My son found out today his ex girlfriends child is his,he requested the dna test,how can he prove she is unfit

Question

he is a minister,has wonderful character witnesses,she is a drug user,unemployed and lives with a creep.Her ex husband and his parents are devastated cause they love her and thought she belonged to their son.She is 4.My son asked for the dna test because the mom was running around telling everyone the child was my son's and he wanted to do the right thing.What chance does he have.Her ex husband also said he will testify against her at a custody hearing.does the court take sworn testimony from witnesses.What other evidence would be required.The mother willfulling kept us from seeing the child.

this happened before he dedicated his life to God

apparently rose has had some issues with child support and custody

Answer 1

Just the fact that she wasn't honest about who the father actually is can help prove that she's unfit. Tell him to contact an attorney right away and see about getting custody.

Answer 2

Apparently, your son isn't everything you'd like to think he is. If he chose to share a bed with this woman, what else did he share?Has he told you everything? I wouldn't count on it. With his apparent lack of quality choice, there may be others.
It alarms me that you choose not to question his ministry. I wonder what you would think to discover that his parish is entitled to decide that he is an unfit minister.
I also question your values as a mother. Can we here at 'Answers' decide that you are an unfit mother. I think the real dilemma here is,'Will the child be afforded adequate,quality care?' Irregardless of who the parents are? The child deserves a loving home where circumstance will be addressed rather than judged. How will the child feel as an adult when he/she discovers that the first decision regarding he/she is one of abandonment?
The mother is as entitled to custody as your side is. I just hope whomever presides at this hearing can see through the hypocrisy. Some of us certainly do.

Answer 3

She may be all those things, but you didn't say she was an unfit mother. Just because your son is a minister doesn't mean that he should automatically be given custody. I believe you should work on building a relationship with mother and child, not tearing it apart. Once you know more for sure, then and only then, should you act. Your grandchilds future is at stake.

Answer 4

How could he have good character if he got a drug user pregnant? I would suggest if a minister got a drug user pregnant, he is neither of wonderful character nor moral finesse to be much of a minister. I would also suggest that the mother is probably not a drug user.

There is a putative parent provision in MOST states that shows that her ex-husband is the putative parent, no matter who the biological father is.

It isn't the jurisdiction of an ex-husband, minister, the biological father or anyone else to determine who the father is or decide to terminate this lady's parental rights.

What I don't understand is why you are interested more in doing a job on the mother than you are in helping the kid.

I think probably child welfare or CPS or whatever they call it this week should get involved. If there isn't any drug use, and if it comes out that this child's mother doesn't get her parental rights terminated then you could get sued for big money in civil court for interference in custody. Before you go there, you need to put your assets in the protection of somebody who is not downwind of the legal hassles that will happen if you proceed.

It used to be a fun game to play accusing mothers of being bad mothers. It used to be fashionable. But after Wenatchee and Manhattan Beach, it isn't anymore. It used to be fashionable to have dirty divorces and dirty custody fights. It isn't anymore.

I am sure ex-husbands are always happy to trash the ex. That has been going on for ever. But it always backfires.

You need a child protection lawyer. They are hard to find and they are really expensive. This kind of crap costs more than corporations are willing to pay for tax diversion.

If you want to play this game, you can find a lot of people to help you out. Sometimes people who do this are successful. But more and more they are not.

If you lose, her ex-husband's parents will lose visitation. The U.S. Supreme overturned Grandparents Rights a couple of years ago. Your ex-husband will lose visitation. And probably, even if the mother is a drug user, they will give her a treatment option before they proceed with termination.

Terminating parental rights used to be fashionable. However, in recent years, it has really backfired. Unless the child is in danger, you probably won't prove anything other than that you don't like the mother. But child protection workers and courts see the child abuse defense in custody matters all the time and they are not buying it anymore.

Go ahead and try, but it is really expensive, really time consuming, really dirty and in the end, the child's lawyer will be the one who decides who gets custody of the child.

I would suggest that you are more interested in doing a job on the mother than you are in doing what is right for the child.

Some cop in Wenatchee, Washington named Bob Perez did that and it he lost his job, his house, his health insurance, his wife got cancer and he went bankrupt. Go ahead. Play this game.

Of course the mother kept you from seeing the child. Your agenda is obvious. Grandparents do not have any legal rights. The Supreme Court threw them out because grandparents were using the courts to interfere with custody of grandchildren.

No issues with child support and custody. No divorce. Just took one person to go lying about my unfitness as a mother and I got her house, her car, she got fired from her job, lost her license to practice medicine. My kids went to Ivy League schools because of her. Hers didn't. Go ahead, sucker. Make my day.