2006-06-14 04:24:49 · 14 answers · asked by Help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The relationship may not have worked, but you shaired feelings for the person, you ceared about his person for many years and developed a strong bond when you got married. This is a difficult thing to break. You will allways have feelings for her, becouse you have gotten to know her and care for her on a deep and personal level. The marrage may not have worked out, but the relationship might still be there. She most likely has the same feelings about you. I hate to overstep my boundires, but you should call her and get together to chat about this, let her know and see how she feels as well. This may help you accept this love, which is perfactly natural and healthy, as long as it doesn't become and absession or prevent you from living. You will fall in love agin but it won't be the same, she will allways be a part of you and you will allways be a part of her. You shaired a life togther and that is a strong bond.
2006-06-14 04:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by theaterhanz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there & did that, It is a heart thing and my advice is to try to keep busy enough that your mind will not go there. If you can do not see or talk to her because it all comes rushing back again. Do not ask yourself what you could have done different to have kept your marriage going. If the other person is done with you it will not work to go back ...never go back after two years!Make a new life,hope is around the corner and you need to be ready with an open mind..nobody wants to be with you if you are still hanging on to the past. Happly remarried for 18 years.Bye
2006-06-14 11:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Twinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still in love with my X after 21 years! We're still good friends. We got divorced because we didn't work together well as a couple, but singly, we're great together. I know that sounds odd, but it's true. We had two children together, so we were forced to continue communicating. Through the years we learned to accept each other as individuals and discovered that what brought us together in the first place is still there. I admire and trust him and enjoy his wry sense of humor. Our kids are grown up now, we've lived in different parts of the country for years and have been in good relationships with other partners, too, but we still stay connected. You don't have to be with someone to love them comfortably. I hope that you can achieve the same with your X.
2006-06-14 13:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by just_love2be 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could stem from a lot of things, you could just be scared to get in the dating world or there could be some unfinished business in the relationship before the divorce. I felt the same way after my first husband and i got divorced and i am still getting over it, from 4 years ago. I feel like the divorce was my fault and like i didnt do enough to try to resolve the issues. My guess is your divorce was semifriendly, like mine, and you never got to the HATE point of the relationship.
2006-06-14 11:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by koolaidsmile1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you miss the security she provided. and there hasnt been closure apparently. After about two years, the hurt starts to fade and you are left with the melancholy feelings, and you begin to remember the good things. Good Luck to you.
2006-06-14 11:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably in love with her because she might still be pretty and cute..........and that is maybe what you are still looking for. i am only 13 so i wouldnt really know but this kid dumped and still has feelings for me and is trying to ask me out again, but i already have someone, so try to replace her and if you cant you will be missing out. sorry i couldnt be more helpful.
2006-06-14 11:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she still in love with you? Depending on her reaction to you, maybe you two belong together. Marriage should be forever. If she wants to be with you, too, then you two should get counseling and work towards getting back together. If she wants nothing to do with you, then you should get counseling on your own to help you get over her.
2006-06-14 11:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she was very special to you. Maybe you shouldn't have gotten divorced. Just because you are divorced doesn't mean that you will forget her and stop loving her.
2006-06-14 11:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by Ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you were one of the lucky people that found their soul mates. Too bad it didn't work out.
2006-06-14 11:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause you still want her and need to find a way too getting her back if you truly love her.
2006-06-14 11:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋