When the family gathers, a relative often comments that I haven't been dolling up my appearance. She asks if everything is okay. Says I look depressed, yet I feel alright. Said I haven't been wearing makeup, fixing my hair. Once in a while when I feel like it I'll get dolled up. And my relative makes such a fuss I'm dolled up that I feel self concious. I feel comfortable being who I am, though I used to experiment with cosmetics and hair and clothes. Ignore the comments? Maybe a grain of truth in her comments?
2006-06-14 01:13:23 · 5 answers · asked by phantom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Relatives have fickle minds... Sometimes they just say that because they have nothing to converse with you... If its a compliment, say thank you. If its critcism, take a moment and think. If its true, say thank you. If its jst bulls**t, thank them for caring. The magic word 'thanks'.
2006-06-14 01:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie Raj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose everyone has a right to their opinion but it's how you feel about yourself that is the most important. If you are happy with yourself being in the "natural" then stay natural as long as you are not depressed. I was the same way years ago...hair, makeup, nails on an every day basis. But we change and some of us believe that we don't need all that to be ourselves. I say not to ignore but thank them for their opinions and then let it be their problem instead of accepting it as a problem. Truly there is no problem if you are happy with yourself no matter how you look ANY day. Best wishes!
2006-06-14 01:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you would know if there's a grain of truth to her comments? If you are truly happy with yourself without getting dolled up, then just say that you are comfortable being who you are. She might be genuinely worried about you.
2006-06-14 01:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to make you the center of attention (maybe to get her NOT to be the center of attention for some reason?) -- somehow she's trying to make you feel bad because she's trying to make you feel like you don't look good without makeup (I don't wear makeup much) or that you look SO MUCH BETTER with it. Either way, she's putting you down. I'd either ignore it and let her look like a fool speaking to you that way or figure out a really good come back to her. Just make sure it's good enough to get her to realize what she's doing to you and that you aren't stupid. I have ignorant realtives - good luck!!!
2006-06-14 01:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them everyone has different choices and taste
how can u let them say u anything. but say it in a polite way but rude sense so that they don't disturb u again!
2006-06-14 01:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by mornchap LOVES JOHN CENA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋