2006-06-14 06:55:49 · 28 answers · asked by taylor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everyone is suggesting Communication and just tell him... BUT I have a feeling there is a good reason why you don't want to come right out and tell him.
I think your afraid of what his answer will be... or his reason why he isn't paying you enough attention... and hon, I hear that!
So here is a suggestion... do it any way you want use whatever names or situations work best for your story...
Tell him a story about your co-worker mary who is going through a hard time and she came to you for advice but you are lost because your not a guy.... Then tell him Mary's problem, but change enough of it so that he won't catch on. Explain how Mary has been married to Ed for X amount of years and that he just doesn't pay her much attention and she doesn't know what to do... She doesn't know if her relationship is over, or if she should cheat, or whatever, she just doesn't know how to get more attention from him...
Then you can ask him... if he has any advice as to how she can get her man to pay more attention...
Now normally I don't condone lying etc... but this may help you find out why its happening and or how to fix it without having to come right out and say it.
Be careful tho... keep your story simple...
Tawny
2006-06-14 07:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tawny Amber 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well I have the same problem myself. And let me tell you that you can try telling him face to face that you need more attention from him. If that doesn't work; maybe just maybe one of these days he will see a man actually giving you some attention and realize that oops I'd better get off my *** and do something before I lose the one thing that keeps me going every day. Good luck!
2006-06-14 13:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by sis71646 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Men like clear communication without games. If something is bothering a woman, and we ask, and they respond with "Everything is fine"; guess what? We assume that everything is fine.
We don't second guess or analyze responses. We accept you at your word. If you want more attention, say so in a non-threatening manner. In other words, don't attack your husband by starting off with "I'm sick and tired..."
Say, "I need to talk to you. Lately I feel that you haven't been giving me the attention that I really need. I love it so much when you and I spend time together and I know that you are doing this deliberately. But I want you to know this, from me, before it gets to a point where it really starts to hurt me." Something like that, and go from there.
Men actually like it when women are direct and tell them what women actually need.
2006-06-14 14:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by BackpackerTD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an ex-hubby where this was an issue - simply do it in a FUN way - joke about it, buy silly things, etc. But don't (yet) turn it into a big issue.
Yet.
2006-06-14 13:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by weary_banker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit screwing around. Just tell him. part of the divorce problem in this country is people who can't communicate with one another. part of being a perfect couple is being able to communicate your likes and dislikes to your spouse.
My wife never had any trouble letting me know her opinion. Although I wish she'd shut up every so often but hell....ain't that what marriage is all about?
2006-06-14 13:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with him doing things that he likes to do... Wink and flirt wtih him and turn on the charm! Spice things up in the bedroom. Hints are much better then tellling lol. Hope this helps some.
2006-06-14 14:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of attention? What do you need? Why can't you tell him? Why don't you just get what you need. Like if you need physical affection, just snuggle up with him. If you need him to talk to you, make plans for a secluded date night. Be proactive here, and definitely appreciate what he is giving you that you might be taking for granted. Good luck.
2006-06-14 14:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mariah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him.I am a woman that understands about needing your hubbies att.But in all fairness he cant read your mind.And lets face it ladies they dont do will with clues or hints.
2006-06-14 13:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by sherrie_1994 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been there and still am there. i've talk and talk to him about wanting more att but men are so thick its a waste of time. just start ignoring him and he'll come running.
2006-06-14 14:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by nea_11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Just tell him. He is your husband. He may need more thigns from you also. Communication is key in marriage! Or any other relationship for that matter.
2006-06-14 13:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by betterlife_travel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋