My boyfriend and I have 2 kids, I'm 23 he is 29. He is never home, he always leaves me with the kids and his kid on the weekends (who is really bad). It's like he is not ready to give up his life for us or something. Before we used to love each other, now he doesnt even act like he likes me, it is breaking my heart, I am so sad. I don't think he is cheating on me, because he has ED, which also really sucks. We never kiss, hug, talk or even touch each other anymore. He comes home from work, the phone rings and he leaves, by the time he gets home at like 10:30, I'm already sleeping. He doesnt care that he never spends time with my and the kids, I'm just dying inside, can anyone give me some advice? Thanks
2006-06-14 06:46:44 · 17 answers · asked by fluff_ball 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Find out at what point in your relation he started changing. Also see if you can find what you changed in your life at about that time. (Jobs, behaviour, friends, lifestyle, interests etc.) Find out too which of these he changed at that point. You could get impotant clues on how to get him to talk, and perhaps get back to where he veered off the track you two walked.
2006-06-14 06:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should pack his bags and tell him he can go back home to his mom if all he is looking for is someone to take care of his home. I'm sure you do all his laundry, cook, clean the house and take care of his children. He cant even get it up to satisfy you and still treats you this way. You deserve better but will never find it as long as your wasting your time with him. If he's not willing to change this behavior then its time to break up.
2006-06-14 06:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the spice is gone. and if you are noticing it so has he. the bad thing is .... someone needs to do something soon or there will be a breakup, devorce, all that lone alone lonly stuff. and if you will miss him is what you need to ask yourself. can you see your self wiht out him. can you see him with another girl???
well if you love him remind yourself and him what made yall fall inlove befor. put some spice back.... do something with your hair, get a babysitter and dress up and go out just the two of you and make out.... in the car..... yeaaaaaa. have some fun! unless you dont want this to work, then just lay back and watch it crumble to nothing!
2006-06-14 06:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd set him down to have a heart to heart talk and see what's wrong. Because communication is the most important thing in a realtionship. If you can't talk...then you don't have much of a relationship. You need to talk and work whatever needs to be worked out if you both still want to have a realationship. Tell him you really need to talk to him and ask him if he could make the time to talk to you. Just sit and talk...it doesn't matter how long it takes...just talk.
2006-06-14 06:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u sound very sad i went through the same **** for 8 years and 4 kids i learned the hard way and he was cheating.. the only thing u need to know is do u wanna spend the rest of your life sad and alone?? i hope u make a right desecion for u and your kids good luck diana
2006-06-14 06:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Diana K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend about your concerns. Listen to what he says without interuption, and make sure he does the same for you. Then, if you can't find a solution, then it seems to me that the relationship is over, no matter how many kids you have. It's time to think about your needs.
2006-06-14 06:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you have a kid if he has ED? He's only 29 and has ED? Maybe he only has ED w/ you? Me thinks you beein' played, sista!
How 'bout gettin a babysitter 2 watch da kids??? What a concept!!!
2006-06-14 06:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by doped999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your not married, move on and find someone that will treat you right. Right now you are the maid, babysitter, and cook for him and that's it. If that's what you want to be for the rest of your life and still not have sex, then you can keep it because nobody else wants it.
2006-06-14 06:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is cheating you would get certain signs so you can look for those or if you are just tired and can make it on your own give him an ultimatum and tell him how you feel and that you want it fixed. definately clue him in. he could just be stressed and not noticed or he could careless you need to find out which one.
2006-06-14 06:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by tn_wolf_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are suffering for an emotional tear in your heart. there is something that your husband doesnt understand. he doesnt understand that you are hurting because he is always so busy, and he doesnt have time for you. you need to comfront him and let him know how you feel. even if it means you have to stay up and wait for him to get home. pour out your heart to him and let him know that you are hurting.
2006-06-14 06:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by ~*()*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋