If I get pregnant and I have only been?

Question

in my job for 2 months...what financial help do I get without a partner? Or if I lose my job and rent a room and thats obviously not going to last when it's a room in a house with 2 strangers who won't want a screaming baby..what can I do as I have no savings-by the way I am not pregnant now but I was before and I had to abort the twins and I REALLY regret it-just had no help from anyone and no job-really didn't know where to turn at all, tried to go to council offices/jobcentre-filled in forms and no reply. Tried working but kept fainting!?!!! (please don't tell me not to get preganant again or shouldn't of been-becuase that is obvious or tell me abortion is wrong-I KNOW and I regret it!!) Thankyou.xx

thanks for all the advice-but I live in the UK so a lot of this doesn't apply to me. I was thinking I could work from home but there are a lot of scams out there-anyone know much about that?

Answer 1

you poor thing i am so sorry you where in the postion, really you shouldn't worry about what you COULD have done to help support yourself because you will just beat urself up even more about aborting the pregnancy, but since you want to know

you could have got a docs cert to say that you were unfit to work, and taken it to the welfare office and gone on a payment and also applied for rental assit.

i am really so sorry that you had to go through what you did. and you need to stop beating urself up over it, whats done is done and can't be changed now, you will meet someone speical and be in the postion to afford a pregnancy and to support children and you'll be happy. You did the right thing, even if it feels like you havn't, you couldn't have supported those two babies and a pregnancy with twins with absolutly no support from anyone with no money and no place to live. keep ur chin up hey =)

Answer 2

Here's a list of places that can help you.

1.) Type in "Department of Human Services" AND your state into Yahoo! Search. It'll pull up a link through which you can find your nearest Department of Human Services.

2.) Go to the Department of Human Services. They tend to be open like a Secretary of State office, or a bank, M-F, 9-5 kind of deal. Make sure you have a day off where you can explore the streets and find it.

3.) There will be food stamp and health care forms there. Fill out as many forms as you can on the spot, if you cannot then go home and fill them out.

4.) They should contact you for an interview within 1 - 2 weeks, depending on how good your state is with helping needy people.

5.) At the interview, make sure you show proof of income, or that you have no income. Show a doctor's note that you are pregnant, and a doctor's note about your fainting condition if possible (this fainting is alarming, by the way, you should be eating properly, taking prenatal vitamins and not drinking or doing any drugs or smoking, dying your hair, taking over-the-counter medications, etc). You will need a social security card, and proof of citizenship and things like that.

6.) They'll respond to you within another week or two whether you qualified, but since you are sick and pregnant and virtually single and jobless you seem like a top candidate. You will probably qualify for a medical card and food stamps.

MEANWHILE, HERE'S A WAY TO GET TO A DOCTOR.

1.) Type in "Health Department" AND your state into the Yahoo! Search field.

2.) Find and locate a nearby location. Go there.

3.) I am in Illinois and my nearest Health Department offers WIC (nutritional assistance and advice for pregnant and new mothers) and KidCare, a lowcost or free insurance for pregnant women or new mothers. See what your state offers.

4.) The Health Department has doctors and nurses there that are qualified, and they are obligated to see you, whether you have insurance or money or NOT. They will see you.

ANOTHER OPTION FOR IMMEDIATE HELP

1.) Go to your local county office. Where I live, the counties offer utility assistance and every county office has an assistance program and case worker. They can help you.

2.) Contact your nearest Catholic church, as many run food programs and shelters. I am also aware of Protestant churches. Most Christian places will not turn someone away when they need help.

Answer 3

Its okay, there is always bad ways to abort-people that go out and do their thing get pregnant and then hurry and abort because its what they want. You really didn't have a choice. I know where you are coming from, I had to give my son up for adoption. And I am now just getting to be okay with it. And its been a year. I would have to say the best thing is to go over to the local department of child and family services, and fill out forms, and then keep aggravating them about getting it processed. And keep your job, and wait a while for the benefits to kick in before having another child. And to the chick that is *appalled about taxpayers or people paying for other people mistakes* DON'T EVER THINK THAT A CHILD IS A MISTAKE! I am appalled to think that someone would ever think that a child is a mistake, and further more its not a child's fault that some people plan to be welfare parents, but for some its the only way to get through life. I was on it too, and now I pay tax for another person to pay for the formula and diapers for their kid.

Answer 4

you need to wrk on making your life stable for yourself before you try to have any children... get a job and keep it for at least a year, start saving as much as possible, and then you should try to get your own place to live... I bought my first home while pregnant at the age of 19! it cost little more than renting @$530.00 month plus utilities. I had only $1,000 to put down and a job making $13.00/ hr. I worked up until 2 weeks before my son was born and while I was on medical leave I got help from the local social services they have hud and tanif. It would have ben better if I could have saved a little more before i bought the house so I would not have had to use these services...but you have to do whaat you have to do.

Answer 5

First I would wait longer if you want children now. Because being at a job two months doesnt really secure your position. Plus when getting pregnant you do get sick and sometimes more than others. I was so sick when I got pregnant I couldnt work. There was no way. If you get that way at a new job they most likely wont keep you... and you will be in a bad position. Just give yourself time to get it together. If you dont have it together this baby and pregnancy will be very hard. VERY hard.

Answer 6

You were right in not having children if you cant financially support them.

Think about it...you should do ANYTHING to avoid welfare and section 8. Is that how you want to raise a child? On welfare? I certainly don't think it's fair to us taxpayers to have to pay for other peoples mistakes. Why should you get any help if you make a choice to have a child when you cant afford it?

I am appalled that you are looking for others to be responsible for supporting a child when all you have to do is not get pregnant. I am also appalled that there are people here who appear to think it's OK to get knocked up and expect the government to do what you should be able to do by yourself.

Answer 7

My name is Deborah I had my first baby at 17. I had some help I can say but my mom had no job, so I had to support my baby and I, I had a part time Job, so I drop out of school to take care of him, But when the time was right I got on welfare and went back to school got my GED, and now i attend a technical school, What I am trying to say to you, no matter wat your age, no matter if you do are dont have help, you have to do what you have to do, this life depends on you, just cause you make a mistake, you cant give up, I am sure If you live in America that you can find help, and find a apartment there is section 8, Metropolitan Housing, HUD things of that nature.
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Answer 8

I now you dont want to hear it, but th simple answer is to not get pregnant until you have a supportive partner to help you both emotionally and finacially. A job cannot fire you for being pregnant, no matter how long you've been there, but they can fire you for not being able to preform your job duties with minimal adjustments. There are state run agencys that will help you get through your pregnancy if you do decide to get pregnant... but I will say again. JUST DONT GET PREGNANT AND YOU WON"T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT ANY OF THIS!!!!!

Answer 9

Check with your state agencies, there's food stamps and TANF (welfare) to help with money, there's section 8 to help with housing, there's all kinds of help out there, you just have to keep trying. Don't take no for an answer and keep bugging them until they tell you how to apply. If you call your local DFS (Division of Family Services) office they can assign a case worker to help you.

Answer 10

If you do get pregnant and you don't feel that you would be able to care for and support the child you should look into adoption. There are a lot of couples out there who can't have children and are anxious to find one to adopt.