so right when you should be more united thatn ever because you recently had a new-born child together...HE CHEATS, HE BETRAYITS, HE LIES, HE BREAKS YOUER HEART......
So you give him a 2d chance (since its the first time this happens & you still gut the baby blues...)
DO THINGS EVER GO BACK TO NORMAL..??
WILL YOU EVER BE AVEL TO BE WITH THIS PERSON AGAIN WITH OUT THINKING ON THE BACK OF YOUR MIND ALL THE THINGS HE DID.. (that you know of) AND ALL THE THINGS HE MIGHT OFF DONE THAT YOU DONT KNOW ABOUT....
2006-06-14 04:08:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It all depends on you if you want to go back to normal, but it is very unlikely. You will probably never trust him, and it's just gonna break your heart. You may love him truly and deeply, but if you feel like it's going to tear you apart, you need to either get rid of him or try a couples therapy. It's possible he could have felt that with this child, he'll never be able to be a kid again and see his options for other girls. So maybe that was it, and if it was, you need to have him think things over and make a true decision if he wants to be loyal to you or still be a kid. Good luck with that, and I do know that it's easier said than done when talking about leaving the one you love. My boyfriend sort of cheated on me. He met this girl online and talked about meeting her, and had cyber sex and all that, but we're okay now. So.. maybe it's time you need. But really, good luck!
2006-06-14 04:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Doesnt Matter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, things don't go back to normal. Whatever normal is. You will always have it in the back of your mind. The trust may come back in time, but you will never feel the same. Consider seeing a councelor, even if it is just to get you through all of this and help you make the decision that is best for you and your baby.
2006-06-14 04:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by crazycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know,i had just had my second child and found out my husband had been cheating on me.Yes, i took him back ,hell,he's my husband.But on my birthday I found out he was cheating with our cousin.That's right, my cousin by her mom,he's by her dad.I was pissed. if it were'nt for my girls i'd be in prison. He gave me a divorce,they live together they have 2 retarded kids and still at times i laugh,but, my kids are healthy,happy girls.He still comes around every now and then ,but, not for the girls,just to have sex!! WHAT KIND OF BULL.... anyways,there is no real way to ever forget or to have that longing question of who,what,when, in the back of your head.To be honest I don't think you can ever regain the trust you had at first.You will never have a peaceful day,you'll always wonder where he is ,why, and who he's with.even if he tells the truth,to you it will be a lie.
I'm Sorry Love!
2006-06-14 04:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by hermese b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they are all wrong....... My husband cheated on me before i gave him second chance.... (of course with my guard up)..... But it happened.... We now have a Nice family and love each other dearly, he swear to me to never hurt me like that again it' been 3 yrs and not one have i heard ,seen ,and caught him looking or talking to another girl with out say "Hi so n so... This is MY WIFE" so yes cheater can change!! ... Believe me "where there's a will there a way" ..... u just have to forgive and forget, of course u'll always have Ur guards up...... but if u cant forget the past then u have no future...........
2006-06-14 04:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take awile. but if you are not married, its really not worth all the time, energy, emotions, heartbreak, worries, stress, etc......to find it in your heart to trust this person again, move on and fall deeply in love is far away and alot of times it takes a miracle!! seperate, do your thing, and if its meant to be get back together. but he is the one that needs to be earning back the trust and fighting to keep the relationship alive not you!!! you need to focus first on your new beautiful baby, then you, and then him(he needs to be last)
2006-06-14 04:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, kick his butt to the curb. Do you want your kid to be raised by someone with no morals. He is a liar, a cheat, and has absolutely no morals. You can never trust him again. How's it gonna feel when he gets someone else pregnant or gives you an STD.
2006-06-14 04:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bill S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are in a bad situation. If you were to cheat on him ???? what would he do. he is a new father the most wonderful time in his life ( at least it should be) He does not respect you or the covenent of marriage. Get out.
2006-06-14 04:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by bigblock_475_hp d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things never go back to normal...yes you think about it...it happened to me many years ago yet it hurts every day...leave him...he will do it again...i tried the second chance thing...and it happened all over again...i wish you all the luck in the world...do what is best for you and your baby...and in my opinion...he is definitely not it
2006-06-14 04:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by countrygirlcansurvive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby and i had issues like that 10 years ago and now we are great! It did take along time for me to get over it though.
2006-06-14 17:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first mistake you made was giving him a 2nd chance. Us guys are more likely to **** up the 2nd time.
2006-06-14 04:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋