why do men cheat?

Question

my husband and I have been married for three years togather for six. durring that time he has cheated on me on 5 times 4 of the times was befor we got married the last time was 2 years ago he has since gained my trust and I know in my heart that hes faithful now. just want a mans perspective on why they do it and what turns them around.

my husband told me that he realized that what he has at home is better than what he could get outside so what do you think took him so long to figure it out

Answer 1

well i have never cheated on a girl but i have been cheated on by a lot of girls so yall do it to. now the reason for these things is either they get board with the sex life, just dont have the self control to say no in that position, they feel that you aren't giving them the same love and respect that you once did. or they just dont like the idea of one girl for the rest of their life. any case a good strong close relationship should stop these things (exept the idea of one girl) but if you stay faithfull and loving and give your man the respect he needs with some sex to then you should be able to stop him from cheating.

Answer 2

maybe he might b bored with the relationship, tired of doing the same thing all the time, i agree if u love someone u should only b with them period, but if everyone felt that way than it would b a perfect world and we both know that's not the case, try going away on little trips 2 spice things up, do different things, things like that can help a relationship and prevent it from getting 2 a cheating point, i think people cheat when they r not happy with there relationship, but if he cheated on u that many times than maybe he's not the 1 4 u. goodluck

Answer 3

Men cheat for the same reasons that WOMEN Cheat.

They are not getting what they need at Home.

A content man (or women) seldom strays.

I know that when I'm being "taken care of"... I can't even THINK of another woman.

Add that to the AVAILABILITY of women who give them an outlet, and the picture is VERY clear.

I hate that on these CHEATING question... the ASKER always is the VICTIM. It's like HOW could he do this to me... How could SHE do this to me... Completely clueless that in many cases, he or she PUSHED him or HER into the arms of the other person.

Relationships are HARD WORK... they require MAINTENANCE not unlike any mechanical system. Try neglecting your new Mercedes oil changes and GAS, and see how long it continues to WORK for you.

Sorry to be blunt... but time and observation has told me this is true.

Answer 4

Not sure why you even married him. How could you gain his trust back. Don't be so naive. He will do it again and again as long as you continue to take him back. If you threaten to cheat on him and he doesn't seem to care. Start thinking about the big D. Life is not over for you and you deserve better. Trust me!

Answer 5

I personally think that men might cheat because they are stupid. First off if a guy cheats then that right there shows that you don't mean everything in the world to him. If you really meant something to him then he would know that cheating was bad and that it would hurt you if you found out, so he wouldn't do it. Also maybe because some men might think that the "female" doesn't really love him. People cheat because they haven't found true love.

Answer 6

My BF as cheated on me at least 5 times that I know of, but I always say that there is some good in him (why else would I have stayed with him for 5 years). My belief is that men cheat for many different reasons. Some will cheat beacuse it's an ego thing, some will try to go after that one thing that they can't have while others see it as the thrill of the conquest. My BF use to go for women who are 2 1/2 times his age. I believed that he did it beacuse he wanted to see if he could get older woman to sleep with him (and he always succeeds) sometimes we as women allow ourselves to feel that there is no other way out. I gave him many opportunities, but I tell myself that he will tire himself out. That's what happened to your husband, he finally realized that there really is no other way but to love and cherish the one he married, the one whom God has blessed your marriage to. Build your trust in him again but dump him if he ever cheats on you agian.

Answer 7

I was an *** and cheated on my first two wives. I think alot of it was youth and stupidity, but it was also just the excitement of it, the rush you get from getting attention from someone else. In both my cases the woman came on to me initially, and I think part of it was flattery, and alot of it was just horniness *L* Sorry to be so crass, but I guess it made me feel desireable. Also there was just the attraction of some strange body parts (I mean, new and different, on a stranger *L*).

I am now on my third wife, and love her to death. I would never dream of cheating on her...partly because I see what it caused in my past, and because I don't want to feel like a crappy person anymore. But mostly because I just couldn't hurt her like that. I think again, that alot of it also has to do with maturity. My life and experience has taught me that it just isn't worth it.

MY .02 cents worth, anyway.

Answer 8

Since the beginning of time, men naturally desire to spread their seed. The world would no longer be without that basic intinct. Your best bet would be finding an artistic, slightly feminine, sensitive guy who will be loyal till the end of time, but we all know thats not what a woman needs. Otherwise, you may have to deal with the excessive infidelity. Sorry to be the one to break it to you, just dont hurt me, im fragile.

Answer 9

my x wife was kinda big when we met, but after we got together she felt really relaxed because she thought i was too ugly to get anybody better and she got really fat. then she developed a really smart mouth, and a hatred for most everyone else in this world... ie... skinny girls, "unruly" children including her own nieces and nephews), men, etc...

so she just sat on her ***, putting me and everyone else down. saying bad things about everything i ever did or didnt do. watching day time talk tv she contiued getting fatter. day in and day out but she still demanded to be told how beautiful she was and bla bla bla.

she wanted more sex too but she would fail to shave her legs or even consider her feminine hygiene which is really bad when you have have a bf thet likes to perform orally. even when there was nasty discharge she just couldn't figure out why she should have to worry about herself at all... let alone change her "most comfortable shorts" more than once very couple weeks.

so i am ashamed to admit that i cheated. however i can tell you the exact reason why i did it...

i felt like SHE IS REPULSIVE, I DIDNT WANT TO TOUCH HER anymore, yet i still wanted to be sexual and at the ripe old age of 23 and i just felt like i wouldnt be able do without sex at all.

i was wrong in the way i handled everything, but my xwife didnt really have the right to expect anything more either.

so how do you treat your husband??

are you the kind of woman who works hard at work and at home?

are you making an attempt to be attractive in HIS eyes?

do you demand respect by giving it and then refusing to accept anything less?

OR... are you like the other women in this situation, refusing to exercise at all, overly critical of your man, mean, demanding, smelly and unshaven????

if you are not the latter then you have a right to demand more, i am confused why youd even tolerate this much bulldookie.

but if that last description is you, go ahead and prepare for more bitches on the side. because you dont go out for hamburger when you have steak at home unless...

...the steak is too tough to chew, has enough fat on it to kill a man, and doesnt taste good when he wants to eat it...

if you know what i mean?

Answer 10

OH SWEETIE, HE CHEATED FIVE TIMES AND NOW YOU KNOW HE'S NOT CHEATING? TAKE YOUR BLINDERS OFF. I'M NOT TRYING TO RUIN YOUR HAPPINESS, I JUST HATE IT WHEN WOMEN WALK AROUND WITH BLINDERS ON.

YOU OBVIOUSLY WILL FORGIVE HIM AGAIN AND AGAIN AND A MILLION TIMES OVER. THAT'S FINE. WELL FINE FOR YOU ANYHOW, BUT IF A MAN/WOMAN CHEATS FIVE TIMES, WHAT COULD POSSIBLE MAKE YOU THINK HE/SHE WON'T DO IT AGAIN AND AGAIN? A PERSON THAT CHEATS THAT MANY TIMES, HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE. YOU'RE SIMPLY A FLOOR MAT TO HIM, WHERE HE WIPES HIS FEET.

HE'S BOTH ONE OF THE LUCKIEST MEN ON EARTH TO HAVE FOUND SUCH A LOVING AND FORGIVING WOMAN AND ONE OF THE MOST IDIOTIC AND SELFISH MEN ON EARTH TO CONTINUOSLY TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU LIKE THAT. UNBELIEVABLE. YOU KNOW HE WILL ONLY GO AS FAR AS YOU LET HIM.

I DON'T KNOW THE SITUATION, ONLY WHAT YOU'VE SAID, BUT I'M THINKING YOU'VE MADE IT TOO EASY FOR HIM. WHY DO MEN CHEAT? DEPENDS ON THE MAN. NOT ALL MEN CHEAT. MY THEORY IS (AND IT'S MINE, I BASE IT ON MY THINKING) MEN HAVE A CHEATING GENE IN THEIR BODY AND SOMETIMES IT STAYS DORMANT, MOST TIMES IT DOESN'T. WOMEN CHEAT TOO. AND IN TODAYS WORLD WOMEN ARE NOW GETTING AS BAD AS MEN.

SO GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND I SINCERELY HOPE YOUR MAN WAKES UP AND REALIZES WHAT A GOOD THING HE HAS AND DOESN'T DO IT AGAIN.

HE NOW REALIZES WHAT HE HAS AT HOME IS BETTER THAN WHAT HE'S GETTING OUT THERE? HE'S RIGHT, BUT I THINK HE'S STILL BULLSH*TTING YOU GIRL.