Why is he doing this?

Question

My fiance and I were dating for about 4 years. This past sunday though we got into an argument that was different from any past argument. We argued for about 10 min- I confronted him to make things right and he just kept arguing and challenging me on everything I said. We lived with his mom for 1 year until we get our own place- in three weeks we wouldve been in it. Some say he was scared of the responsibility some say he just doesnt care. We recently purchased a new truck and since then hes been different. He said it was my attitude,he wasnt ready for the relationship.etc.What did it? His mom says we've been arguing a lot lately- but it was mostly about how she babied him and why he wouldnt step up.He says he loves me, misses me and cant sleep without me- but still we're done.He sends me text messages and everything. I went and got my stuff out of the room when he wasnt there. I left the engagment ring and house key on his pillow. I told him i was letting him go. He texted me I love u

So now, I've got to re arrange my life and what my future plans are. We've broken up and gotten back together before again and again- everyone says he'll call like before but it feels different this time you know. I know he misses me and loves me, what i dont get is why it's ending. Im so confused. I dont care who you are- you cant turn off 4 years of love just like that. Will he call? Was he just stressed about moving and money?

Answer 1

i just got out of a four year relationship about three weeks ago .....we are still friends but he acted the same way your fiance is acting i finally realized that he's never going to change and i wasn't happy with it so i left him alone ...................u just have to be strong and not let him take advantage of u.......if u really love him ask him straight out how he really feels and tell him not to play games.......

Answer 2

I don't get you. You left him, gave him attitude, left behind the engagement ring and now you are complaining because he hasn't call you?

You are just trying to get attention from him. You don't really have any intention of leaving him. You are addicted to the drama and want him to go after you and beg you like in the movies. Be hones't, you don't have the guts to actually move out and get a life on your own.

If you cannot afford your own place and are still leaving with mommy and daddy then you have no bussiness getting married.

Grow up and move on!

Answer 3

And men say women are irrational. You did the right thing by leaving. He should have had his relationship issues worked out before he moved you into his mom's house while having the intention of saving for your house.
The next time he text messages, I love You, reply back, Too Bad. He had his chance and blew it and your life shouldn't suffer from it because that gives him control.
Move away, change phone numbers whatever but ditch him and his meddeling mom.

Answer 4

Apparently he's not ready for a commitment. It doesn't have to be over but give yourself some time to seek out other people. Have a little fun and see how it feels. Both should try dating other people. If a guy is living with his parents, think about it.

Answer 5

it sounds like there is alot going on with him. hes probably stressed. you said he called you and texted you. relationships arent easy. you have to work at them. both of you. if one doesnt want to then its not going to work. i understand how hard it is (i have been with my BF for 4 yrs too)(broken up and gotten back together) its extremely hard. give it some time. try to talk to him without arguing. tell him how he made you feel. tell him how he hurt you. tell him that you dont understand why this is happening. just talk to him! no arguing. if your relationship is strong enough and if BOTH of you are willing to work things out, work things out. you shared 4 years of you life with him. its just another hurdle. good luck and take care. ♥

Answer 6

Hang in there sweetheart.

This stuff hurts, but always works itself out. Go with what YOU feel. Remember also, the we are all human and make mistakes, do and say things we regret and don't mean. Don't be afraid to forgive.

Patience Grasshopper

Answer 7

Sounds to me like yes hes just freakin out about the money and actually having responsibility.

Answer 8

yes he stressed. mommy probibly made life really easy for him and no reality has set in. if he comes back great but if not then you wont have to deal with the mother-n-law from hell after you get married. sounds like that would have been stressful too.