MY boyfriend is ace. we have a really good relationship and we love each other to pieces, wer engaged too. In our realtionship though iv had to make sacrifices - hes encouraged me to stop talking to an ex of mine, and gets down when i go out with my male mates. Iv never asked him to stop doing anything. Today in college he left his phone in my bag so i had a nosey (of course!) and hes been texting this girl who hes mates with, about me. saying all stuff which is private like arguments we'v had and stuff. Also one msg off him saying hes been thinking about how it would have turned out if they got together ages ago. should i pay him bak by talking to my ex again openly? i still do on the sly. i just dunno what to do?! i dont wanna split with him cos thats just a plain stupid idea! please help!
2006-06-14 06:04:54 · 6 answers · asked by zoe b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i told him like you said. and he went mad at me saying i shouldnt have read the messages and that it had f*k all to do with me. so im in an even worse situation. cheers
2006-06-14 09:37:22 · update #1
i think you are better off with the direct approach and admit you saw what was on the phone. be honest and tell him how it felt to see that.
2006-06-14 06:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by smiths j 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't try to get back at him! That would totally stupid. What you SHOULD do is confront him. Besides, even though he's divulging private information with this girl, she's not an Ex, so it really isn't quite the same.
If you're feeling under-appreciated and underprivileged, you should just do something about it...like open your mouth and TELL him how you feel, rather than letting this discontent fester.
2006-06-14 13:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need to grow up and realize that you each had realtionships before the one your in now.
You should not get married until your over your old relationships.
If your in college, then you obviuosly are not mature enough to get married. There is nobody that I have ever met that is mature enough for marraige to last that is less than 26 years old.
You each need to get to know each other more.
FInish school. Get a good job. Save up some money. Then get married.
Get your priorities straight.
2006-06-14 13:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's having regrets about getting together with you, you probably should be with him. If he can't appreciate you enough, and make you abandon your friends, he isn't worth it. It's okay for him to get jealous that you are hanging with other guys, but it isn't right for him to ask you to stop talking to your ex. Just because you're on speaking terms doesn't mean you want him back. You should explain this to your boyfriend, instead of trying to get back at him. If he can't except it, leave him. That's about all I can say, as harsh as it may sound.
2006-06-14 13:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both talking to your ex's neither of you are fully commited to each other. So just be honest and if you can't deal with each others emotions about it and you don't want to change then you will get a large explosive ending! Good luck.
2006-06-14 13:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mariah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u know he talks to his mate about the two of u and u dont really like the idea, dont pay him back, be the good person.
2006-06-14 13:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by SeXyBaBe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋