I have been with my husband for 13 yrs. He isn't in the romantic thing. I feel like it's have sex and then go back to whatever you were doing. Any suggestions on how to change this?
2006-06-14 03:04:09 · 8 answers · asked by lrybio2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my boyfriend is totally not the romantic type either - but we do manage to have the romantic love making... mood is key (with both of you & the physical setting) - both of you being relaxed (and well rested), massage, no distractions, dim lighting, candles - all the typical stuff. but make sure you have lots of eye to eye contact, all over touching (not just the "big" areas) & little sweet kisses (in between the hot sexy kisses)... good luck!
2006-06-14 03:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by asherdaire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While sometimes it can be hard to make it romantic after lovemaking there are things you can do before hand that can be romantic.
Start by having dinner together, it can be out at your favorite restaurant, while having dinner, keep the conversation positive and talk about the romantic things you have done for each other over the years! You may also want to wear something you know he finds sexy on you. After dinner, have your bedroom ready, candles can be lit, soft, romantic music playing then you can remove all of his clothes and have him lay on the bed while he watches you remove all of yours! Now lay down next to him and start doing some of those romantic things you talked about during dinner.
I hope this helps you to rekindle some romance again in your relationship and congratulations on 13 years together!
2006-06-14 10:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok -- looks like I will be the first to shed some male prespective on your question. There is such thing as romantic love making but although that was your question the by-question was how do you spark up your love life after 13 years. Well Ive only been married for a year, but ive been with my wife almost four years. I think you just got to keep the element of surprize alive. like for me I will surprize my wife with a card/flowers out of the blue, a nice restraunt. Even a surprize party with all of our friends to let her know I appreciate her. Does that help??
2006-06-14 10:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by cowboysfan4lyfe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont u think that.. after sex u shud relax ;) n think abt something important in life.. which needs attention of both of u..
guess its the cooolest time when both the ppl satisfied n no worries.. n thats the time for making decisions..
think abt it... yeah there goes sooo many things like romantic.. which will help u in achieving that level of satisfaction...
2006-06-14 10:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by dats_Scorpion.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,,, you initiate,, catch him on the couch and try oral.
Surprise the heck out of him by jumping in the shower with him in the mornings.
Tease him, flirt with him, catch him unawares.
I suspect this will spark the flames of romance again.
2006-06-14 10:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not having sex for 2-3 weeks. Then i bet it will be all about romance!
Something my wife and i have done quite a few times.
2006-06-14 10:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Computer geek 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can unless he wants to. Men in general tend to get complacent in relationships, Why should we be romantic if we know that we have you. We are willing to be romantic to acquire your heart. If he thinks he is losing you. he mau be willing to fight for your heart.
2006-06-14 10:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by bigblock_475_hp d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to tell him what it is that you want. Like FOREPLAY. Hugging, kissing, massaging, softly rubbing back, neck, chest. Just get him to slow down.
2006-06-14 10:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋