march 9th,06 i woke up 5am with no pain,i went to the bathroom then it happend i looked down i was gussing blood i called for my husband he called 911,,they sent the firedepartment then i was rushed to the hosplte,, my dotor came in with a pail face and asked whats goin on?? i told him i cant stop bleeding then they did a utersound then my doc looked at me and said sorry to say but it looks like you have a dead baby in you! i couldnt belive it my heart broke,,,well they induesd my laber i had her nature i was in laber for 10 hours,,the doctor said it was cause from a boold vessle busting,,he said hes only read about it never seen it happen, he said its rare,,thats all i got ,,i just wounder if anyone else has had that happend if so what was the cause of it busting!!!!
2006-06-14 05:16:47 · 6 answers · asked by stepfunny 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First, let me say that I am so sorry for you loss. I won't tell you I know how you feel, because I don't your exact emotions right now, but I can say that I have been through something somewhat similar to you.
I had a still birth at 19.5 weeks. It was a boy. He had internal organ malformations that made it so he wouldn't and couldn't survive. If you need to talk to someone, or just need a shoulder for a while, feel free to contact me. I can at least listen and offer some support.
I've heard of this, but never seen it. I'm sure it has to do with a weak blood vessel, but I don't know much about it. I wish I could be more helpful on that point. It's one of those obscure things you hear about, but never actually see.
One good thing is at least you know the cause. It took us almost 2 weeks to find out on our boy. They kept sending his body places to be looked at. On his autopsy report it says that he had malformation of the liver and lungs. The medical report said that the liver wasn't producing red blood cells, so he didn't have hardly any blood in his system. Also the alvioli in his lungs weren't formed, so he couldn't have even taken a breath when he was born.
It's better to know the cause then not know. It wasn't anything you did, or didn't do. Don't feel like it's your fault. I know it's hard not to blame someone right now, but don't blame yourself. That will just make it harder for you.
I would find someone you trust and can talk to and that will just let you talk, without interuption and get everything out you need to.
It will never totally go away, you will always have a special place in your heart for your little angel. But let me assure you that one day, you will realize that it's been a few hours since you thought of your little one. At first, it will only be seconds that go by without a thought, then minutes, then hours. Never a day goes by that I don't think about my little one. You will always think about the what if's, and wonder what they would have been like. The first couple of years are the worst. Every anniversary that you would have had with the baby- due date, birthday, every month milestone they would have hit- will be hard. On those days, find something to do that will help you through them.
We planted a rose bush for our son in our flower garden. It's called "peaceful", and every time I look at it, I think of the wonderful gift it was just to have him for the short time we did. We were unable to bury him, so that was our memorial to him.
Hold a memorial service, even if it's only you and your hubby. Write a journal about your feelings and about what you would have wanted them to become.
Don't be afraid to cry!! It's normal and natural and you need to right now.
Find others in your area that have been through a still birth and use them for support.
Sometimes it's a good idea to go to a counsilor. I did, and it helped me more then anything.
Talk to your baby. I did, and it helped me get my emotions out and helped me come to terms with things.
Like I said before, if you need to talk, feel free to contact me. Good luck and I'm very, very, very sorry for your loss.
2006-06-14 05:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by odd duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that, a friend of mine was 8 month pregnant she felt a strong stomachache and went to the doctor´s, the baby was dead but nobody could explain why he died, they made autopsy etc but it is still a mystery, he was perfect and so was she.
2006-06-14 05:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it was just one of those things that nobody could predict. I'm sure you took excellent care of yourself up to that point. Don't beat yourself up over it. Hopefully when your body is healed you and your husband can try again. I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-06-14 05:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about you lose. I have never hear of that happening.
2006-06-14 05:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure but I am so sorry for your loss.
2006-06-14 05:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by chellebeth75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah srry to hear that have fun byee
2006-06-14 05:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋