I think I am Gay is there anyway for me to change to normal ? What should i do ?

Answer 1

Embrace who you are.

Number one: Actually there is a great deal of scientific evidence that it is inborn. Beyond scientific evidence there is anecdotal evidence.

The fruit fly study is actually fairly conclusive. But the pheremonal and eye blink studies are also compelling. I've included links below for those that are interested. Beyond that, research increasingly suggests that at least for males, X28 is the crucial gene. I am saddened by this, because I believe that once it is proven, gay people will be wiped out -- and I think that is sad, because given the number of species in which homosexuality exists (see Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's book "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press) I think it serves a purpose.

In addition to scientific evidence is the anecdotal evidence. I never in my life had any sexual feeling for a female -- nor any romantic feelings. I have had romantic feelings for other males since 8. I figured out it was sexual at 11 and came out at 14. This is not an isolated experience. Gay men in general have experienced the same thing. I never felt anything for girls, neither do other gay males I know. Some boys manage to suppress it for a time, but when it comes out they admit to having always had the feelings. Likewise for bisexuals, although bisexuals always have feelings for both, and therefore are capable of choice -- for real. Gays are no more capable of choice than straights are

Number two: You serve no purpose by damanging yourself in an attempt to please others -- which is why you want to be straight -- to please a society that doesn't give a damn about you. It isn't worth it.

You are good and wonderful as you are. Embrace yourself. If you need a listening ear, or advice as to who you can talk to in your area that is a professional -- contact me. I've included my email in my signature block below.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
Schenectady, NY
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 2

In terms of your feelings about being gay, you may not be gay at all. You could just be at a stage of your life where curiosity is confusing your thoughts. Many hetero people get these mixed signals throughout the stages of development. It is perfectly normal. Don't act on any feeling until you are 100% sure what you want to do. It will save you a lot of headache. If it turns out you are gay, just roll with it. It does not mean your a bad person or different. It does not mean that you will never be able to have your own children either.

Interesting that you use the word "Normal". Homosexuality has been around since gender began. If I had posted this question, I would have probably used the word hetero. Although heterosexuality is the obviously more common orientation, it is important to think of homosexuality as a normal occurrence.

Many people miss the idea that homosexuality is one of nature's way of controlling biological factors. In just about every species of animals that display gender differences, you will find occurrences of homosexuality. You find this in nature for several reasons...

1. Sometimes, an ideal specimen is not able to find a mate to produce offspring and to produce a mate, sometimes a male has to develop and gain strength and experience (think of male lions that are pushed out of the group because the alpha male belongs to all the females in the group). The young lion still needs relief because biologically, testosterone is very powerful. The young lion will have homosexual behavior until it is old and strong enough to finally defeat an alpha male.

2. Homosexuality is used to control population growth. Example: Some female frogs and fish change into males when there are not enough mates in the population (and vice versa). Considering the huge boom in population, you will find nature producing more homosexuals and bi sexuals in an attempt to balance the population.

Anyhow, back to my textbooks... I should write my thesis on this... lol!

Answer 3

Now must people would say to be who u are but if you want to change it is possible. Okay this has worked for my uncle and it should work for you. For a good month watch girl porn NOT GAY PORN for about 4 times a day. Then try and get yourself as horny as possible for about an hour or two everyday. Do trhis for a month and you will be good. This will help you remeber how good girls are and the pleasure of girls. Trust me it works. If you really want to be straight you will take my advise

Answer 4

Honey you feel what you truly feel and want to be. If you are really committed to being "normal" cause none of us are then keep your mind on what you believe to be "normal" and hope that those urges to be with another man or woman will pass.

Remember the only person on earth who can judge you is you and in the after life God so chose wisely.

Answer 5

sweetie, I thought the same thing. I came from a religious family and everything. I never thought I could be gay, but guess what, I was. It's scary at first, but you just got to accept it. It took me a while. I tried to make myself "normal", but sometimes, you just cannot fix it. You can choose, though, which path you would like to take. This could be just a phase, or it could just be who you are. You never know, you just have to decide yourself.

Answer 6

Start by dating those of the same sex. Insure you do not hang out with any other gays or gay friends to influence you otherwise. It is very important you transfer back to being straight

Answer 7

Start by dating those of the same sex. Insure you do not hang out with any other gays or gay friends to influence you otherwise. It is very important you transfer back to being straight.

Answer 8

Sweetie, it will never happen. Embrace who you are. You are an important part of this world, and your sexuality is what helps the world go round. I'm a lesbian, and I love myself for that. You should too. And remember something normalcy is a state of mind. You decide what's normal or not

Answer 9

gay people don't 'think' they are, they are
if you are asking questions, then you are probably not gay
however, you may have feelings of attachment or affection for members of the same sex, and even erotic thoughts or dreams about them. This does not mean that you are gay, it means you are normal.

Answer 10

I can't imagine a God who would gift me with the ability to love but not want me to do so. Jesus got upset about hate, NEVER who you love. If homosexuality were only about sex, not feelings, there would only be meaningless sexual encounters. Many people of the GLBT community are monogamously coupled for reasons other than lust. I'd urge you to be who God made you, not play God and try to change to society's mainstream beliefs!