I've been with my hubby for 5 yrs.I'm still totally attracted to him and we have a great sex life.I think he's the hottest guy and I see girls check him out but I'm secure w/him as he tells me all the time how hot I am & that he loves our life together.We sure had our rough times but overall I can't imagine my life w/another man.Even after having our child 3 yrs ago, we somehow kept it alive.I work a fulltime job at a big corporation while he's a movie grip.I'm alot more educated than him.He is the only man I've slept w/.My friends keep telling me that I'm so in to him because I don't know what's out there.When we have girls night out and some guy would hit on me and I turn him down, they act like I'm a prude.Most of my college friends are single.But I'm happy w/ being w/ 1 guy for the rest of my life.My friend (my maid of honor) told me that the high powered men I work w/ are lot better for me than my hubby.She said I'm bound to get tempted and my he probably checks out chicks on set.
2006-06-14 04:47:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, they don't. As you say, all couples have their ups and downs. At certain points in your marriage you will find that even the sex life will have its ups and downs and won't be the same as when you first were together. I think you know though that marriage is about more than just sex. You should really consider a new group of friends because real friends would be telling you how lucky you are to have such a relationship and not dumping on you for loving who you love. I hope your never tempted to cheat and that you have a wonderful and loving marriage for the rest of your life.
2006-06-14 04:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 10⤊ 5⤋
So, is your question : Do couples loose interest in each other? Sure to a degree. The frantic sex stuff ebbs, if not this year, then next or in 10, but in couples determined to stay together, it changes into mellowness, to trust, to a oneness, to not just tolerance but to "I care how you feel today". There is always temptation. Then temptation after that, and again, and one can bed hop and make a numbers game of it all, and in the end, one is alone....maybe not physically but for sure mentally. Evolution has pretty much decreed that a couple stay faithful for the length of time a child can make it on its own, in another era or culture --- 5 years. Since we evolved to not live much more than 40, and begin reproduction at age 13 or 14, by age 40, 200,000 years ago, your body was pretty much used up. It has been only in the last 2000 years that the idea of marriage has come about, and only in the last 100 that modern medicine keeps us alive beyond age 40., into our 80's and still healthy!!! (In India, a country not at war -- the average life span is still 33, same as in the time of Jesus, and same for the milenium thousands before that). So back to your question, Yes, they loose frantic sexual interest, that mellows into a soul mate.....the shot in the heart becomes the reason the heart continues to beat at all..... Helpful?????????
2006-06-14 12:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interests change , sex gets you involved with each other. I have gone steady with the same chick for 60 years, married 57 and I stilll love her. There is more than sex in a true union of people
2006-06-14 12:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by namasta@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No married couples don't always lose interest in each other. It's ok to look at someone else, but don't touch, is my rule. We have been married for 40 years, and love each other more now than ever. I wish you luck. Sounds like you have a great marriage.
2006-06-14 12:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's sound like you answer your own question already.
by what you said you sound like you in love with your man and you shouldn't care for what everyone else say.
No matter who you marry , there always going to be someone more attractive, successful , or even caring. your man is not going to be perfect in front of everyone eyes. but the important thing is you man is perfect in your eyes or not ?
it is normal for a couple to fight , VERY NORMAL.
Perfection is not love. if you marry someone just because of perfection it would be easy , but less magical.
and just trust in your relationship. if he feel the same way you do about him he prob. won't cheat on you.
2006-06-14 11:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by haha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well-you probably made a very bad choice in choosing her for your maid of honor! If she can't see how happy you are and how much you love your husband then you don't really need her as a friend. It doesn't matter what job he doesn and what job you do, as long as both of you love each other.
2006-06-14 11:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the couple and people in the marriage. I however do not feel that all couples do this... I am not losing interest in my marriage or my husband and i dont ever plan on it either. We have been together for almost 8 years and i love it. You need to stay strong and love him and stay true to him no matter what and choose not to yield to any temptation and he should not either. You remember your vows and stay true!
2006-06-14 13:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been married for a while. your friends have no idea what they're talking about because they're single. they're just sluts and have not expierienced marital happiness. i know lots of singles like that. i went out with lots of women when i was single so my wife is not my first but i've never been so attracted to a woman before
2006-06-14 11:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by Adam C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋