What you do if your husband told you that his fantisy was for you to have sex with other men and he really wanted you too? Would you do it for him?
2006-06-14 07:48:55 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say yes only because that is my fantasy too. I would also want him to have sex with a women in front of me because that is another fantasy of mine. Make sure your both comfortable. I am not a swinger but that is what they do.
2006-06-14 08:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 6⤋
It would definitely be time for some serious communication. Fantasies can be just fantasies... maybe he could pretend to be someone else with you, wear a wig and whatever, but if he really wants this and it is his fantasy... as long as he's ok with it and you're ok with it... sometimes, it is a turn on to imagine your partner with someone else, however you would have to make sure that he understood that the reality might not equal the fantasy and that it would be something you couldn't take back when it was over. Also, if it makes you uncomfortable, then don't do it. Just try to be open-minded where your partner is concerned, after all, you have a lifetime together. It would take a lot of love and trust on both partners behalf to accept something like that. Do you have that?
2006-06-14 08:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I think most of you must be under the age of 25. Look, it's perfectly fine for people to have fantasies. It's part of every healthy sex life, and it's just a matter of simple honesty and trust to express them.
My wife has expressed some fantasies that are pretty eye-opening, and I have told her some lulus as well. Now we understand each other sexual desires, but that doesn't mean we necessarily act them out. However, it is a matter of trust that I can tell her these things.
I can tell you this, if you are punishing your husband for a simple fantasy, then grow up. Because you are virtually guaranteeing that he will start keeping secrets from you--Not a healthy way to have any kind of relationship if you ask me.
2006-06-14 10:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE. My husband has a fantasy about a threesome but it's never gonna happen. Everyone has fantasies but most people don't try to fulfill them when it comes to adding someone to the bed and if they do then there must be something wrong in the relationship. I personally don't see how "swingers" can call themselves married couples and still think they are keeping there wedding vows. THIS IS WHY THEY ARE CALLED FANTASIES.
2006-06-14 07:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by shywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with a lot of the answers. Just be Frank. If you do something like that what will it lead to, Nothing But Trouble. It would give him the right to sleep with another or more females. No Way. Sounds like he might be wanting to sleep around with other females, if he hasn't already. No Offense. God Bless. Christian Counseling is a good Idea.
2006-06-14 07:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have mixed feelings, I want to please my husband but on the other hand I am human so I would worry that maybe the other man might be better than my husband and then I would be really messed up. I would make my husband really think about it for a couple of months and then if he was sure I think I would if it would make him happy.
2006-06-14 07:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on if he just fantasizes about it or if he actually wants you to do it. If he wants you to do it, this is entirely up to you. I wouldn't advise it if you do not have trust and communication in your relationship, as you may just find yourself getting a divorce down the line. In order for this not to have a negative impact on your relationship, both of you need to be in agreement as to what rules would be followed, whats expected of each of you, and to follow them exactly as agreed. To be honest, it may open up a Pandora's box of things you may not want to deal with. So basically, it's a personal decision and not something to be taken lightly. I personally don't think I would do it for my husband. I'd just keep it a fantasy.
2006-06-14 08:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happen to a friend of mine. Her husband told her that he wanted her to be with another man.She thought it was weird but she did anyway. Anyways.....turned out to be a setup. He used that fact that she slept with someone else as grounds for a divorce and made her feel guilty about it for months..........I say tell him to find new fantasies......
2006-06-14 09:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Doing something like that will put a huge wedge in your marriage and cause problems - I don't care how much he says he wants me to do it. Besides the problems that it would cause, it's also unsafe because of std's/diseases.
2006-06-14 07:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, I would divorce him IMMEDIATELY! What happened to marriage being sacred & monogamous? And what kind of husband would want to watch another man pleasure his wife? That is a recipe for DISASTER!
2006-06-14 07:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, If he truly loved me then why on earth would he want you to make love to other men. This to me sounds like a massive issue that may need proffessional help.
2006-06-14 07:56:14 · answer #11 · answered by Juice99_02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋