My Husband is a Kirby Vacuum Salesman, he works over 120 hours a week and brings home $200 dollars a week?

Question

What can I do to make him realize its not worth it?He is losing his family in the process.

Answer 1

If he works 7 days a week, that's over 17 hours a day at work. Are you sure he isn't busy "doing" something else during part of this time?

"My sister was too. She sold me a kirby for $3000 and sold my brother one for $900." ...nice sister.

Perhaps your husband should sell to his brothers and sisters??

Answer 2

If he is working over 120 hours a week and brings home two hundred bucks, this is not a product that he should be selling. He needs to either find a product that he likes and can actually sell, or get a non-sales job.
It's probably his ego that is bruised, yet in our world a job is very important to make money. I hope your husband understands that the greatest job duty he has to fill is that of husband and dad. If he doesn't get that, then he is missing the basics and that leaves little hope for him to see the big picture.
Stress does crazy things to people, so I really hope he figures it out and realizes he can always switch jobs; he can't change his family as easily.

Answer 3

hi, i'm pretty sure the national minimum wage is about £5.50 per hour. 8 hour days, 40 hours a week, top line £220 a week, take home £190. ( that was a rough estimation ) basically, it would not make sense going to work full time for something LESS than the minimum wage. but on the other hand, if it's £120 a week PLUS commission, then he get brush up on his sales techniques. cosmic angel

Answer 4

If he's working 120 hours a week, there's a MAJOR problem. That means he's only getting 48 hours off of work, which figures out to be about 6 hours and 10 minutes per day that he's not at work....do the math sister, something isn't adding up...

Answer 5

He has to realize it. Start showing him that he is missed. And he can do better than selling kirby vacuums. Working anywhere else will at least give him minimum wage. If my math is right, he's making about $1.66 an hour...he's worth more than that.

He would be making that in 40 hours doing something else.

Answer 6

My sister was too. She sold me a kirby for $3000 and sold my brother one for $900. I didnt know, you can negotiate. She was a good salesman but, she got burnt out after 3 weeks and making little money while, kirby made a lot. Get out now.

Answer 7

Well there's a few ways to answer this. The first is that you are your husbands help meet and that you are to support him in what he does.

Secondly, he has a responsibility to you and the family as well. He will stand before God one day and be responsible for how you have turned out as a wife. He is supposed to love you as "Christ loved the church". That means sacrifice, but if he loses you in trying to provide it's not right.

You do have needs, and if he refuses to address them he will answer for it.

That being said, do NOT look at him with scorn or disdain, do NOT look down on him. This is the man you married, YOU chose him.

Be patient, pray for him not that he would "come to his senses" but that God would have his will done in your life.

You sound like you love him very much and I hope this isn't my friend in Toledo you're talking about.

Answer 8

I'll leave the monetary issues to others...
This is really long, but please be patient with me and read it. I think you and your husband need to hear my story.

What I can comment on is that my ex (yes, note that I said EX) husband worked commission sales. He was out of the house by 5 am each day, home by 9 pm, 6 days a week. He was a reliable and productive employee, and his route expanded more and more. With one day off a week, and those hours, what do you think he did on his day off? It sure wasn't spending time with his wife and kid, unless you consider listening to him snore or watching him walk around like an exhausted zombie spending quality time.
He became more and more worn down, and eventually depressed, isolating himself from friends and family. Deep circles under the eyes, seldom a smile, uninterested in what went on at home or around him. You see, even when he was not at work, that's where his mind was, conditioned by then to continually review work thoughts.
We drifted farther and farther apart. Being married in a situation like that is the loneliest feeling in the world. You're not with someone, but you're married, so you can't go out and be with someone. Even socialize with female friends, as you have the family and all the home fires to tend to, and besides, if his body is physically there, even if his mind isn't, it's not like you would consider doing anything else.
It was horrible. When we divorced, our son was almost 3 years old. When his dad would come in the door and try to pick him up and hug him, my son had begun to cry and hide. He was afraid of the stranger. My ex would get tears in his eyes...then drift off to zombie land.

As for now, 12 years later, my ex is still in the same job. Same hours. 42 years old with an ulcer, depression, no life, chronic fatigue, no friends, no hobbies. He falls asleep reading the sports page every night, and that's about his only extracurricular activity. Although we live 10 minutes away, he sees his son at occasional school functions, has missed all his sports games, but calls his son daily--from work. We have joint custody, but he doesn't have time at home to have his son come over. And when my son does go over, rarely, he comes home complaining that "dad wouldn't let him go out and play because he 'wanted to spend time with him', but dad fell asleep".

Why has my ex continued with this crazy schedule, for a not particularly high-paying job? Because the company continues to dangle a $10,000 bonus "after 20 years of employment" over his head. And he wants that bonus. So I guess he's decided that his family, his health, and his life are worth $10,000. Gee. Not the choice I would have made, but...

How do you make your husband realize what you are trying to get across to him? Have him read this. Print it out for him so he can read it more than once. It might help. I hope so, for both your sakes. There's obviously a lot for him to think about. God bless both of you.

Correction: that bonus I referred to is $40,000, not 10,000. I think the company dangles that because nobody ever stays there, not willing to work those hours. Except my ex, of course.
Also, the emotional absence I described due to above situation always made me cry when I hear the song "Cat's Cradle" by Cat Stevens. My son has remained resentful all these years toward his dad. I sure hope your husband wakes up and smells the roses!

Answer 9

There should be a labor law that he can use...And are you sure he is working the whole 120 hrs and not playing around...that just sounds weird to me...I would tell my husband to get another job .

Answer 10

He needs to re-train into some field that he can make a living wage in. It's getting harder and harder for someone to make it with the skills of a vacum cleaner salesman.