i dont know what to do i am just so worried about one of my
friends. They asked for my opinions on a situation in there life and I gave it to them. now that I think about what I told them I think that I may have been to harsh. I always believe that if you really care for someone then you tell them the truth not what they want to here, but could I have done the wrong thing by telling them the harsh truth?
2006-06-14 06:49:31 · 9 answers · asked by cup cake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have to be blunt sometimes to get your point across. If they didnt want to know your oppinion they wouldnt of asked. Your ok they will get over it and probably find out that even though you were blunt you were right. Dont worry.
2006-06-14 06:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by mini_may04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Check on your friend. See if you can get a reading to how she is handling the advice you gave her. If you sense some cold vibes, then try and explain. Let her know your intentions where never to hurt her. You really wanted to help. Sometimes, people can't handle "truths". Although the truth is always the best route to take. Sometime we have to sugar coat the truth which includes not telling it exactly like it is. Advice at times, is more damaging than the actual problem. But I am not saying to quit giving advice. Just remember in the future, when someone asks for your opinion watch their face carefully, or if not in person, the tone of their voice. This will tell you how they are handling what you are telling them. We never want to add to others problems, so always find something positive to say regardless of what the situation is.
2006-06-14 14:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong for telling them the harsh truth. I have have lost friends because of telling them the harsh truth and i noticed that if they cant take it from me, then they cant take it from somebody wo has already been through their situations. As i told them, if you cant take my brutal honesty then you needs to go to someone who will lie to you. But the thing is, they will find out down the line that your harsh truth, was actually right. Thats why i really dont care if they get mad at me when i give people advice.
2006-06-14 13:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By telling your friend the "harsh" truth, has it effected your friend in a negative way? If so, tell him/her that you didnt mean to be so harsh, but you thought it was the best to tell them the complete truth and you didnt want to lie to them. You can't go back to what you said, so just let that be. If they are upset, try to comfort him/her. Tell them that it is okay, that things will get better.
2006-06-14 13:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sometimes some people NEED to here the truth!You should always tell your friends the truth,good or bad hun. I'm sure that the person will thank you in the end.
2006-06-14 13:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is a concern for you, perhaps you should get back to your friend and ASK if you upset them. The response should ease your mind one way or another....Because at least you'll know, and will allow you to offer an explanation as you did here, and in addition.... to cease worrying about it.
2006-06-14 14:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a true friends tell it all and if the truth hurts well sorry, at least after the pain is gone then she will at least know that you want lie to her.
2006-06-14 13:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
f em . if he doesn't want the truth tell em to go talk to someone else. HE CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH
2006-06-14 13:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sid w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your conscience and do not worry be happy !!
2006-06-14 13:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by bbl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋