Commitment was respected years ago and the marriage lasts. Is shacking up a real solution to curb the high divorce rate?
2006-06-14 05:30:38 · 8 answers · asked by alpha & omega 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No it doesn't. The only thing that will ever curb the high divorce rate is when people start caring more about respecting the vows they made, instead of whether the marriage is convenient and pleasing to them. The only thing that will make a marriage last is commitment. If you've got that, then nothing on earth can break you up. If you don't have it, then nothing on earth can keep you together. It's that simple.
2006-06-14 05:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Billy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In today's world it is better to spend some time living together so you can make sure you get along with each other and enjoy each others presence. The divorce rate is so high because living together is a hundred times different than dating, being engaged, or dating. I know the very Conservative love to say its a sin, but I think it is one of the most important processes that should be done before even planning a marriage.
2006-06-14 13:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Scott C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my boyfriend for 5 years before we married, and we divorced just two years later. The problem really is, people don't like commitment (in these times), especially men...they want their cake and eat it too. If I had it all to do again, I would just date and never marry! For some reason most people are never content with what they have for very long. It seems easier to just live together so when one or the other is tired of it, it is easier to get out of. So, yes, that is a solution to divorce. The only people who should marry are the ones who are absolutely sure this is the only person they want to be with for THE REST OF THEIR LIFE!
2006-06-14 13:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by chillpillak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking compound questions makes it difficult to give you a responsible answer.
Assuming that you really want to know, is it ok to "shack up", in order to curb a high divorce rate, should be fairly obvious. No. Simply because if what is at risk, is quality in a relationship, then lack of commitment is a moral ethic, and either is part of the marital or common law relationship, or is missing, due to any number of reasons, but in my opinion, due to lack of respect for the other person/spouse which only circumstantially includes marriage or other form of commitment.
If you want a successful relationship, you might consider the need for giving maximum respect to your partner. No one ever got more out of a relationship than he/she gave. And Conversely, you get what you give. Of course making wise choices in the matter of who you want to live with would help. Marry a bum, but don't expect him to act like a prince. You might get lucky, but the divorce rate indicates otherwise. Of course, marrying a prince is no guarentee he wasn't really a frog at heart. Maybe someone will someday invent a test for Character that will give virtual Best results for relationship partners...till then, you have my best wishes. sincerely
2006-06-14 12:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Laughingwalt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, cohabitating can be beneficial before marriage. It allows you to experience how living together really is, rather than leaving you with a fantasy on how you think it will be.
As far as relating now to years ago. Commitment WAS respected more, but there was also a higher rate of people staying in bad marriages to save face. Though I believe commitment should be taken more seriously... I don't wish that people should have social pressures to stay in a marriage.
2006-06-14 12:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by kikie222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think you didn't live with someone till you got married but the way everything is going these days can't hurt to live together first. This way you get to know each other better and know for sure if this is what you want for your future if you decide to get married fine but if you both choose not to also fine just so both of you come to some kind of understanding and one isn't hurt in the end. Always communicate and good luck!
2006-06-14 12:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you buy a car you haven't test-driven???
You learn a lot of things about some-one when you live with them...a lot more than if you simply dated.
I have been engaged 3 times, I finally got married two years ago.
If I hadn't lived w/ the previous to ex-fiances I would have been divorced by now!
2006-06-14 12:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it does work like that. It depends on how commited you both are to each other as well as how much you care for and talk to each other. If you love and care for each other and talk instead of fight (or at least talk later) then I bet you'll be ok.
2006-06-14 12:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by drake_bb_shadowseed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋