He says he loves me too and is prepared to leave his wife for me, but I don't want to break up his family as he has got a 7 year old child and I feel sorry for him because I live in England and he lives in Germany and that means if he is coming to me he wont be able to see his child anymore for a long while, he says he could cope with it but how can a father leave a son like that? Is he being selfish? And what shall I do to make him see the consequences of our affair?
2006-06-14 06:09:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wake up! If this man is willing to leave his child, what happens when you have a child with him? Anwser: He is going to be willing to leave you and your child for someone else. If he is cheating on his wife with you then he's going to cheat on you with someone else. Once a cheater always a cheater. Aren't you worth more then that ???Tell this guy to get lost and move on. It will be hard at first but you will find someone without the burden who will love you just the same if not better. Do not break up a home. You will live with the guilt of effecting a 7 year olds life if you do. Forget about consequences and drop this main like a hot potatoe
2006-06-14 06:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by rstar7606457 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
In love with a married man that says he going to leave his wife and child because he love you. I think you really need to reevaluate this situation, because until the papers are signed you are “the women on the side.” He has more to lose by leaving his family than by being with you, a fact that he has more than likely played over and over in his head, and something you might want to think about. You may also want to think about the fact that he is CHEATING on his wife with you. What make you think you can hold on to him when the next best thing comes along? You are being played he is NOT going to leave his wife and move that fare away form his child. You are living a in a dream with the dream master pulling all the strings. Stop being his puppet, there are to many men out there to try and get someone else’s.
2006-06-14 06:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ray-Ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would walk away and break it off with him if it were me and this is why. You dont want to be a home wrecker and the "other woman" Yes he is being very selfish ..... and so are you at this point. GET OUT NOW!!!! Consequences include divorce and pain on his current marriage and wife and family and trust me it is not worth it and you would feel awful guilty for doing this to him and his family as well!
2006-06-14 06:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't want him to leave his family but in my opinion someone has to leave and it may be you that has to leave him. If you love him and you can see that he would be better off with his family then that's what you should do for him.
Another thing I would like to point out is that if you love him then the natural progression of things would be to maybe marry him someday, have a family of your own... what if he did the same thing to you (the affair thing). I understand that you may feel you are in love with him but really he is not someone you should waste your love in... There's plenty of single guys everywhere... get one of those.
2006-06-14 06:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by crazy_monkey_jr010 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing with a married man?
And he even has a kid!!!
What kind of selfish self centered person are you to break up a family!
You should have broke it off with him the moment you found out he was married!!!
2006-06-14 06:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by MissShorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM ALONE....... if he says he's ging to leave his wife for you, chances are he'll end up leaving you for someone else in the long run. And any man that leaves his family behind, isnt a man at all!!!!! I wouldnt even give him the time of day!!!!!! leave him a lond and let him work out his opwn issues with his wife!!
2006-06-14 06:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break it off, do you honestly think your life is going to be blessed if you continue on living like this??? its wrong and you are wrong for even thinking that it would be okay for him to leave his daughter. he will eventually grow to resent you and what about his daughter? do you know how hurt and crushed she will be? it will damage her for the rest of her life. let go! dont be a home wrecker. could you forgive yourself for damaging an entire family? its not worth it. pick someone who isn't married. besides he'll just do the same to you
2006-06-14 06:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon!!! Quit stalking the married guys, there must be plenty of single fellas in England. What you're doing is WRONG!
2006-06-14 07:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by anthrogirl26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I doubt he'd really leave, he's just trying to make sure he can string you along. You're falling for his tricks.... don't allow him to fool you. Get out of this relationship now! For your own good and the good of his poor family.
2006-06-14 06:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about his feelings.. How about you. Are you going to be able to deal with the fact that you broke up a marriage?? And not blame yourself..
2006-06-14 06:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋