Got married 12 years ago. I never thought about it but the real reason was because she was pregnant. No one forced me to get married and the thought of it was nice. Things were never GREAT, you know what I mean, a very happy marriage. Recently we have found a new connection and things are better than ever, she told me she was unhappy for the past 12 years as was I. So, is it possible to get married for the wrong reason, or something you did not plan on, but then end up happier than ever after 12 years? Why would it take so long for it to blossom? Has this happened to you?
2006-06-14 05:10:11 · 10 answers · asked by Andy S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you both let go of your trust issues. It sounds like you both have finally opened up and actually talked about the serious issues plaguing the relationship. Communication is not only discussing the facts - it is opening up your heart to your partner...keep it up. You are now finally vulnerable to one another and in this state you can fully give and receive love. Congrats!
2006-06-14 05:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
Sure getting married for the wrong reasons, happens all the time. We are usually not totally mature when we take the plunge. All I know is, if you start to give each other what you need out of pure respect and love, you won't fail at your marriage. Marriage is totally caring what each of you think and feel every day. Selfishness is a bad thing, but sometimes we only think of our selves not the other person. Now that your much more mature after twelve years, you should be able to clear up the matters that look gray, and know if you still have love inside for each other to share. It takes two, to feel this, not just one spouse. Think positive about each other and what you want out of life, and go for the gold. Hope this helps! Cocoa
2006-06-14 12:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm divorced and I know that it's very possible to fall out of love with someone.... so why not be able to re-fall into a deeper love after 12 years? I'm happy for you both!
2006-06-14 12:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by LIL NIX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i think love is something that grows between two people and not some immediate thing. it sounds nice that you both had this kind of awakening now. usually don't realize untill it's gone. Just try to keep this energy and not fall back into the mindless sleep again. Keep that open communication and trust going. good luck.
2006-06-14 12:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys saw the light. I don't know. But in life, everything is possible. Congratualtions on finally finding your true love that has been there the whole time.
2006-06-14 12:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by acveach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How nice, and you're complaining? What happened is that you both grew up, and grew up to be in the same book on the same page. How nice ;>D
2006-06-14 12:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way i see it you can grow closer together just like friends the longer you know someone the closer you grow together
2006-06-14 12:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by pokerface31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be possible if it happened to you! Congrats!
2006-06-14 12:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, anything is possible.
2006-06-14 12:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by Eileen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
POSSIBLE MAYBE
NEVER HAPPEN TO ME
2006-06-14 12:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋