my social worker is determined to do every thing in her power to get me adopted, knowing that i do not want to be adopted, so know shes forcing me to go 3 weeks (to stay with the adopted family), expecting me to change my mind. She also says staying in foster care is not a option, is this right? Can't i make my own descisions, now that i am 15, is it right for her to try to force me to go down to live with people i know i dont want to live with?
2006-06-14 05:40:24 · 21 answers · asked by beth52001 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
And she knows that out of all the homes i've been in i like this home the best, and i plan on staying there until i'm 18
2006-06-15 05:17:30 · update #1
YEs, you can't you don't gain full self management rights unitl your 18.
2006-06-14 05:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by tsx000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly feel sorry for you but why not give it a try. There is always that possibility that you might love the family who will be taking you in. I have never been adopted but would certainly not refuse someone who would be willing to feed, clothe and give me a roof over my head and a real chance to have a decent life. We can't always have what we want and you better believe that what you get on your own feels a heck of a lot better then if you steal it. I was only 2 years older then what you are now when I entered the REAL world and thanked "God" I made all the right choices in life.... and on my own, but I never realized how much I loved my parents until after they were gone. So you see, I came from a poor family who had a heck of a time making ends meet which was a heck of a lot harder then the situation you are in. If, what I think is correct, you live with a family to see if you are compatible before your adopted and will have a chance to leave at any time you don't feel that family is not right for you. Try it, you might like it.
Don't listen to guys like Johnny M... this type of individual thinks he owns the world and he doesn't... his ideas will not give you the right chance in life... one that you deserve, not one you will regret.
2006-06-14 12:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by AL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right to decide in most countries is eighteen years,why dont you want to live with a family, instead of foster care cause if you do not have parents or legal guardian, it is best to stay with an adopted family,iam sure your social worker has looked into the back ground of the foster parents before putting you there, if you rebel now and say you dont want to go to those kind people you are hurting them before knowing them, why dont you give it a try, its better than a remand home, and remember eighteen is really not that far off, and may be your foster parents will give you a good start to make it on your own
2006-06-14 12:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by cluelesskat maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I dont know if they can force you. You are still considered a minor and the State has the responsibility to look after your well being. Wouldnt you like to have a family to have Holidays with and people that really care about you as a person? Give it a try. If you hate the family you only have 3 years before your 18 and then you can do what you want. But, I bet you'll really get close with them, if you give it a chance and try to be open minded. Actually you should consider yourself lucky there are alot of kids trying to get out the system and get adopted, take advantage of this. Good Luck Sweetie,
2006-06-14 12:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by skipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. What a tough spot to be in. Try visiting with the family. If you're adopted, consider it a blessing. There will be a day when you will be glad to have a family. Think about when you want to go to college and when you're 25, getting married and having kids of your own. You will be glad to have a family that you can count on. A family is a great thing, I'm sure its scary meeting new people and the thought of a completely new life but think of all the possibilities that may arise from this. Good Luck!
2006-06-14 12:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by sher2981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Beth. I'm sorry you are in this difficult situation. Have you met the family that wants to adopt you? Maybe you could go for the three weeks and then if at the end you still don't want to be adopted by them just tell them that you don't want to be adopted. I am an adoptive mother myself and can say honestly that I would not have wanted to adopt anyone who told me they did not want me to adopt them.
Also are the people you are staying with now OK with you continuing to stay with them? If so, maybe they could talk to your social worker about you staying.
Best wishes and God Bless.
2006-06-18 16:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by cstoa10 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being 15 I'd figure you are old enough to know who you want to stay with but in the other hand you have noone right now try it at least you will be taking care of till you are 18 that is
2006-06-14 13:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by witchywomen_53 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the social worker is being very irresponsible in trying to force you into adoption. I think that before adoption can take place the matter has to go before a judge who will almost certainly want to hear what you think about it. Your needs and best interest are paramount so the judge will listen to what you say. Take a look at http://www.factmonster.com/ce6/society/A0802537.html
Do you live in the USA? This site refers to consent by the child which is required in most states http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/consent-to-adoption.html
If you live in the UK you can contact the Childrens Rights Alliance for advice: http://www.crae.org.uk
2006-06-14 12:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by migelito 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think right for you to be force to live in a place you don't want to be. But unfortunately, you still under age (15), you're not consider an adult until you turn 18. Can you change your social worker?
2006-06-14 12:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
laws very from state to state, but until you are 18, you may have to petition a court to get early ADULT rights. No one will likely adopt you , if you make it clear thats not what you want, until either of the above, you may have to play the game and live with foster people, but you can make it so difficult for them that they will send you back, if thats what you want, but give it a chance, what do you have to lose? I was adopted myself.
2006-06-14 12:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by johnny m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you go be the judge tell him your feeling be nice and polite with adopted family tell them you just wish not to be adopted it may be a good foster home so do not sell your self short you still have 3 years left before independent living kick in behave and make it work easy for you not them they have the power make it work for you not against you just remember you are old enough to be heard but if you are disobeying no one is willing to listen to you
2006-06-14 13:44:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋