okay, so i have a little brother and his best friend has an older brother who is only a year older than me. i barely even know him, but i just can't stop thinking about him. our families get a long very well and all but i just never seem to pluck up the courage to talk to him. i don't know what to do about it all because i want to get to know him but i don't know how. i do know, hwever, that he and i both have some thingd in common so yeah. you'r proabaly just thinking about how much of a freak i am. i have a crush on a guy i know nothing about and i don't even know how to talk to him. uurrrgggh! i just wish that it could all be straightened out! do any of you people out there have any suggestions?
2006-06-14 06:43:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Have you even indicated to this person, that you like him? Also depends on the age of you both. Some people are ok in their own skin, and some are not. So throw caution to the wind and ask him something.......ANYTHING, to get a response. One question will lead to another...and another...and another. You wont even realize that you're actually talking to each other.
Be very brave. It wont hurt a bit! :)
2006-06-14 06:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Posie, I don't know how old you are so this is going to be a general answer. In your life, you will be "instantly attracted" to any number of guys - God's geared you that way and if you don't believe in God, then just plain old human wiring will suffice. In order for us to learn what kind of guy and/or husband we will want when we're adults, we need to experience time with different guys to find out what we like in a relationship, what we will not tolerate in a relationship, what we're all about. Don't be too heavy on "one guy" because he looks good; if things work out, great - if not, think of it as a learning experience in educating yourself on what will work better next time.
So, is there an activity maybe that your younger siblings could participate in that would require a bit of supervision? It would be a safe way for the two of you to hang out with some distraction so things don't seem so serious. Maybe you could get some other friends together and just have some fun time doing something together so you two can get to know each other more. Are you into any volunteer projects that you could invite him along on? Even if it's not his thing, if it's you he would like to get to know, he'll go with you once which will show true strength of his character also.
And just remember, be friends - you'll have plenty of time for the other stuff later!
2006-06-14 06:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by csrrepv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one thing dont keep calling urself a freak!! just one day when u 2 r together say hi and just try to get to know him better. as you start to become closer friends just keep doing that until u get the guts to ask him out i know how tough it is im going through the same thing right now and if u need any more help i asked a question almost exactly like this so search for the question "Why cant i get a boyfriend" i had some really good responses from that. although the first couple are kinda dumb!!!! i hope you get the courage to talk to him!!! good luck!!!!
2006-06-14 06:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a freak. You just might think you are because you like your brother's friend. If you really like this guy then i think you should try to get to know him a little bit more. If he turns out to be a nice guy then you should try to hang out with him more. If you realize that he's not as great as you thought then maybe you can find someone a little bit better for you. If you like someone then there is nothing you can do about it.
Good Luck
2006-06-14 06:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by l l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a freak, sounds like you might have a crush on this guy. It's perfectly normal to be attracted to someone you know nothing about. Just bring up a conversation next time your around him , ask him what he's been up to. You do have something in common you both have a little brother, start from there.
2006-06-14 06:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, You're not a freak but maybe when your little brother goes over to his friends house then come with him and see if his brother is there, say something about the thing you have in common. like maybe 'I love my new ______ CD I love the song_____' or something that you can just blurt out. Hope that you never turn in to a freak and that you talk to this guy.
And ignore the 'odd' answers like that will help you.
2006-06-15 08:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your families ever meet up sometime for dinner or something, try making small talk with him. if you approach him first, it won't be awkward for him to try to talk to you later on, or vice versa. i remember when i was a new sudent in middle school, these kids from school would come up to me and say hi and make small talk, like how boring the english teacher is, etc. their gestures of kindness and friendliness made me feel kind of obliged to be friendly towards them, too. just try making small talk, everything will go smoothly from there.
2006-06-14 07:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by swimgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you see him try to have a private conversation with him. Tell him that you have feelings for him.And if he starts to look all shy then you would know that he likes you too!
2006-06-14 06:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like him, you should try to go somewhere with him. like meet a t a park, or get together and go to the movies, do something with him, and spend time with him. not too much time, but dedicate yourself to him, and when you go out with him the first time, let him know how much you like him, and go from there.
2006-06-14 06:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by ~*()*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're no freak.These things occur.Try to talk to him or try to go places with him.That will surely help
Good luck.
2006-06-14 06:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋