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Question

Eirlier on i asked a question about a girl that i am in a relationship with and i found a condom in the toilet. i have had good response and i have asked her what was going on. She said that she got drunk and her friend asked her the next day if she was alright. My GF said y. her friend said that her drink got spiked and she didnt know what she was doing. She couldnt remember the night b4. she asked me to call her friend and ask. that kind of makes me believe her but im not sure. She told me who the bloke was cos she woke up the next morning and he was there. she kicked him out in his underwere. Shall i do anything about it?

Answer 1

she should report it to the police

Answer 2

How do you feel about this person? Is this someone you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with? But most of all do you trust this person? And if not especially after this incident do you think you'll be able to eventually? If you care for this person and want to move forward in your relationship then you need to make sure that you don't dwell on this and let it go...holding on to the past is a sure way to hinder you from your future. And if you do believe her be supportive an experience like the one she says she has can be embarrassing, hurtful and scary.

Answer 3

If i was in your position after asking her friend about it, in a fit of rage i would go to the bloke's apartment and beat him senseless. Then take her to the police to file a report against him, if what the friend says supports her story. If it doesn't i would dump her but not before i let her know what i think about her.

Answer 4

You might have a conversation of the problems with drinking that much and suggest she go have STD tests run since condoms are not 100% effective. If that doesn't put the fear into her, nothing will. Once is a mistake. Twice is a personality problem and time to drop her and move along.

Answer 5

Things like this have happened to women so its not like we can say for sure she is lying. But dont take calling the friend thing as proof she is telling the truth. If I was you I would do some investigation. That is the only way you will know for sure.

Answer 6

If her story is true then she has been raped and you must be gentle with her emotions. You must be subtle but force her to report the incident to the police - the rapist must not be allowed to do this to other girls.

Also, question your girlfriend's friend - how did they know her drink had been spiked, and, if they knew, why did they let her go home with a man?

Answer 7

She's playing you. If the dude was there in the morning he obviously had consensual sex with her. Being drunk may have impared her reasoning, but the facts are the facts. Whether or not you choose to stay with her is your business, however, I would be careful of STD's. Protect yourself at all times.

Answer 8

"I got drunk and I don't remember a thing." Does that sound reasonable? If you keep dating her---keep her away from the alcohol.

"Oh, there is a boy in my bed, and I don't know how he got there or who he is." Not an every day occurrence for most of us! She sounds like trouble!

Answer 9

Boy don't fall for that sh** ... to many use the "i was drunk" "i don't remember what happened" bull to get out of telling the truth!.. you know the old saying... if it looks like a duck sounds like a duck it's problem a duck. life is to short to if yourself to someone that doesn't respect them self.... run and run fast ....

Answer 10

Oh mate, I've got a really bad gut feeling about this one. Look, just ask yourself, do you really want to be respecting someone who can't be trusted to respect themselves?

Answer 11

Dump her, she is a sl*t. Being drunk is not an excuse. "Did not know what she was doing" is bullsh*t. She f*cked this other guy and it is her fault. Dump her and find someone else.