Theres this girl that is a total ***** to me. Mostly because im from a wealthy family and she always made remarks like "you little rich kids dont know what its like to be poor". When i was younger i always had my mom make two lunches, one for me and one for her. Then when we hit high school, she turned to a *****. But i always remained faithful and kept being nice to her. Couple days ago i actually invited her over to my house. She did come over and it was like we were 9 years old again. My friends are rude to her back but i dont see the point of that so im still nice. Well last night there was graffitti in front of the gates of my house. When my dad went over the security camera, it showed her and her friends spray painting our gates, and breaking down the buzzer so we can open the gates from inside teh house. why did she do this? Also why is she acting different with her friends than by herself?
2006-06-14 03:41:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Peer pressure. It is the strongest force to a changing being than any other. It is not rational, nor is it very nice sometimes.
2006-06-14 03:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that peer pressure will make people act differently than they would when they are alone. She wants to be your friend but she also wants to fit in with her other friends too. People can be very vicious behind your back and I'm sure her friends are pressuring her to be mean to you.
Spray painting your house is not acceptable. You may want to ask her why she would do something like that to you. Tell her that you have never looked down on her for having less money than you so why does she look down on you for having more?
I think it is wonderful of you to continue being nice to her despite her meanness. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing. But you may have to face it that there is a possibility that loyalty to her group of friends may be stronger than her loyalty to you. Don't try to get revenge on her, but don't be hurt by what is going on. She probably has more problems than you know about.
2006-06-14 10:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may have felt like ur friends did her dirty so it was okay for her and her friends to do something that would hurt u. did it work? that may be how she felt. she may think that ya'll look down on them b/c she hasnt had what she thinks that she should. she may act differently around them b/c they have the stronger influence and they are the ppl that she feels most comfortable with. she may have known it was wrong what she did.she may also kno that not everyone acts like ur friends did. if u didnt join in u should have tried to stop them. this would have made the greatest impact on her and she probaly wouldnt act the same. but now the damage is done and everyone needs to apologize and move on. she will either accept it or not but if u do, u did ur part and it is upon her to forgive u. she should do the same. u should forgive her and move on. either she will like u for who u r or she wont.
2006-06-14 10:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by npjcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that she is simply, jealous. Jealousy will make a person turn into someone that you may have never known that they could be. Being poor is somthing that you can always pull yourself out of with hard work. I think that she is holding onto that becuase she is in a comfort zone....a zone that doesn't require her to work hard to pull out of her current situation. It also could be becuase she is lazy and doesn't want to take responsibiltiy for her actions...
Plus friends are obviously feeding her with angry thoughts as well....rememebr misery loves company and it sounds to me like that's where she is at in her life.
2006-06-14 10:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Stellar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peer pressure, she obviously needs some new friends. Some more like you maybe. Those people she's hanging out with are not her friends. You need to talk to her about it soon. Good luck!
2006-06-14 10:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is doing grafitti writing just to get away with it with her friends to find something to do to make trouble. She wants to brake the law and that is wrong. You ought to call the Police Department and take her to court and get her arrested and lock her up in prison.
2006-06-14 10:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by roverspotblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peer pressure.
2006-06-14 10:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she is jealous of you so just ask her why
2006-06-14 10:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Randi P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋