I kept off. But recently he tried calling saying he wld like to chip in for my kid up keep? He is living with the woman. Is he trying to get back to me through my child?
2006-06-14 02:08:28 · 13 answers · asked by chizi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not real sure what you mean by "ex" since it seems that your "union" was dissolved rather informally. If it is an ex-boyfriend (not an ex-husband), and if the child is his genetic progeny, he may be trying to meet his legal obligation to, as you say, chip in for the kid. If it is not his kid, you may be correct and he is trying to buy his way back. But a serial fornicator is probably not to be trusted.
BTW, if this is his kid, talk to a lawyer ... he should be paying child support in any case!
2006-06-14 02:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look after yourself & your kid ok & don't worry about anyone else.
So if it helps you, take the money for the kid, and ignore who said what.
How do u know he bad mouthed you? What people tell you as gossip is usually suspect - why did someone tell you this? Who told you? it might / might not even be true depending on who said it & whether they even got their facts right. Or if he said something bad, he might have meant it, or he might just have said something dumb in the wrong moment. You'll never know.
And you have a kid and so don't have time to think about crap like that. If the money would help you and your kid, take it and use it.
As for whether he wants you back - that's irrelevant. The question you gotta answer to yourself is, do you want him?
If you do, tell him. If you don't, say nothing, take the money, and look after yourself & your kid.
2006-06-14 02:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by sam r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A fb restraining order? am i able to chuckle now? as a lot as i don't love fb, that information superhighway website purely made it available so as that you'll discover the style of guy you've been in touch with. he's a liar and a cheat and also you need to be grateful you probably did not marry him. you've a superb opportunity now to get your existence jointly. don't be jealous of a courting between an emotionally volatile guy and lady. only imagine of the different women people he will play round with at the same time as he's messing consisting of her. He wanted to attend to you too however you left, yet he's mad reason you recognize too a lot about what he's doing...that is why he's attempting to threaten you ultimately. lady, he's a 0 and also you spent 4 years with him. that is going to make an effort to get well from it. do not bypass into fb anymore. do not burden your self consisting of his mess if you're attempting to get well from him. do not position his existence and his habit larger on your precedence record the position it quite would not opt to be. You condemn your self once you pedestalize yet another. you aren't to any extent further a nasty man or woman...you only made a nasty determination in a guy.
2016-10-30 21:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats possible that he wants you back. There is a thin line between love and hate. But then again he could just want to do the right thing and take care of his children. I want to know how you found out about him badmouthing you, why you care, and what no lifer ran back and told you?
2006-06-14 02:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do to stop your ex from saying what he does to this new woman. Most people that go thru a Divorce go thru stages of disbelief, hurt, anger & sometimes depression. It sounds like he's at the anger stage. But legally he should be responsible for the financial support of the children if they are his.
2006-06-14 02:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been suppose to provide child support by law, of course accept what your child has due to them, however, if he just wants to help you out I have to say decline, how can there not be strings attached...and do you want this person back into your child's life as well? Perhaps just to break your hearts eventually.
2006-06-14 02:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact legal services. Don't speak to him unless his child support payments are current. You are better off with him out of the picture.
2006-06-14 02:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the money for your child and run from everything else that this guy has to offer.
2006-06-14 02:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl please don't let him. If the child isn;t his and he badmouthed you then separated the child from him and you do your thing because you shoudn't have to deal with verbal abuse frome some one who isn't your child's father
2006-06-14 02:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever he is trying to do, do not let yourself be dragged into this whole thing. when something is over it is over and there is no need for looking back. that only leads to no good.
2006-06-14 02:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by ilya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋