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Question

your girlfriend tells you that her aging father ( whom was in a very bad condition to begin with physically and healthwise ) broke his hip and is in the hospital. what would you do? And if you had a little get together with you work buddies would you go to that get together or would you rather be with your girlfriend to offer support... ?

Serious answers only...

just want to add that this just happened to me and he said that he did not know that it was that serious!!!

but I've told him everything i knew in regards to my father and that it was not going to be easy, and will be very difficult...
but he went along with his buddies because after he told me that he was going to the get together he claims i hung up the phone without saying good-bye and that he felt excluded... well i did say bye but i might have been so upset when he told me that he was going out that i may hung up th phone b4. but he felt EXCLUDED. after a year and half relationship??? I dont understand...

Answer 1

I would cancel on my buddies, and go to the hospital with my boyfriend. This is an important time for your girl/boy friend. If you guys have a serious and truthful relationship and wanna keep it that way; a little get together with coworkers shouldn't be that important. If you don't offer your support now when she/he most need it, then the trust between you would be broken. She/he wouldn't know if she/he can count on you for support for any other occasion. A little get together can be arranged any other time. Everyone will understand.

Added Details:
Well, if he chose to go out with friends just for fun instead of being with you in your time of need; then something is seriously wrong here. The feeling EXCLUDED excuse is a very lame one. He is trying to defend himself by blaming you. You guys should definitely have a serious talk on the matter if you want to pursue a good relationship. You never know he may have a reason after all for not supporting you. Maybe there was something more than a little get together with his buddies. I'm not defending him but you should leave room for the unknown. Just as he may just doesn't care. If it is the latter I would leave him, but you are responsible to take your own decision, and unless you guys talk about it you won't be able to work it out.

Answer 2

OK, I'm going to assume you're the girlfriend and your boyfriend is telling you he wants to hang out with his buddies instead of being there for you with your dad. I'm also going to assume he knows your dad and that your dad wouldn't mind having him around the hospital. Having said all of that, he should visit your dad with you and then go be with his buddies ~ and you should allow him to do both.

On the flip side... he could feel awkward about visiting and/or feel like he needs to give you time alone with your dad. Talk to him, don't just assume he's being an a**. Could be he has a real reason for not wanting to visit your dad. Or it could be that he's being an a**. But find out for sure before you get upset! ;-)

Answer 3

i would rather be with the girlfriend. Support comes with having a relationship. You will have many opportunities to go out with your friends but how will that make her feel if you dumb her for some friends. i would want someone to be there with me and stuff. Your friends will understand. They would probably do the same for their girlfriend/boyfriend.

Answer 4

My answer is, with the girlfriend!
I would look for moral support in this time of need. Whom do you think I would expect it to come from the most? Of course it is with my partner.
If you would not be there for her in this critical moment, she would think you will not be there for her in even worse situations.
That would surely give an ugly scar to your relationship.
And ask yourself this question... who is more important, your girlfriend or your so-called "work buddies"?
(My assumption is... you're the girlfriend, right?)

Answer 5

talk to him, maybe he has a reason of going along with his friends.