I have been married over a year, and with my husband for almost 5 years. We plan to start trying to concieve around our second anniversary.
Our baby will be born (if all goes right) around our third wedding anniversary. We will be together for 6-7 years when our first child is born.
How long did you wait after being married to start a family? Or when do you think is a good time?
2006-06-14 07:48:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am probably looked down on for this but I am a single young mother and I have no problems with it. I did not marry, and I have 4 children which are my life so it is nice to have the whole white picked fence senerio but doesnt always happen so answering your question I didnt marry.
2006-06-14 07:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you wait until everything is perfect you will never have kids. That's what my best friend told me when I got married. I have wanted children since I was a child. It didnt matter to me when i was little who I married as long as I could have children. That part changed of course. My husband and I had our second anniversary in March (and he's wonderful). Because we have had a large amount of stress (moving from Maryland to Alaska, death of grandparent, living with in-laws... etc.) we have put off trying for baby until we have our own home. My husband and I are both 24 and only knew eachother a year and a half before our wedding but we have faith that we will be together forever. We prayed about it and are confident that we are meant to be together and are ready to become parents. However, I think it depends on every couple. if you and your husband are starting to get excited about adding to your family, go for it.
2006-06-14 08:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by futurebecwar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you feel is right. My husband and I began trying after about six months, and even though I'm not pregnant yet and we've been married a little over a year I'm just happy to be with him and know that a child will be concieved when it's the right time.
2006-06-14 07:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by zoeybean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband and I have been married or a year and we dated for one year before we got married to really we have been together for 2 years!
I got pregnant in May, (Our first) it was by complete surprise. Unplanned but very much wanted!
I think you should start having children when you feel it's right!
We were always told to wait 2 years to have kids, but... it didn't work out! We are still extremely excited and can't wait to be parents!
You guys have been together for a long time and if you both feel ready i don't see why you should have to wait!
Good Luck!
2006-06-14 07:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I got pregnant within three months of moving in together, and I really regret doing it so soon. I think you're smart for planning things out and it's good that you guys have been together for a good few years before trying to conceive.
Soak up every minute you have together in this way now, because life after baby is very, very different. I think your timeline is a good one. Make sure you know eachother really well, trust eachother, know eachother's boundaries of what you can and cannot do, and make sure that you can talk with eachother openly about problems that you might have.
Good luck trying to conceive, I hope it all works out for you! Try and remember that it usually takes at least 6 months to get pregnant, so don't be upset if you get your cycle the first month!
2006-06-14 07:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give yourselves a couple of years, I've known my wife since I was nineteen, chased after her for a date for 4 years and at dated for 2 before we got married. Our 3rd wedding anniversery is coming up in August and we found out on Easter we were going to have our first child! Our original plan was to start "trying" on our anniversary, but give yourself time together first!
2006-06-14 07:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by jackass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We started trying 1 year of marriage because we new that it wouldn't happen right away. If you have been together and lived together for a long while (5 years obviously is a long) then why not. Provided you have had time to get to know each other and know that you can handle his quirks and he can handle yours then why not! I think it made our marriage much stonger and we only knew each other 6 months before we got married. (that is because of military duty)
2006-06-14 07:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by 20mommy05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm engaged and pregnant. It was an accident. We are financially secure, though. I think that people should do whatever is right for them. If you are ready financially and emotionally, then go ahead. If not, wait a couple of years. If you can handle the work of a newborn, and have enough money and energy, then I say you're ready. Good Luck!!
2006-06-14 07:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by HCW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say anytime after this point in your marriage is good. You guys have spent a good amount of time time together as a married couple and having a child now will be good. I read that it is not good to have kids before at least 6 mon-1yr. of marriage.
Hope this helps and good luck
2006-06-14 07:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by nh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were married 3 years before trying to have a baby. But if you are ready go for it
2006-06-14 07:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by blakesmom07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋