How can i improve my sex life with my Husband?

Question

I want to know how i can improve my sex life with my husband to make him happier in the bedroom..... I do not think i please him well enough in bed.... what would your advice be/

(please do not leave any rude or mean comments on this i am serious this is a serious question and i would truley like serious answers)

Answer 1

I would suggest you go to a local book store and buy a book in the sexuality section on things you can do in the bedroom. joy of sex is one of them, there are many more out there that can be helpful. find the book that appeals to you most and learn about the many things one can do. it is educational and can be very helpful.

Answer 2

There are a lot of good suggestions already. I have also heard about strip classes that women generally really like. They teach you how to strip, but it also is empowering. There are many celebrities who do it and love it. Perhaps your husband would enjoy that.

Some of the things I have done include, sending the kids to Grandma's for the night and lighting a fire in the fireplace. I had a picnic set out with wine and cheese and soft music. I also had a basket with massage oils and gave my husband a full body massage. He really enjoyed that. Nothing strictly sexual, but bordering on it. I mean, what could be better than two naked, greasy bodies? It really got things going.

Usually, it only takes a little something different or a change in the routine to spice things up a bit. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

I can relate with you on the question and I have searched the Internet many times on what more I could do. There are many things that you could do but the big question is, what does he like? You have to know what he likes and how he likes it. If he is comfortable about talking about sex then you should talk to him about what you both like in the bedroom and I am sure that things will pick up more and more. Experimenting is a good things to try as well. Just don't go too far with it. Good luck.

Answer 4

The only way to improve your sex life is to leave him out of it. It is apparent that if he has saved naked pics of another woman on a personal computer in the past, then he is obviously in the mood, just not with you. It isn't that it's hard for him to touch you, the truth is that he doesn't want to. The only reason why sexual interaction happens between you two in the first place is because the other lady isn't in the mood. So basically, you're the last resort. I don't mean to sound rude and blunt but sometimes a wife's worst enemy is "denial"

Answer 5

really get him going beforehand. Your mouth is a powerful key to making a man happy, not just in the oral sex category. You can kiss all over him and maybe play games like him having to hold his hands behind his head if he touches you than you start your teasing completely over. when he hasnt touched you for a good while then you can reward him with some great oral or just great sex. Take charge! A man doesnt always wanna be in charge in the bedroom. Last but not least, put a little fantasy into it, let his mind fantasize while you talk dirty with him, a man always loves it when there woman is so hot that they are talking very naughty. There is just a few things that I would like to have tried on me if my sex life wasnt quite up to par.

Answer 6

Sex is not just physical. Start it at the beginning of the day. Make his mind wonder all day by saying that you have something special planned for that night. Call him during the day or hide a note in his jacket pocket. Make him think of you all day. If his mind is tuned to you all day he will be so ready for what you have to give him when he gets home. Then you can do all sorts of things. Take charge like slave said. Or do something romantic like a candle light picnic on the bedroom floor. Make it all about him. I promise if you do you will actually receive more pleasure yourself as well. Good luck!

Answer 7

I can't stress this enough...Communication, communication, communication! You simply can't be affraid to devulge your likes and ask him about his. Does he like "this touch"? What is a fantasy you would like me to help you with? Watch a porn film together and if you see something you like going on in the film ask if he'd like to try that. The trick to good sex above all is TRUST. Both of you must trust each other enough to be able to let your hidden passions come out and willing to share. If you can't do that then honey I garantee you'll be most unhappy and so will he. At least in the bed room anyway. My hubby and I had a hard time at first, we came up with writting out sexy questions and put them in a hat and drew them. If it was a question we'd answer it Honestly...if it was an act we'd like try or have done to us we do it. The rule was if either of us was totally freaked out by the dare, it was ok, no judgements period! It was discovered after a bit of thinking on the freaky thing, we'd tried some of them and WHO KNEW?! Freaky works for us at times. (nothing morbid or hurtful mind you, geez we're not total weirdos:)
We've been married 19 years now, he's one hell of a lover and we always have something new to discover. Good luck.

Answer 8

I am married as well. My husband seems bored and unintrested. I came flat out and told my husband to just tell me what he wants and i would do anything. I thought this would help....well it hasnt but it may for you. I dont believe in being shy in the bedroom. i dont beliive my husband can read my mind si i let him know what i wanbt, what i want to do and that i am willing to do anything to ake him happy. Try it I think most men want a woppman who is not timid about sex and who will show a good heallthy appetite for it. Hope this helps

Answer 9

Well, search on the internet or go to the library to find out some good things to do. Usually Cosmo or other 'ladies' magazines have tips and tricks for the bedroom.

Answer 10

I know how you feel. My hubby tells me I don't please him quite enough. He says he likes foreplay, lots of it and he doesn't like to be the one to initiate sex all the time. If I would approach him a little more often he would be happier. He says men like their women to be a little kinky in the bedroom and that's hard for me. Try food. That's fun.