always gives her the second place and always treats his parents as decission makers
2006-06-14 01:19:39 · 18 answers · asked by ansplz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
express to him how you feel, if that doesn't work talk to his parents and explain the situation and how it makes you feel then if that doesn't work all of you sit together and discuss the problem if that still doesn't work take all your husband's things to his parents and tell him to decide.
2006-06-14 01:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by mylittlemela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce isnt the answer...people separate at the drop of a hat these days. Look, there were signs of this before you got married, but you chose not to see. Love makes you stupid :)..But you need sit down with him and discuss this as adults. Perhaps you need to bring his parents into the discussion too.
I know how frustrating it can be, I was with a mommy's boy once. But bc he loved me and saw how hurt I was about being second in his life, he changed it around. It may not always work, but yiou have to try.
Other than that, maybe move farhter away, or just grin and bear it, or separate for 3 months(not divorce), or go to counselling. That can do wonders for everyone. You do havea lot of options.
Good Luck
2006-06-14 08:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by darcys_wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not respect you first and most important of of all. You from what you're saying is his bedroom tool.
You are his wife his soul mate the decision maker, the builder, and he should offer and give you 100% support in all and everything that you do.
You must take action and talk to him let him know where you stand, a mans wife is his pedestal you can take him up or bring him down.
Show him who is the boss....
2006-06-14 08:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by starlight_1017 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him how you feel and what you expect as his wife. Some husbands take a long time to grow up. Mine sure did, but we have been married for 25 years now. If this doesn't work CUT HIM OFF. No sex without respect. He has to know how you feel first.
2006-06-14 08:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by partyqueen64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it in very calm words and let him know how it makes you feel. Try not to make too many "you" statements such as "You always put your parents first" or "you never listen to me". Instead, tell him "I feel (you fill in the blank) when you (again you fill in the blank)" and let him know you need it to change in order for you to be happy. Assuming he really cares about you (which I assume he does since he did marry you), he should pay attention to what you're saying and try to change.
2006-06-14 08:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take everything he ownes and leave. let his mama take care of him. if he wants his belongings he has to come get them and deal with you too.
do you live with the parents? move out and use the husbands credit cards to do it. if he has no c.c. then apply for them in his name. you are his wife and have every right to do so. get a man where it counts - his wallet ( or his pants as another answerer said - which i liked by the way. no sex without respect! )
2006-06-14 08:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that you two are a couple. If he is too stupid to treat you as 1/2 of a couple, then divorce him. Life is too short to spend with a looser.
2006-06-14 08:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats weird i juts got out of a situation like yours. My fiancee is a mamas boy which drives me crazy so me and his mother got into it and i felt bad to have him choose between me and his mother because i dont want that but I let him be and i said to myself If he really loves me hell make a wise choice and not more than a day later he sat me and his mother down together and said"listen mom i love you and always will and this is my fiancee and I love her she is someone I chose to be with and that just hows its gona be you dont like it then fine your not hurting me or her just yourself but if you love me youll accept her and love her and treat her with the same respect as you treat me" and fromt his day on were straight but dont just let him run you you need to put your foot down and open his eyes maybe he dont see what hes doing is hurting you men are oblivious to things if you dotn let him know u can only blame yourselfyour his wife and he needs to know
2006-06-14 08:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by C I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit his mutha ******* *** down and let him know that you became number one when he placed that 3 carrat ring on your finger ,so you are now number one and togrtherness is the key to this relationship or we dont have a relationship.Tell his *** he cant **** his parents and thats that.
2006-06-14 08:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you see any of this before you were married??? You were probably second place then, but didn't realize it!!! I think he is still tied to them not you. You don't say how long you have been married. Weigh your pros and cons, is this going to change???
2006-06-14 08:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋