What do you think about interracial relationships??

Question

My husband and I have a problem with our races saying things that make us angry because we feel we should love whom ever we want. Should we take offense or just ingore it?? I'm white and he is black. He get the black girls telling him "what sister aren't good enough", and I get " the black girls making comments and looking mean at me. I used to get angry about it and my husband never thougt anything of it until now...He is pissed when people tell him stuff like that...What is you opion?? Do you think we should love who ever we want???

Answer 1

Yea. of course. besides. next time you hear someone ask him if a sista isn't good enough, just reply, "apparently not". besides, i think you are getting bent out of shape for nothing. don't be so sensitive to what other people think. its your life.

Answer 2

Be on watch lady ! Your husband and you may fall pray to the "Games people play". See, a relation is all about happiness and nothing about races. People of same races are commented too - maybe on differenet things. Just ignore what people say. You are already loving each other. Ignore people. Black or white is not a thing to tink upon. And this is not the time to think upon it. If you two get disturbed by what people ( black girls or anyone ) comment, you need to learn to be more satisfied with what you have. Build the mental firmness. People will comment anyways. They cant see it happening smoothly as they themselves cant dare it. You guys have dared. So do not get distracted. Love each other ! :) Wish all Best !

Answer 3

I'm black and I date white women, Hispanic Women what ever. Just a few weeks ago I met a girl at the Bar she was white I was walking her to the car and these Black girls were looking all mean and they made a under the breath comment. I said excuse me, sure enough she wasid what black aint good enough. With the biggest smile I could conjure up I hugged my girl and said No Black is just fine, I need someWarm Vanilla Sugar in my life and and I kissed her. A few of them still had an attitude but one of them ws like naw thats tight. Sometimes you just have to make a stand, if he acts like he's doing something wrong and youre feeling awkward then yeah stupid people will get to you. I don't my dad was married to two black women and divorced twice so just becasue it's the same race doesn't mean it will work. So keep your head up, those girls are prolly jealous casue they want what you have, let them know he's mine and I'm his and we love every day.

Answer 4

I am a Fijian and my husband is Italian. My origin though is from India.... i been thru all this crap.... my family was again my marriage but that didn't stop me at least my in laws are fine with us! People talk who cares they will talk today, tomorrow, and day after tomorrow but as time goes by they just don't bother anymore! All you have to do is learn to ignore them! They are immature ppl and there is not much you can do. If you at upon what they say that means your love for each other is not strong enough!! There is no rule written anywhere that states that we have to marry in our own culture!! We are all humans with equal rights... so you have the full right to marry whoever you want!! Ignorant is the best solution for most problems!

Answer 5

Ignor the comments. Those people who feel the need to comment just aren't happy with their own lives. Why worry about what they are saying and get mad when that is what the person who made the comment wants you to do. They want you to get mad and be unhappy and break up. Don't give them the satisfaction. I have been with my BF for 8 years we have a son he is black and I am white but does that really matter. Live your life and be happy that will just piss them off and they can be the mad ones.

Answer 6

I think happiness is the most important thing. Interracial relationships are perfectly fine because we are all human beings. White, brown, or black: we are human beings. All that matters is that you and your husband are happy. When others look down upon you, and constantly question you, instead of getting mad, look at it as a building block for building a strong relationship. Obviously, you are still together despite all of the negativity that you have experienced, so they are just trials and tribulations that help make your relationship stronger. Just ignore it. Remember: you are happy together. That is all that matters. And yes, we should love whoever we want, and whoever makes us happy, regardless of race, class, color, or anything else. Be happy.

Answer 7

Life is too short to worry about other people, If you are truly in love why would you let strangers upset you. I am Mexican and my man is White (German-Irish) we have 2 beautiful kids. I dont let anyone make me feel bad about my life and love. I think it's a big deal to black women, when they see a black man with a white woman. My best friend is Vietnamese and her man is black. She gets a lot of slack from black girls about.."why do you steal our men" At first she got upset. Now she's like, they are just jealous. Which is probably true. I think that you shouldn't worry about it and live life happy and in love.

Answer 8

I think love is colorless only thing I have trouble with is the part where the partner tries to act like the race he/she wants to be acceptedby. For instance trying to talk all ghetto when you were raised in a suburb, or being all preppy when that is obviously not your style. I wouldn't care whatthe others say. There is an old sayin I like-
"Be yourself because those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind"

Answer 9

Who cares what our opinion is. The only opinion that matters is yours. I think you know the answer to this question. I would not personally be in an interratial relationship but if you are happy and you love each other, that's fine. You should never live your life based on other people's beliefs. The only beliefs that matters are your own. You can't let other people live your life for you. The only other opinions than your own that matter are your family's. As long as your families support you and care for you, who cares if complete strangers dont like it. It's not their lives to live.

Answer 10

I do not understand discrimination. I think any kind of discrimination is wrong. I am sorry I don't know what makes people think this way. I think you should just ignore it. My grandmother was the product of an interracial relationship and she was the most wonderful person I have ever met. I can't imagine anyone looking down on my grandmother or her parents because of that.

Answer 11

Don't take notice of what people say. A lot of people seem to have no problem spouting off whatever they feel regardless of the impact it may have on others. I'm in a inter-racial relationship and we have never ever had problems with it. Our motto is basically forget about what people think, its what we think that matters. I know its not easy because yes people can say horrible things sometimes and yes its not always easy to ignore it but think of it as ok they can have their say but in the end its what I think that matters. Listening to them is just creating unncessary problems in your relationship.