i love him,but i am too young but he rilly wants me to so i dont know what to do. my parents want me too have it too.....
2006-06-14 07:45:02 · 26 answers · asked by Larry S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sounds like you and your boyfriend need to sit down and talk. Ultimately it is your decision, even though he may not like the path you choose, it is your body and your decision.
There is no easy way to get through this, because you are going to end up pissing someone off. Speak with councelors and family to help get BOTH of you in the right directions.
2006-06-14 07:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, Larry, either you are the first male to become pregnant with a child, or you are a female using the ID of a male you know. Either way, this is a very tricky topic of discussion.
I would say, since it's your body, do what you want with it. However, I know that answer seems too simplified and there are repercussions if you just do what you want. Your boyfriend may or may not leave you if you decide to abort the fetus. You'll have to deal wtih your parents, too. In some states, since you are a minor, you will need your parents' permission to abort the fetus. So, you cannot just go and do it yourself. They will need to approve.
You ARE young, that is correct, and you deserve a shot at life. Having a baby will put a damper, or make it difficult at best, to finish high school, go to college and live the dreams you have for yourself. Try to talk to your boyfriend and your parents about this. If they want what's best for you, they will want you to succeed.
Worst case scenario is that you will have to have the baby and keep it. There is adoption, but I hate to see that happen when there are so many kids in the system who do not get the life they deserve. It breaks my heart, really.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope you get what you want out of the decision you will make.
2006-06-14 08:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by turtle_express16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 16 I thought I was pregnant. I remember my bf wanting me to have an abortion. You know what I decided? That I didnt want to look back when i was 25 or so and think wow, my kid would be 9 now. I didnt ever want to have regrets. For me I was lucky, I was just very late (apparently from the stress of thinking about pregnancy). But something I have learned between then and now is that people have kids very young sometimes. The turnout can be wonderful or horrible. But that depends on you, the parent. If you have the support network neccessary to raise a child, I would do it. If you have regrets it will most likely be that you couldnt provide them with everything or that you lost some of your childhood. But if you are pregnant, its about time to grow up anyway. Weigh those regrets against preventing your child from living. Whether or not you keep it, you are now a parent. Your child is alive. You choose whether or not he/she stays that way.
2006-06-14 08:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by futurebecwar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very tough situation you are in. Do you plan to be with the father in the future? Will you have help from your family in raising the baby? You have to finish school, work to support it. If you choose not to keep the baby, please think of adoption. There are alot of married couples out there who cannot concieve and would love to offer your baby a family. Sit down with you BF and you parents and explain all your reasons and what you think is a good idea and ask them to help you and support you no matter what you choose. I was 16 when I got pregnant and I got married to the father and we are happy and have 2 other children. We have been married 14 years. But it was VERY hard and I can tell you now, I was not ready. I had alot of help, but still basically did it on our own. I did not finish school and regret it everyday. So think long and hard and allways seek support when you need it. Good luck
2006-06-14 07:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by EB&Js 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will give you the short answer. Have the child. There is no doubt that having a child at 16 is a difficult thing, but if you terminate the child, you will have to live with that fact for the rest of your life. Don't have the child for the boyfriend. Have it for the child and person that that child will become, and for the fact that an act performed is done and cannot be undone. If you finish the pregnancy you will certainly be blessed for it. My wife had an abortion 30 years ago and she still lives with the regret. May God bless you and help you through this.
2006-06-14 07:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by tellerscosmos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all up to you, do not let anyone influence you into anything. If you are not ready don't have it, plus you are too young and have a full life ahead of you.
There is no garuntee that he will stick around after the baby comes.
Do what you feel is right. Do not be ashamed of anything, whether or not you keep the baby or do otherwise.
Keep in mind, the decision is completely yours and no one elses.
Oh yes, also.. make sure to get birth control and condoms next time, better safe than sorry! :)
2006-06-14 07:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by greeneyedkorean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it for anyone but yourself Sweetie. I was six months pregnant when I graduated from high school. I got married. Had another child. Then got divorced. It was drama, and way too much. It made everything so hard. I am finally at a point in my life where I was able to go back to school (college) and I'm 26. Think about YOU. Everyone else is so unimportant.
2006-06-14 07:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Enica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a Pregnancy Resource Center in your area
1-800-848-5683 National Pregnancy Hot Line can refer you to a resource center in your area.
The Resource Center has counselors and many other things, some have motherhood classes, they can help you through your pregnancy, about schooling, medical aid, doctors, etc. If you do not want to keep the baby, let it live and be born, then give for adoption -
If you are old enough to get pregnant u are old enuf to have a baby -
please let your baby have a life, & remember it's not just your baby but your borfriends baby & your parents grandchild -
have the baby - it will be all worth it - you will see
2006-06-21 06:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by AnaMay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in a tight spot hon why was'nt you taking any B.C?You need to sit down and tell your parent's that you are not ready even with they're help.I think it should be your decision.Whatever you do when it's all said and done get on birth control,try the shot that way you don't haf to worry about taking it everyday it's given every 3 months.Goodluck baby and take care.
2006-06-14 07:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is the boyfriend? i am around your age and i wouldn't want a baby either, but if your parents think it is for the best that you keep the baby then i would keep it, because in the long run the child might influence your life for the best later down the road.
If the boyfriend is really into thats good that he wants the baby, then you know that he really cares about you.
2006-06-14 07:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is kinda backward from what you read everywhere!
LOL!
Maybe decide to put the baby up for adoption! If your parents want to adopt it, fine, but it's really your choice! I don't recommend abortion, that baby has a hearbeat now!
YOu need to discuss with your parents and bf that you are toooooo young to have a baby! Way to young!
Tell them you want to continue school and prepare for a family later!
But I would give that baby a chance, give it up to a good home!
Good Luck!
2006-06-14 07:49:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋