Do you think it's ok for a woman to ask a man to marry her instead of the man asking??

Answer 1

Yes.

Not only that, but some guys (I know I would) would take her last name.

:-)

Answer 2

You're not the type of girl to wait around for Prince Charming. You know what you want, so why not ask for it? Here are some thoughts on how to propose to the man in your life.


Steps:
1. Know your beloved well and anticipate his response. Will he be swept away by this romantic gesture? Or could he feel threatened by a woman's proposing marriage? (If so, you may want to reconsider.)

2. Set the stage. Pick his favorite place - whether you consider it romantic or not - to pop the question. This might be a secluded camping site, a fancy restaurant, a golf course at sunset ... or even a sports bar. Let your love's taste be your guide.

3. Keep your plans flexible. You may have an evening of French cuisine and fine wine in mind; he may be in the mood for burgers and beer. Unless your plans involve other people or events, go with the flow.

4. Make a splash if your beloved appreciates the theatrical. Put your question up in lights at a ballgame, or bring in a soloist to croon over pasta.

5. Keep the occasion subtle if your honey tends to like things more subdued. Pop the question over dessert or during a private game of pool.

6. Bring or plan an engagement gift. Sure, you could get him a ring, but a puppy with a note tied around its neck might be a better choice. Or a motorcycle. Something that will last for a long time.

7. Give him some time to be surprised and tongue-tied. Remember, even though he loves you for the unconventional woman you are, he probably won't see this one coming.


Tips:
If you've already been dropping hints and he hasn't been receptive, don't use a proposal to force the issue. Your attempt at romance may backfire.


Tips from eHow Users:
Easy by ANA .
When you are proposing, make "I" statements, such as "I would love," and "I want to." Try to stay away from "we," as the man might feel like you are forcing the proposal on him. All men like to choose, so let him (in a smart way)!


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Wait a Minute by Just A.
Think twice about what you are about to do. Is this the way you pictured your wedding proposal when you were a little girl? As a teenager? Your man could already have something planned. If a man wants to marry you, chances are he will propose. If he hasn't proposed, it's for one of the following reasons: He doesn't want to get married. He's not ready. He's waiting for the right time. He's scared. Popping the question yourself is not the remedy to any of those. Try subtle hints. If he wants to marry you, he'll be looking for hints. If you've been trying that for years, it's time to talk to him straight. Don't beat around the bush, be straightforward and honest. Be careful not to sound too bitchy. Give it time, let him do it when he's comfortable. Unless there are kids involved and it's starting to get ridiculous, then give him an ultimatum. Let him propose for your sake, and for his.

Answer 3

I actually don't think it's ok. If a guy wanted to get married to a certain woman then he would step up, be a man, and ask her. In our society women are definitely moving into many areas that have previously been male dominated but that doesn't mean women belong in all areas (and same goes for men too).

Answer 4

In the United State, it is still considered the guy's option to ask the lady to marry. And, by the way, guys don't like to hear "I love you" first from the lady, they prefer it themselves.... The lady appears pushy otherwise. The male ego is rather fragile, so, no, never ask a guy to marry you. If he wishes to marry you HE will ask YOU. owever, if you have been going together for quite a while, (and that also is open to interpretation) and marriage is your goal, and you're not getting it, you might set yourself a deadline, and then be ready to have it all over. " I care for you so much -- you are for sure the man I wish to be with, to share with to walk with, and to wake up to every morning. If this is not going to continue as us being married, then I'll need to know, so that I can get on with my life." Problem here is that you have told him that marriage is a deal breaker. If it is, then you have to be prepared to walk. So ask yourself, is marriage a deal breaker? If it is, get your speech ready, if it is not, then shut the hell up. If the relationship is fine without the paper....what difference does it make? People generally marry to legitimize their children, and for inheritance rights. Helpful??????

Answer 5

I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman asking a man, if she feels comfortable doing so. Because it is not traditional, if you want to ask your boyfriend, I suggest thinking about how you will propose. Will you buy him his ring and give it to him as an engagement ring? Or will you give him another ring or another piece of jewelry as a symbol of your promise to each other? Before deciding to ask, I would consider if your boyfriend is very traditional and would not like to have people know that you were the one who asked him.

Answer 6

A woman can ask a man to marry her but she should never beg a man to marry her.

Answer 7

yes I do but it is a lot more romantic if a man does it. It also might show that the woman has more commitment than the man. I would be careful on that one.

Answer 8

My husband didn't ask me and I didn't ask him. After our second daughter was born I was like "well do you think we should start planning the wedding", and he was like "how about March 25" and we did get married on that day. We were together for five years and we were happy the way we were b/c we knew we would be together forever.

Answer 9

I asked my finace on May 8th to marry me, he said yes a week later I was in a car accident and then he asked me. Its the 21 century why not.

Answer 10

Traditionally, the man should be the one to... but traditions can be broken can't they?.. Our society has messed up the mentality of most men anyhow.. so when the woman needs to, just let her ask...

Answer 11

yeah sure...why not? Course it wasn't an accepted practice in the Victorian Era but it's the 21st Century. Heck....it's even acceptable to tell the man you want to get laid....and NOW!

So go for it!