2006-06-14 05:38:58 · 19 answers · asked by angelndeskies71 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ground him....no friends, no phone calls, no computer....ground him from everything....make him do chores half the day to keep him occupied....my brother started smoking pot when he was 14 and my mom would just talk to him and maybe ground him for a week....you dont even want to know how he is now.....tell him your going to test him in a month....if he passes he's ungrounded...if he fails he's grounded for another month...and your going to be randomly testing him to make sure he's not doing it anymore....you can get drug tests from pharmacys like cvs....thats what i would do anyways
2006-06-14 05:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have this coming up as I have a 15 and 12 year old. The 12 year old already thinks people that smoke and drink are cool. Crap. So when this happens to them/me, I'm going to be very harsh with it, no toleration. So far they are very respectable boys, so I'm hoping that we're able to talk and figure out how they can best control the peer pressure. If talking it out doesn't work, then it'll be grounding (including all technology, phones, etc) until it stops. We live in a small town, so it will be easy to tell what's going on most of the time. I believe in snooping when appropriate, and I believe that messing with one's health deems that appropriate. When the behavior stops for an amount of time, then the grounding stops, but not until then. They have to earn back the trust, not the other way around. Good luck!
2006-06-14 06:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him about how when you were younger about all the different pressures there was! Than explain to him exactly wat smoking marijuna and cigs is bad for him! Then you find out who his friends are and if they smoke encourage him to invite them over to your house so you can get to know them and how you son reacts with them! Try not to leave your son alone with them! It would help if you and him do something together because most of the time troubles at home or school cause teens to experiment with drugs! If that doesn't help give him a chance to start fresh and clean! send him out of state to a family members! but it can't be someone that he thinks is gonna babysit him because then he'll lose his trust for you! or u can send him away to a summer camp of his choice!
Remember Fighting Doesn't Solve Anything!!
2006-06-14 05:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by some random chick! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly you cant lock him inhis room...(that is what I would want to do) You cant be with him every minute so even if you forbid him from doing it he will anyway.... all you can do is make sure that he knows the dangers off both..and pray that it is just a phase.
PS bombarding him with cancer info and drug abuse facts will only drive him deeper into it...you would be suprised howmany people I know light a cigarette RIGHT after one of those Truth commercials come on...they dont work.
2006-06-14 05:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of five, I could only imagine the horror of finding these things out. However, if my oldest son (who is now 13) was caught doing the same, I would do the following:
1) clean out his room from top to bottom and throw out any paraphanalia
2) let him know its wrong and will ruin his life and that you love him, but be firm.
3) make his life a living hell by staying on top of what goes in and out of your house, inspect book bags, keep close contact with his teachers, and make a signed note policy if he wants to go to a friend's house. (get a signed note from his friend's parents.) By doing this, you are letting him know he can't get away with it any more.
2006-06-14 05:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny Y 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make him sit at the table and smoke the whole pack of cigarettes that will cure that as far as weed goes take him to a local jail or prison so he can talk with people that are serving time for drugs.
2006-06-14 05:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the morgue and have him watch an autopsy on a person who died from smoking! That is what I would do to my son if I ever found out he was doing drugs and/drinking!
2006-06-14 05:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him you know he will get mad because he doesnt want you to know but this is a serious matter then you put him in rebab, and you watch EVERYTHING HE DOES, ground him for a while because he will be safer at your house and less likely to go any drugs when he is at your house and threaten and do whatever you have toso he can stop, even if it is to go to the jail for a visit.
2006-06-14 12:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by CuTeSt ChIcK eVeR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to jail and show him where people end up when using or even doing drugs.sit down and talk to him and ask why does he smokes if he dont want to talk and listen then all u have to do is send his a$$ to boot camp where they will str8in him out perfect
2006-06-14 05:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by $C@$hMon3y$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his parent not his friend! Talk to him about smoking and drugs, ground him. Smell his hands and clothes when he comes in the door, don't back down take full control, it's up to you to win the war on drugs in your home, good luck.
2006-06-14 05:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by rusty1fan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋