My 16 year old daughter is 8 wks pregnant and her BF wants nothing to do with the baby. He is going away to college and we are moving from NY to TX. Does anyone know about child support laws when the teen parents live in different states and the father wants nothing to do with the baby? He comes from a very wealthy family and even his parents are acting as if he has no responsibility to this baby because he doesn't want to keep it, so they think none of them should have to support it. Any advice out there?
2006-06-14 01:34:04 · 25 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Guess I need to clarify a few things...Yes it is her BF's baby and he knows it's his, does not deny this at all. And yes of course she wants child support, she's only 16 and needs to finish high school and go to college and will need the financial help from him so that she too can have an education instead of going right off to work after HS. Yes I will be there for her, but as it was stated by some ppl this is her child not mine. This baby will lack for nothing, but my daughter and her BF will be the first to pay for it's needs and then I'll be there to supply any and everything else it may need [or want :)]. I have not made her keep this child this is totally her choice. She knows that no matter what decision she makes it is something she has to live with for the rest of her life and I am there to support her 100%.
2006-06-15 01:38:46 · update #1
How SAD that a 16 year old is pregnant. After the baby is born she will have to get a paternity test to prove he is the father. It is doubtful, however, that she will get any kind of support from him initially because he will be at university. Once gainfully employed, he will be obligated.
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2006-06-14 01:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I f I were you I would talk to a lawyer before I left the state and find out what you can do for child support, if the father wants nothing to do with the baby so be it but he does have a obligation to support the child and I am pretty sure you have legal grounds. Make sure he IS the father of this baby first of all cause you will probably have to prove this. Good Luck , I have been through something similar and the child was better off without a father who did not want her....
2006-06-14 01:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by patsybfbay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if the BF's family has money. He has a responsibility. For the time being there is nothing you can do. Wait until the baby is born and court order a paternity test. From experience the quickest way to do this is to go to DFAC's and get assistance. That way it is in their best interest to find the father. This is only an option if you are keeping the baby. If DFACs gives aid to a single mother, they find the father so that he can pay the state back. Weird huh. That's what happened to me.
When I finally started getting child support, part of it went to pay for the AFDC checks (Aid to Families with Dependent Children) that I got when he was a baby. Any other way to get him to pay child support is going to cost You alot of money.
No I did not make a career out of the system. I stayed on for 2 years which allowed me find a good job to afford rent and get established in school.
2006-06-14 14:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. TEE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that child support is very important. I also believe that if he wants nothing to do with the baby now, your daughter would do well to get him to sign away his rights. Although child support is not tied in with visitation per se, in most cases child support implies a right to visits. My girls didn't really have anything to do with their father until I filed for child support. Then all of a sudden I was going to court for joint custody and visitations and everything else under the sun. I think babies need both their parents, but if the father and his family want nothing to do with this baby, then it would be settled early on that he can take no financial responsibility, but he also has to relinquish all rights to the baby as well.
2006-06-14 04:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea_1101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, okay even though he does not want anything to do with the baby, he still has to support the baby and the laws are the same request the dna test and when the results come back then go to the court house where you live and have the paper work done the only worry you really have is that he can sign his parental rights away and there really isnt anything you can do about that if you need any further info. cal 1-888-208-4485 i live in ny and my sons father lives in az. but really call that # they could help you alot better.
2006-06-14 01:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by glenda d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family is under no obligation to support the child...they didn't get her pregnant. I think that if the father signs away his parental rights, he no longer has the responsibility either. If he has no job, you cant get child support from him. The state bases it on income and his expenses.
Regardless of that, your daughter must take most of the responsibility now since she is choosing to have a baby (not a wise idea). She needs to get a job, finish school and grow up.
2006-06-14 01:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay on his butt about it once the baby is here and he sees that he created this beautiful baby then he may come around! but on the other hand maybe your daughter doesnt need him to help her raise that baby a lot of times it just causes more stress when your fighting with the courts how does your daughter feel? it is her baby not yours matter if she is a teenager? does she want the child support or do you want it for her it doesnt matter if his family is wealthy! doesnt mean hes wealthy, shes the pregant one not you ask her oppinion dont control this for her ( if you have already discussed this thing with her you need to put more details in the question) or maybe he feels like its not his? have you even asked for a paternity test when the baby's bornto be sure your wanting support from the right dad
2006-06-14 01:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by nora l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she moves to TX, before she has the baby she will be a legal resident after 6 months. After that, he can complain all he wants about her moving, there will be nothing he can do. AND- if you are willing to help her out, she can and WILL get child support whether this dead beat is in college or not!!
move to tx, establish residency, then let the father know exactly where you are. He should be allowed to see the child if he chooses. he is being a dumbass now, but hopefully in the future he will be a real dad to his child.
2006-06-14 01:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by psychstudent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you move out of your current state, get ahold of Health and Human Services. They will assist with getting the paperwork started for paternity tests so that she will be able to get child support from him. Once you move out of state, then it gets much harder to get child support. It is not impossible, just a whole lot more involved. If finances are an issue, then they will even pay for the test. then make the father, if financially capable, reimburse for the test. They also can transfer her case to your new state and town. This will save a lot of headaches down the road. Good luck!!!
2006-06-14 01:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by momc63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what states the parents live in, the father is always responsible...you would have to take him to court, and he'll have to pay child support for 18 years, most states take it seriously...and if the father refuses to pay he gets put in jail after so long of not paying....talk to a lawyer about it...im happy to hear a parent being supportive of their pregnant daughter, and willing to help her!! good luck to you and your family!
2006-06-20 19:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋