For the past two years i've known this guy who has been the most amzing guy i've ever met...at times. This time last year we decided to start going out and we were in a serious releationship for 10 months. After 10 months we started having little problems and arguing. I thought it was normal and we alwasy talked things out and made things right. After 10 months of being serious and planning out our lives and the "I love you's" he decided he didn't want to be in a relationship with me anymore because he said he didn't want to hurt me. So we broke up and the next day he was going out with a younger girl...in the times that we weren't together...we often talked and he said he still loved me and thought of me. Now he's not with his ex and he wants to rekindle things. After all i've been put through...having my heart broken and having to deal with him just leaving is it right to trust him again? Is it right to have hope in him? One side of me wants to say No but, I love him, is that enough?
2006-06-14 04:06:33 · 8 answers · asked by o0only_one 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would say no. Sounds like you were nothing more than plan 'b'.
2006-06-14 04:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by hhhthegame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you've been hurt too badly. Once someone hurts you like that, something is lost and you never feel the same way about that person. He sounds very insensitive, and I think he would just hurt you again. It's time to let it go, and find someone you will give all of themselves to you. I'm going through something similiar and that's what I'm trying to do. Hanging on and prolonging the inevitable will just put you through more hurt. There is someone better out there for you.
2006-06-14 11:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by sugarcakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO its not enough. Obviously he doesn't love you, regardless of what he might say-actions speak louder then words. He wanted to try younger blood he saw that it didn't work and now he is thinking-what the hell she is there and she will take me back and forgive me, why not. He wanted to test the waters and see what is out there before settling with you. Well if he truly loved you he will not have the need to do so-he would know that you are the perfect for him. My advice, drop him completely out of your life. Someone way better is out there for you, someone who deserves your love and friendship. It will he hard in the beginning but you can do it.
2006-06-14 11:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one...'cause really the only one that knows the answer is you. You will get alot of answers telling you to dump the dude. I would normally be one of those. I guess I still lean heavily in that direction.
But I do believe that everyone gets 1 free pass for most stupid actions. You need to get past the surface emotions and mental games, and ask your heart if you believe he is sincere now. Remind yourself that you also thought he was sincere the first time around. Then look for signs, both negative and positive, and let your heart decide.
I would be worried that he did it once, he might do it again. But then again, speaking from experience, sometimes we do make dumb mistakes, and later see them for what they are - dumb mistakes. Then we try to learn from them.
Maybe he is sincere, maybe he's the worst form of a liar (a believable one!). You need to try to put aside your feelings for him, and try to assess his feelings for YOU.
Best of luck.
2006-06-14 11:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by tallcowboy0614 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him I have been there before. Even though they hurt you if you really love someone the love doesn't go away overnight. But you know what you will never trust him throughly again. I would try to move on with someone else and just see if there could be someone else and let him see how it feels. Men can be such dogs sometimes.
2006-06-14 11:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by T B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in this situation more than once & every time i take the person back, i regret it. if there is something telling you to say no, then trust your gut. what he's doing is he's coming back to you when he has nothing else. once he does have something, he drops you. i know that you're going to find someone that appreciates you. healthy relationships aren't about arguing all the time & breaking up & getting back together & breaking up again & getting back together again. you deserve much more & i KNOW that you can find it.
2006-06-14 11:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Linda Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him, and he definately does not love you, or he wouldn't have ended it in the first place. Don't be someone's second choice, when you can be someone else's first.
2006-06-14 11:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I GUESS YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF A FUE QUESTIONS AND HONESTLY ANSWER THEM. DO YOU TRUST HIM? IS HE USING YOU AS A BACK SPLASH? DOES HE REALY LOVE YOU? WOULD YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HIM? MABY YOU HOLD ALL YOUR OWN ANSWERS. IS HE GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU/ DOES HE DESERVE YOU, OR DO YOU DESERVE BETTER?
2006-06-14 11:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by mom2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋