i cheated on my g-f, who had just given birth to my first child...?

Question

we had probles, fithing every day, i met a girl at work, my girl left for a month to her moms house out of state, so i started seeing the new girl,(who also had a live-in b-f and a couple of kids) well my girl found out..and left me,, i went over to meet her and apologize and asked for a 2d chance..she took me back, but i feel like she dont love me any more..I left my job and moved out of state with her, Why cant she forgive me? She gets mad when I look at other girls, i dont mean to.. it just happens...What can i do to make things go back to normal??

Answer 1

Wow this is a hard one, First you cant expect her to forgive you right away.
She's probably still hurt at the thought of you cheating. I mean she just had a baby. She's probably got a lot of things going through her head. Its good that you want to make an effort to get back together. I think you have to work harder on that eye-balling other girl thing you got going on. You wouldn't like It if she was checking out other guys. Put yourself in her place. Would you accept her if she cheated on you. Just give it some time and try to assure her that you want her and only her. If you really want this to work out, you gotta really work to keep your relationship. You love her don't you. Be a man and get your Sh*t together. Remember you're the one that messed up, you got to make her feel like you really want to work it out.

Answer 2

What you did can be looked at in two ways. The first would be from the girls point of view (which I know how she feels because my sons father did the same thing to me after I had our son). She was already in a vulnerable state because her emotions were running high after giving birth. That was really bad and really hurtful. On the other hand you can look at it form a guy's point of view. If you were truly confused and didn't know if she was coming back, then I guess you could use that as your excuse. What you should have done was ask her if the relationship was over before you went out and hooked up. Normal in you relationship will take along time, but you need to let her know that she needs to let the past go because she accepted your discrepancy when she took you back. So now it's time to move forward.

Answer 3

SHAME ON YOU. Fighting and problems are just your lame excuse. They are never, ever a reason to cheat. There is NO reason to cheat. Shame on the mistress too, because she was in a relationship. Your g/f took you back, now you will just have to suck it up and wait for her to come around. She must be an exceptional girl to even try to forgive your betrayal. You need to understand that YOU are the one that screwed up. Not only did you have sex with another woman, what hurts the most is that you completely destroyed g/f's trust and buddy, let me tell you, that takes a very, very long time to heal...so cowboy up and let her know that you are in for the long haul now. Of course she gets mad when you look at other girls, YOU CHEATED ON HER!! Dolt! Smell that? It ain't the coffee, friend, that's the bitter smell of a broken heart. Now, DON'T, don't, don't look at other girls, at least in her presence (it's not something you can help but don't do it when she's around) and DON'T cheat on her again. Things will never be like they were before, but if you are a faithful, loving partner they will get better and you will come to appreciate the trust that has been hard won (and for her, harder given). Oh, and for crying out loud, SAY YOU'RE SORRY!! (once is NOT enough either)

Answer 4

Pretty plain and simple.
Its all about trust. You destroyed that trust. Now you have to lie in the bed you made.
If you've cheated, then I would say that you have some serious growing up to do. Don't get mad at that statement. Its just honest advice. You need to figure out what it is that you want exactly, and not jerk the mother of your child around, because its cruel. Nobody needs that in their life.
If you both really want to stay in this relationship, you should get some couples counseling, because you have a lot to work out, and having a mediator might help. You are lucky that she gave you a second chance, don't blow it. Take the initiative, see if she's willing to go to therapy together with you, and make some calls to couselors.
Someday, she might trust you again, but it might never happen. Good luck, because you have a difficult road ahead.

Answer 5

You cheated on her that's why! You broke her trust and hurt her! She is still hurting every time you look at another woman and why would you look at another woman you have yours! you have to earn your way to get things back to normal it will take time long time!!! Your lucky that she even took you back if i were her no way!! Your a father now you need to be more responsible and be a good father figure! Your kids and girlfriend should come first and be more important than anyone now!! Try to work things out and you have no right to be mad with your girlfriend even when she gets angry with you for what you did!! Its hard to get over what you did!! Give her some time too!

Answer 6

Nothing is ever going to be back to normal. You have to try your hardest to stop looking at other girls where you were the one who cheated. That won't help gain her trust back. You are going to have to work very hard to get that back, moving out there was a good first step. I think you two should sit down and hash things out and find out if she's ever going to be able to forgive you cuz if she can't get past the cheating it's best for you and your children for the both of you to move on

Answer 7

You have to realize that it takes years to build up trust, but only one accusation to tear that trust down.
Of course she's hurting, of course she doesn't trust you, you cheated on her!!! Hello, and right around the time you two had your first baby???!! You are lucky she even took you back, and now if you want this to work with her, you have to start building trust back up with her, and kissing her azz, every day.
You have to assure her, EVERY DAY, that she is the one you want, and no one else. If you can't do the time, don't commit the crime. Now you have to live with your actions. Make sure you take full responsibility for cheating, and give her time and space when she needs it....and NEVER tell her to get over it.
My husband cheated on me a year and a half ago, and even though we are still together, I still don't fully trust him. It took months of him not even going out with his friends anywhere and definately not going to the strip club for me to be able to feel comfortable with him going out without me. Even to this day, I don't say anything to him about it, but it hurts so much, and then seeing him look at other women just makes me wonder and doubt if he's going to do it again.

Answer 8

well first of all, you cheated on her, of course she is going to be upset with you and in the back of her mind, she is feeling like she is nothing to you, even though you asked for forgiveness. but she is thinking that if you love her so much, it would have never happened in the first place. the reason why she is upset when you look at other girls and such is because she is insecure now and is afraid that you are going to cheat on her once again. very big mistake on your part buddy. just a warning, you will be dealing with this alot, and there is no way she would be comfortable again with you to be trusting other females because you have made a mistake once.

Answer 9

she just gave you life how can you cheat all the pain she went threw wow she will trust you someday but give her time she just had baby so shes dealing with weight gain probably and dealing with a newborn and you cheating and you still look at other when your with her stop that when your alone ok but out with your family dont disrespect show love and you go and cheat with some dummy that has a man and kids i hope you bagged up if not go get a check up help out as much with the baby give her a break on saturday let her go out and do some pampering for yourself and you watch the baby get up with the baby at night feed the baby change the baby help as much as you can with the baby and a good massage would help from head to toe

Answer 10

yeah right.... listen my boyfriend cheated on me too and I gave him a second chance. It's really hard, the thought that you might do it again hurts her. You need to show her that you are for real. And that you love her. Give her all the attention she wants.. Compliment her, she probably feels like crap knowing that you look at other girls and not her. I know exactly what she's feeling and it's not easy. If you love her than prove it to her...it's not the words you use it's your actions.