I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! I am in love with a very close family friend but do not know if she feels the same way. I have not told any one I like her and in fact have been saying the exact opposite. My good friend makes fun of her and i am affraid of the consequences if it dosnt work out. It will make our relationship aquward. These signs i have noticed from her, She lets me play with her hair, lays on my lap, uncrosses her legs pointing toward me(she ussually has then crossed and she only opens them when its me and her), last weekend on a boat with just me and her in it she was laying down to tan and undid her top(this may sound harmless but she is a very devout church of christ and i have never seen her do something like this, her parents were furious), grabs my arm durning "scary movies," and on occasion i catch her staring. Recently she asked me if i would take her to a movie and if a like liked her. Of course i was being an idot and said no i dont, she replied that it was good because we are like brother and sister. I dont know if she said that to blow it off or she really ment it. HELP!!!
2006-06-14 06:37:27 · 12 answers · asked by Will b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would tend to assume from her behavior that she likes you A LOT. However, it is not impossible for this sort of behavior to be a brother-sister thing, particularly if one or both of the parties is gay (or one party thinks the other is gay).
I think you two need to have a frank talk. Before you do that, be very sure what you want from this relationship. Are you ready for a serious, permanent relationship?
As far as she herself is concerned, keep in mind that if she is a very devout Christian, she will most probably want to keep things platonic (at least overtly) at least until engagement, if not until marriage. So for God's sake, DO NOT try to be even minutely non-platonic with her unless you have plainly stated your intent to marry her.
Again, basically the only way (at least the only decent way) you're going to find out what's going on is to ask. Yes, think about the matters I mention above, but once you've done that, I suggest you have the serious talk with her ASAP.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your path straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
May He bless you.
2006-06-14 07:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she likes you a lot. Both of you are still young. There is plenty of time to fall in love. Maybe someday soon when just the two of you are sitting together; tell her you like being with her and you want to take her to a movie. Do this with a straight face so she won't think you are kidding. If she brushes it off get up and say "I deserved that" and walk away. I believe she will come running after you.
2006-06-14 06:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I have learned from all of my past years and my nieces/nephews growing up is that it is always best to be honest first. If you truely think that you feel something besides friendship with her then it is best to be honest with yourself first. Then ask around to some of the yours/her friends and see what they think. See if they think she feels anything different than friendship. Then you can tell her that you need to have a serious conversation with her and then tell her the feelings that you have about her. If she is any type of woman then she won't laugh. She will look at this seriously.
I hope all works well. Good luck!
2006-06-14 06:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by sis71646 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she really likes you, or she's the biggest tease on earth.
Why not call her bluff one of these times when she OBVIOUSLY comes on to you. Sorry to burst your bubble, but her actions scream much louder than her words. In that her actions, do NOTspeak of a brother and sister relationship.
2006-06-14 06:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what do you want to do? Do you want to go on playing this game? She has given you sooooo many strong hints. She is hot for you and waiting for you to make the next move.
2006-06-14 07:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. U like her and she like you. In the end, your family or your friend won't have anything to say. It's you and her. Not you, her, and the rest of the world.
2006-06-14 06:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by ~*LilDebbie=BigDeborah*~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she likes u from what u explained u should just tell her the truth on how u feel before she finds someone else......u will never forgive yourself if u don't open up now
2006-06-14 07:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by mrs. MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said it to keep from looking like an idiot. Yes she likes you. And if you like her dont worry about what other people say.
2006-06-14 06:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that she does likes you and you saying no, made her say that she thought of you like a brother. If you knew you liked her, why didnt you say YES!!!!!!!!
2006-06-14 06:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is interested in you , so ask her out and see were it leads , she is sending you signs that she like you
2006-06-14 06:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋