PLEASE DON'T READ ON IF YOU ARE OFFENDED BY TALK OF SEX!! the last two times i have had sex i am unable to get/maintain an erection. Tonight I tried it with this girl i have liked for ages, but the engine room seemed to be closed tonight! She said its ok we will try tomorrow night. I don't want it to happen again tomorrow night! She tried stimulating my testes and attempted to masturbate me but it just didnt work. I wasnt even turned on, which pissed me off cos she is absolutley gorgeous. Someone please help!!
2006-06-14 07:11:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
the first thing I suggest is to get a thorough work up by a doctor to see if there is a physiological reason for this.
I also sugggest you take the pressure off of yourself and do not try to have sex again until you find out what is going on with you to cause the impotence. No point in setting yourself up to feel inadequate again.
You can just be honest with the girl you really like and tell her you are not ready to have sex until you find out what's causing the impotence.
If she drops you for that then she wasn't worth it.
If the doctor finds nothing wrong physiologically then it sounds like a physchological issue.
At that point I would go talk to a counselor or therapist.
2006-06-14 07:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by KathyL 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most of us guys, young and old, have had that problem once or more in our lives. Personally it's happened to me several times over the years. Nervousness can certainly be a major factor. You don't want to worry too much about it because that may just may make it happen again (due to nervousness). You aren't using drugs or consuming excess alcohol, right? Hopefully the lady is understanding and will help you get over it. It's certainly something that doesn't call for ridicule from our partners although it may help if we sort of joke about it to her ourselves. Lots of foreplay should help....some nice oral sex from her may be all it takes! If you are under 50 you really shouldn't need Viagra but that could help in the short term. I'm assuming you can get erections otherwise...while masturbating and looking at porn for instance. Lastly erectile dysfunction can be a symptom of several things so if it continues you should see a doctor. Like I say, it's happened to almost all of us so you're definitely not alone! Good luck!
2006-06-14 14:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by doctor feelgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are getting a lot of help, but one thing you may want to try ---- either go out and buy or just practice at home....a cockring. Hold your fingers at the base and apply pressure....the ring does the same thing but allows you to do "other things". The added pressure will help keep the blood flow blocked and will help on all levels.
Don't worry about it - that is the other half of your problem! Nerves can stop you before you start - relax and enjoy. That's what it is all about anyway!
2006-06-14 15:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is for you to take a deep breath and relax! Stress is a really big cause of not being able to perform. Also if you drink alcohol or smoke, it could cause erectile problems. Last but not least, if it doesn't work out for you tomorrow night, just be honest. If this girl is really into you, then she'll understand.
2006-06-14 14:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, think if you are really sexually stimulated with the girl. If you are, then what you just wrote is a probable sign of an erectile dysfunction. To cure it for tomorrow night, use Viagra before intercourse.
2006-06-14 14:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to see a doctor, just go to the market and pick up like 1 lb. of rosemary, if you eat enough of it it will act BETTER then viagra!! try it, I hope you have a nice night tomorrow!
2006-06-14 14:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the doctor. and also alot of young people do get eretile disfunction. this mostly happen because of stress and work load is to heavy try taking it easy these two days relax.
and like i said go to the doctor he just might give you a sample of a male erectile enhancment drug the best type of doctor to go to is a family practice doctor they usually have all those samples
2006-06-14 14:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your doctor definitely. Do you masturbate often? Ever? If so, definitely stop. You could try to masturbate without reaching climax to help tease yourself into performing better too, but definitely see a doctor.
2006-06-14 14:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try watchin some porn get yourself all ready before she gets there if that don't work your either gay or need a docter also if your on drugs try not doing any drugs like coke and ex can sometimes cause erectile disfunction
2006-06-14 14:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by don'treallyknowshit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you are too anixous...take it slow & go with the flow
have some nice mood music, dim the lights, have some candles lit, a bit of wine, not too much.. & see what happens from there
good luck dude
2006-06-14 15:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by muffett1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋