When i ask people on here for advice about my family comunication problem, 75% of you tell me to talk to them. Well what if you try but evrything you say they find something wrong with it and make you get into a bigger fight and feeling like ****. who do you turn to when you have no family,no friends(true friends), A BOYFRIEND, i keep wondering how the heck im still alive a normal 16 yr. old might of killed her self. yet i just hope it gets better. P.S. im afraid to go to a counsalor, or pschychatrist, the only thing i do is write disterbing notes to myself in a diary, but i read thats what your supposed to do right????
2006-06-14 05:51:28 · 7 answers · asked by gothicangelalways 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well this is one of the biggest problems of todays society families, parents not really listening to there children. Most parents think they know whats best, by not doing or letting be done. Cause of the way they grew up. Called" Lead by Life", but in all actuallity is they are wrong, confused losted, and only trying to understand their own life and where did they go wrong. Most parents mean well, all you need to do is give them time. Plus keep trying to open up as much as possible to anyone.
2006-06-14 05:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by blanco 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're going through because I feel the same way. I thought I was the only 17 year old to have very hurtful family problems. I want you to listen to me when I say this, "No one can make you happy, like you". You can through life feeling down and miserable but that's only if you let yourself. People hate to see you doing good and being happy, thats what you need to do. Prove your family wrong and everything they say that you can't do or accomplish show them that you are going to get through it. I know you probably think that I'm just saying this or its not that easy, but please believe me I went through some very horrible things even two miscarraiges and I'm still here. I'm also graduating high school next week. My family told me that I wouldn't amount to anything that I would be living on the streets and I wouldn't make it out of high school. My own family. Now look at me. Your family is gonna need you one day, just watch. And then it'll be up to you whether you want to help them out or not. Good luck!!!
2006-06-14 13:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It;s hard for most people to help with communication issues. They told you you to talk to them, but how. I was beaten every time I talked as a child and now people tell I need to speak up- How do you. I find it a little easier to write letters to people than to actually tell them how I feel because I would not be in direct contact with them. I fear that when I confront people in person that I will be hit for speaking. What you need is someone to talk to--I have just started reaching out to people and yes it is very scary --believe me I was trembling the first time I spoke to my family about some of my issues, but it also needs to be done. It is a long road to travel especially when you feel that no one is there for you and you have started the process believe it or not by writting about it in your journal- I only started that process in 1994(born 78) My prayers are with you to keep strong and hope that you will see what your future holds for you.
2006-06-14 13:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by BB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, stop being afraid and go to a psychiatrist or counselor. The problem is you are letting people walk over you and treat you like crap and you will continue to let people do this to you and you'll never be happy unless you change yourself or get help doing that.
2006-06-14 12:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all had it tough at one time or another. It's just that with such tender issues,you may want to speak or confide in someone(s) that you know rather then a room full of strangers/youngsters. You have to get out to make friends...you have to ask to recieve...you have to get it together and ask your counsellors or a clinic for help.
You say at 16 you have no one...but everyone has someone ...you just have to look :)
2006-06-14 12:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure that i understand your question...except for the fact that you are not communicating very well with your family members...are you sarcastic? i have the same problem sometimes...everything i say comes out all wrong and things seem to escalate from there...don't feel so down...things will work out...good luck
2006-06-14 12:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by countrygirlcansurvive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes find that when I con't communicate with my folks face to face, writing things down on paper can be helpful. It helps to avoid confrontation you speak about.
2006-06-14 12:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by Wild seed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋