My husband and I live in with another couple as room mates. My friend's husband works all day long won't come back until 2am. My husband has seen other girls come to my friend's husband and they would both flirt with each other. My husband has talked to him many times yet it seems as if the problem still persist. My friend is in denial right now; she knows the truth but doesn't do anything about it. She's hurting and in depression most of the days. My friend's husband is such a big flirt that he would even flirt with ME some of the time and I would ignore it. I've talked to her and told her she needs to show her husband what to do so he would stop hurting her but she doesn't so I've stopped talking to her about that. What could I do in this situation?
2006-06-14 05:27:17 · 11 answers · asked by ♥Lily♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be there for her if she needs someone to talk to. It seems she dosen't wanna believe it right now. She may eventually wake up and realize its really happening and when she does she's gonna need a good friend to lean on. Don't give up on her just be there when she needs you.
2006-06-14 06:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy W 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
As you said she is in denial and there is not much you can do but to ***** slap her and make her come to her senses sorry that's just me i would do that to my best friend if i have to!! some times women can be so stupid really they can not stand up for themselves that shows how much respect she has for herself!! Your a good friend to worry for her but do not try to get too much involved into this! Seems like she is that type of a woman that one day her husband will come home say sorry and everything will be fine between them and guess who will become the bad guy in here it will be you!!
let things be the way it is mind your own business, i don't feel sorry for a person how does not have any respect for themselves!! Be her friend like you use to be but do not discuss this with her anymore!
2006-06-14 05:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's husband sound like a jerk. Your friend does not want to deal with this issue. She would rather be hurt and depressed rather that deal with the fact that her husband is a loser. She will continue to play the victim as long as she refuses to deal with this. There is nothing that you can do to make her change; this has to come from her. All you can do is to be there for her when she does decide to take action.
2006-06-14 05:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sucks!! well all you can do is continue to make her aware of the situations. try to be as detailed and descriptive as possible!! you are being a true friend for telling her the truth, keep it up. a friend is doesn't tell isnt a friend at all. if she doesn't want to believe you at least you know you did your part!!dont give up, and make sure your husband isn't hangin out with hers. have your husband try to be a good influence by hangin out with you at home or going out only when you are with him. (take your friend out with you guys, she needs to get out of the house)
2006-06-14 05:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only be there for her, there is nothing more you can do. She will realize what she will when she will and you will not change her no matter what you tell her or how you beg her to do anything. It will all be for naught until SHE wants to see the truth and SHE wants to do something about it.
I hope it works out for her and that is all you can do too.
2006-06-14 05:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mariah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off, if she knows and isnt willing to do anything about it, there is nothing you can do. She has a problem and she has to deal with it. She is a big girl, she needs to divorce him or give him an ultimatum.
2006-06-14 05:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys are going to have to move,start saving now! she`s clearly going to be in denial,she will stay that way too! until she decides to leave. Everything is in the open,they are going to have to live their own lives,you guys have done all you can.Yes, move away, and dont let them move back in with you!...good luck...Carla
2006-06-14 05:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by carlasuegibbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could take her to the place that he is at, and you know that he is going to do something with someone and let her see it for herself. It will hurt but at least she will know.
2006-06-14 05:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T TELL HER SHE NEEDS TO BE LED TO THE TRUTH NOT TOLD. I said in bold because information like that will kill a freindship
2006-06-14 05:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Best answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl tell her or take her someplace he is with this woman so she can see for herself or beat her *** till she gets the message
2006-06-14 05:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by omarionsgirl1983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋