I love my husband and he takes care of me very well money wise. But the man I'm talking to over the internet for a month has brought a spark back to my life in ways my husband hasn't done in a long time. My husband and I have been split up for the last 3 months. Should I try to work it out with my husband, meet the man that I have been talking to no the internet, or just forget about the man on the internet?
2006-06-14 07:30:12 · 28 answers · asked by ozzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is my guess you fell in love with a man on the internet because something was missing in your marriage. We don't go looking for someone else if we have someone that makes us happy.... so obviously there is a problem in your marriage.. and that should be dealt with first, wether its find out why you've looked elsewhere or fix it...
As for love on the internet... Keep this very important thing in mind.... you do not know this man, as much as you think you do. You two are talking, not sitting in the same room together, for all you know, he could be someone who sits and picks his nose and eats it. He could be someone you would never fall for in a face to face LIVING situation (as we all put on our best face when dating)...
Deal with your marriage first, even if that means ending it and then deal with your net man.
PS - If your financial security is the main reason you want to stay with your husband... (which I completely understand) then you need to end it and let your husband find love again.
Tawny
2006-06-14 07:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tawny Amber 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hold on there! Instead of spending time chatting with someone on the internet, why not use that time to reconnect with your husband? What you are feeling is infatuation, that butterfly feeling you had in your stomach when you first met your husband. You could talk about anything, and time away from him felt like an eternity. Now, you've settled into a routine and everything seems dull.
Of course talking with someone on line seems great. That spark is something new. It's exciting and you're entering uncharted territory.
Falling in love is easy. We could do it everyday if we wanted. Staying in love is the hard part. If you get divorced, marry this guy, things will be great for a while. But within 10 years, you'll be back on line trying to connect with someone new. There's a great thread on this subject matter on the blog listed below.
2006-06-14 14:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by BackpackerTD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop using the Internet. You have an obligation to your husband to give him another chance. You do not flush ten years down the toilet for a feeling that a man you have never met, gave you over the Internet. Are you kidding me? Maybe you do not deserve your husband. Believe me, he will realize that one day and will not take you back. Let's all live up to our vows and stop being so afraid to try and make our marriages work. We all get that point when we are not getting what we need from our mate, but have you ever thought to ask for it. Maybe he doesn't know that he is not giving you what you need. Good Luck to you.
2006-06-14 14:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by SC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having "an affair" with your husband over the Internet. Email him, flirt with him, etc. You may just like the thrill of getting a flirty email from your new found friend and that is what is making the spark. Who knows, you may find a entirely new way to communicate with your husband. Don't throw away your relationship over someone who may be good with words in emails, and will be a dog in real life.
2006-06-14 15:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by tee time girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I NOTED that woman above said above meet him. ITS not safe out there. THERE are a lot of people who are con artist on the net. Trust me they know what to say and how. PLUS your husband supported you. That something the net man don't do. SOME men say i love you by bring home the bacon.REALLY you married your husband because there was something there you loved.Lots of relationships go through a growth.Separation is often times what happens in growth. PLUS have you ever heard the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. YOU throw this one a way and you will have another set of problems. PLUS you don't totally know all about this man. HE could be married
2006-06-14 14:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie the guy you talk to over the internet is just a guy you talk to over the net, you really dont know him and maybe he could be dangerous...who knows, but your husband on the other hand you know him well right? and if you still love each other then maybe you should try to work it out. your husband knows you inside and out, this other guy doesnt so maybe you have so quirks about you that only your husband understands. just because the spark is gone from your marriage dont mean you have to run off to the first internet man you find, if you love your husband work it out try to put the fire back and if that dont work then yeah meet someone else but be carefull about it, you never know who your meeting over the internet.
2006-06-14 14:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can say is if you sincerely want things to be worked out with your husband, you have to give it your all and that means cutting ties with any man you feel attracted to, this is the only way to give it your all. If you choose to meet the other man be very careful some people on the net seem really nice but have very bad sides also.
2006-06-14 15:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget the guy on the internet. Sure, its nice to flirt and meet people, but your husband is they guy you need to focus on. Work on your marriage rather than trying to find what your missing on the net. Even if you did meet the guy of your dreams on the net, you would get bored with him in 10 years too since you're not willing to put time into the relationship.
2006-06-14 14:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by bay area curious george 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, you start by saying you love your husband? either you do or you don't...as for the internet guy, fantasy is always better than reality...you may meet him, but i can guarantee it will not work out...you are looking for something new, something that takes you out of your rut and eventually, you and the internet guy will fall into the same pattern...why not seek out new things with your husband? switch things up? also, why have you guys split?
you know what, nevermind, meet the internet guy, i am sure you deserve whatever life brings you
2006-06-14 14:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your decision should depend on what you think you might regret. If things don't work out with the internet guy, you may feel like you should have tried harder with you husband. Try and live with no regrets. Good luck either way.
2006-06-14 14:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by lizgolde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋