Why do lesbians hate men and then try to look and act like a man?

Answer 1

I don't think they hate men... they just aren't sexually attracted to them. I think some lesbians are genetically more masculine -- and since they aren't attracted to men, they don't dress like a feminine woman would -- because they don't want any sexual attention from males.

Answer 2

I should start out by just saying that I am not trying to make anyone mad or anything. Maybe lesbians hate men, because they have only had bad experiences with men. I am a guy and I know that we can do some stupid things. Plus it doesn't matter who "lesbians" or anyone loves as long as they have love. That's all that matters. So maybe, some, lesbians try to look and act like men, because that's whats needed in a relationship. Foundations for relationships might need the "personality" of a man. Its not that this is what a man is for, its just that the word "man" is the only word that I could use to show the dominate, caring for "wife" part of a relationship.

Answer 3

I wouldn't say lesbians "hate" men. But it's not uncommon to find attitudes where (whatever biological components of lesbianism there might be) the lesbian has had painful experiences with authority-figure males in her past.

Looking at things from that angle, adopting the masculine persona in a relationship is one way to feel safe and powerful, since the male is not only physically larger and stronger (security by association), but in the male role the lesbian will no longer be "marked" as a vulnerable woman by other men -- nor is she specifically vulnerable to the social rules females use when they interact with each other.

It's a much more empowering, physically safe, and emotionally safe place to live.

Answer 4

Both halves of your question reflect false assumptions based on ignorant stereotypes. Lesbians don't try to look like men. They simply dress in whatever way THEY think is most comfortable and makes them happy, without worrying about whether men will find them attractive or not. For some women, that might mean jeans and work boots, for some it might mean long hair, stiletto heels and makeup. To each her own. There are plenty of feminine looking lesbians out there, you just don't know they're gay because they don't look like your stereotypical idea of what lesbians look like. In my experience, most lesbians DON'T hate men -- they're just not romantically or sexually attracted to them. But of course, for some insecure, ego-driven men, ANY woman who doesn't want to sleep with them MUST be a "man hater"! LOL! As for gay men -- another poster has already explained to you about drag queens and tranvestites. And as far as anyone knows, some women are lesbian for the same reasons that some men are gay -- whether its genetics, or exposure to prenatal hormones in utero or some other factors, no one really knows for sure. There's scientific evidence to support both possibilities. I can tell you that I'm a lesbian and I've never suffered any "mental trauma" that might have "turned me lesbian". So your entire question is a complete set of misconceptions.

Answer 5

My theory is that there is an inherent requirement of a dominant role in a relationship, and an inferior role. In a traditional relationship these roles are filled by the man and the woman, a masculine and feminine side of the relationship creating a balance.

When the relationship becomes unbalanced such as 2 females and 2 males, both cannot take on the dominant role or both cannot take on the feminine role. At this point someone is compelled to take a role reversal. In gay men one becomes feminine to satisfy the required "womanly" role of the relationship while the other remains masculine, in lesbian couples, one must become "manly" to take charge of the relationship while the other remains feminine.

This to me is the result of people trying to take something that is not normal or natural and trying to make it feel natural. If it was natural, there wouldn't be the psychological drive to conform to the male and female roles in a single sex relationship.

Answer 6

Eh? Lesbians don't hate men, they are not attracted to men. They act like a man beause they want to attract other lesbians.

Answer 7

Most lesbians don't hate men, they prefer women. But I have noticed what you are talking about in some cases, and you got me as to the reason.

Answer 8

That's not true. They don't hate men, its just that they dislike the way men treat women so they go to what they feel more comfortable with. Someone they are confident that they might have an understanding of.

Answer 9

Maybe they have had some bad experiences w/ men and think they can do it better themselves? I don't know because I love being a woman.

Answer 10

Jealousy, envy, confusion, Michael Jackson syndrome