enough to marry. Just because others are doing it backwards is no reason to follow in their steps!

Answer 3

ARE YOU KIDDING?? You are 13???? I don't mean to sound like your mom, but come on!! You have so much growing up to do in the years ahead of you. That may be the way you feel now, but you could feel COMPLETELY different in the years to come. This is not a decision you can just "take back". You would be stuck for 18 years. I just had a baby 11 months ago and there are no words to describe the responsibility (let alone the maturity) that is required in raising a child. You can say that you are financially, emotionally and physically ready for a responsibility like that? This is just my opinnion, but enjoy your childhood while you still have it, as it doesn't last long... Good luck & I hope your mom doesn't kill you....

Answer 4

Why don't you and your boyfriend volunteer to watch a neighbors child over night.. I can guarantee you that one night of babysitting is all that it will take for you both to smarten up. Darling, the only reason he wants you to have a child is so you are stuck at home caring for the baby while he is out "with the guys". You can say I don't know what I am talking about.. but I said the same thing and let me tell you.. I KNOW what I am talking about. You are a baby yourself. Your a year younger than my son.. and my son has better plans for himself than to tie himself or a female down with a child. Maybe the reason your mom would kill you is because she has better plans for you.

Answer 5

You're crazy. You are barely out of diapers yourself and now you want a baby! Wait until you're old enough to get married and then do it the right way. You have no idea what it would be like raising a child and how little, if any, free time you would have. So what if other girls are having babies, that doesn't make it right!

Answer 6

I know you don't want to hear it but its not right! Your body is not physically ready to have a baby. You shouldn't be worried about what you Mom would think rather about what could happen to you and your baby if you do get pregnant. If you don't have a high school education and you can't get a job because you are too young you can have your baby taken away from you and put into foster homes or your mom will have to adopt him. You won't be able to support him/her on your own because you don't have your own house or job or money. You still need to depend on your parents. Just because you think the guy will stay around doesn't mean he will. What will you do if his parents say he cannot see you anymore once you get pregnant. You can come up with all the plans you wish to see him but his parents still have legal control over him and can force him to go to a different school and make him stay in the house every day he has off. Not to mention that because your body is still growing and needs the nutrients from your food to make you grow it cannot always support a baby. So you could die or kill your child. The people who are pregnant at 13 will have a extreamly difficult life. 1 out of 50 will finish college and go on to better things. The rest may finish school, will lose their child due to not being able to support them, will be on drugs and will end up on the streets having sex with strange men for money. If you don't care where you end up at least think of your child who will have to go through all of that with you.

I know it is hard to see everyone around you with children and you just want one too but please don't be selfish. You may be in the small percentage that does make it and you may have a great man that is mature enough to be responsible but you won't really know until it happens. Don't take your chances. In the end it is your body and your choice but remember that once you get pregnant you are making a choice for you child as well.email me if you have questions.... don't rely on just friends because they will just tell you what you want to hear. You can ask your parents but you already know what they will say! I promise to not lecture you but to listen to everything you have to say and help you make decisions that will benefit you and your baby.Let me know!

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Answer 7

Hun, you are way too young! I understand you *love* your bf, but wait!
Think about this, babies are not toys! They are hard work, and for someone who is as young as you are, who should be in school, it really is in your best interest not to have a baby!
You should do all you can to ensure you are ready for a baby!
You should finish school, maybe carry on with secondary education, live life and enjoy being young! Then settle down and enjoy being a mother!
I know babies are cute and cuddly, but they are also messy, they cry, they smell, and need A LOT of attention!
Just think about what your life will be like with a baby! I can gaurantee it won't be as *lovely* as you picture it!
Take time to live life! There is PLENTLY of time for babies later, when you are more emotionally, physically and mentally prepared for one!
Good luck hun, and think hard!

Answer 8

If you get pregnant at 13 you will regret it. That is a promise. What is going on is that you want someone to love you that has to love you back, and who will not reject you. This problem will pass. You are at a very difficult age. As you mature, you will find the love and acceptence that you are craving now. A little patience will bless the rest of your life. May God bless you and give you the unfettered love you desire.

Answer 9

I can't believe it. Don't listen to these people. Do you have a job? Does he? I doubt it considering you have to be 15 to work at most places. Do you have any idea how much a baby costs? Oh my goodness let me tell you. You do not want a child at your age. I had my first son when I was 21. My husband and I both had good jobs and it was and is still hard. You need to think twice about this one!!

Answer 10

Do you REALLY think it's OK for a child to have a baby? How would YOU pay for things a baby needs? Go on welfare maybe? You are not even old enough for a job for crying out loud. You are too young to be having sex! Don't have kids until you are an adult and can take care of it yourself.