HE'S PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A CHILD EHE DOES NOT GET TO SEE. HIS EX WIFE REFUSES TO LET HIM SEE HIS DAUGHTER. HE'S COME TO A DECISION THAT HE WANTS TO RELINQUISH HIS RIGHTS AS A FATHER. BUT HE DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT HAVING HIS EX WIFE SIGN THE PAPERWORK. SHE SAYS SHE'S NOT GOING TO HAVE HER DAUGHTER THROWN TO THE STREET LIKE A DOG(WITH NO FATHER ). BUT THE LEGAL SYSTEM IS NOT HELPING MUCH. HIS LEGAL VISITATIONS ARE EVERY OTHER WEEKEND AND HE HAS NOT SEEN HER LATELY. LAST TIME WAS PROBABLY A LITTLE OVER TWO MONTHS AGO.
2006-06-14 04:40:09 · 17 answers · asked by MamiMe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As a previous single mom of 2, I was in the same boat. I am now remarried and had to deal with my current husband going thru that as well. Unfortunatley, child support and vistation are 2 different things. Ask yourself why his ex is refusing to let him see his daughter? If there is a court order, he can call the police or take her back to court to prove that she is not abiding by the court order. He can not just stop paying support cuz he doesnt get to see the daughter. There may be a lot more to this than the surface shows. Think carefully. Is this the type of man you want to father your child? He should want to build a relationship with the daughter. If not, he needs to go thru the legal system to sever his ties to the child, regardless how long it takes. Good luck.
2006-06-14 04:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by wicked stepmom 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has a duty to support the child he helped to create. Period. It does not matter if he has seen her once. Visitation and child support are two separate issues. The mother is right not wanting to bastardize her child and leave the child without a father. If there is no one able to step in and adopt the child would have no legal father. That is not right to do to a child. If he wants to see his daughter he needs to file a lawsuit in order to do so or to enforce the order that he already has. However, given that he wants to relinquish his rights it could be that he does not exhibit the traits necessary to be a father and he may be a bad influence on the child. I don't know you and I don't know your family but I can't imagine what could possibly lead him to think that the best thing to do is to give up his rights to his child to get out of paying child support. Has he really considered the ramifications of this to him and his daughter? This could psychologically traumatize his daughter for years to come. Is he really OK with doing that?
2006-06-14 04:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by jennypoo803 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to contact his lawyer about her breach of custody agreements and go through the courts. I know in PA, child support and custody/visitation are completely seperate and independant of the other. IE a father must pay if he never sees a child, and another father could see the child all the time and never pay if the mother never went through the procedure of support collection.
Secondly, why is the childs mother not letting him see his child? And why would he wish to give up rights because of that, just to get out of paying. That is really pretty disgusting. He should fight to see his daughter and at least she'll know that he loves her and by the time she is able to realize it, she'll love her father for that even if her mother never let her see him.
Good luck in this situation.
2006-06-14 04:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mariah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can go back to court and demand his rights. If he is paying child support, she cannot keep him from the child if he was granted visitation. Might even get a cop to go with him to inforce the visitation. If he wants to give up his rights, the mother brought it upon herself. He needs to do what he honestly thinks is best. If she's horrible to him and talks bad about him to the child, maybe being out of the picture would give the child a better home life, since she's quit being as bitter. Or it could make it worse. I just feel for the child. Cause what if the mother tells her Daddy stopped loving her and she (or he) feels discarded? Just be careful!
2006-06-14 04:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband can not give up his parental rights to his child unless there is another man willing to adopt the child. This man would have to be married to the ex-wife. Why would he want to give up his child anyway? Doesn't he love her?
He really needs to find a way to get visitation with his daughter. Is there a visitation agreement in place that has been signed by the court? If so, and he is supposed to have visitation but his ex-wife refuses to allow him to do so, he can file contempt charges against his ex-wife. He needs to contact the court where the visitation agreement was entered and find out how to go about filing contempt charges. He needs to file contempt charges on EVERY occasion when he is supposed to get his daughter, but the ex-wife refuses.
2006-06-14 04:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a court order the police CAN enforce it. If you don't want to go there file a "contempt of court" charge at the family court. She will be forced to adhere to the court order or face fines and possible jail time. If your husband is willing to give up his parental rights, after only 2 months, you should really think about his lack of love for his child. This is a very disturbing fact, and don't be surprised if he turns his back on your children one day. This is a warning sign, that you will probably ignore. If he is able to terminate his parental rights, he will still have to pay child support.
2006-06-14 04:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to contact an attorney and let the attorney know what is going on. The attorney can get the visitations legally enforced. What his ex-wife is doing his wrong. If he is paying child support, he has a right to see his daughter.
2006-06-14 04:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child's mother can not stop him from seeing his child if he has legal visitations. He needs to return to court with proof that she is denying him his rights as a father. He needs to be sure to show up every weekend to pick up his daughter and have it documented by witnesses that she refuses to allow him his legal rights.
2006-06-14 04:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 03:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by belfast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is financially obligated to his child. If the mother isn't letting him see his child, his only choice is to take her to court for contempt. Maybe if he really wants to relinquish his rights, this might get to her to sign the paperwork. One issue has nothing to do with the other - regarless of how "fair" it is. I can't imagine wanting to relinquish my rights but to each his own.
2006-06-14 04:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋