I've been married for 6yrs 3 kids 1 with ex married young hubby cheated and abusive we left each other numerious of times swearing I wouldn't take him back one thing led to another now after 3yrs of really bad relation with hubby he changes good way but I can't forgive him for the past I try my best cause I know that if i decide to take him back I'm taking the past but sometimes he can be an asshole and it make me so mad that after everything he has done he can still act that way will recently we had a problem and I over reacted which I apolpgized rigth away he didn't take my apology fine we did't talk to each other and it makes me mad because I got upset over him not going to work that compared to what he has done is not bad but he still acting like an *** its been almost a week we really haven't been talking now I want to leave cause I know I'll be better but I know that if we leave he won't see the kids should that be a reason not to leave I luv him but we got to much bad past
2006-06-14 00:53:43 · 11 answers · asked by kitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not good for the kids to be in that environment.
2006-06-14 00:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get therapy as a couple. Go slow. If you've taken him back when he was a total jerk then why not take him back when he's finally getting better? Sounds kinda silly to me. Do you enjoy the abuse and him treating you bad? It sounds like both of you need to bury the past and not bring it up again, then move forward as a couple. Marriage therapy could help with that. You both need to work on being considerate, caring spouses and parents. Not saying that you aren't, but we all must work on things like that daily. That which you don't improve only gets worse. He's shown you that he can change for the better, so put the past to rest and move forward.
2006-06-14 01:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 yrs of abuse you should be running from your hubby as fast as your legs can carry you. Your kids would be much better off also if you leave. I'm sure they know how their dad has been acting and most likely don't like it anymore than you do. If he's abusive to you, he's probably abusive to the kids in one way or another. Mental and psycological abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Get out while all of you still can.
2006-06-14 01:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by eddieg5234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage, like almost all other marriages, have some problems with it. But don't be so quick to break it off without keeping the kids in mind. Many couples are quick to getting a divorce, but I don't think they consider the results. Especially if their are kids involved. It's not going to be easy, but try and work it out before you leave him. If you can, arrange a meeting with a marriage counselor. Best wishes.
2006-06-14 01:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Scottie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to ask yourself if this is a healthy environment for your children to be in. It really doesn't sound like it is. That has to be your priority now. But even if you didn't have any children that you were exposing to this craziness, it still is not a healthy relationship for you. Sounds to me like he's manipulating you into staying into this mess of a relationship. You have to ask yourself how much you're willing to put up with. Draw the line in the sand and if he crosses it, leave.
2006-06-14 01:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship needs Jesus if I was like you I would have left my marriage a looong time ago. I have found that a two stranded chord is ok but a three stranded chord is much stronger and harder to break. It is also true in Marriage.
2006-06-14 00:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the longest run on sentance that I have ever looked at. Other than that I would look into your heart and then think hard before taking him back. You will know what is right, just give it time.
2006-06-14 01:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by bildymooner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of the children and don't stay in the relationship as this will effect them later in life ...... they would be better to see their dad on weekend visits in peace , rather than see you both not talking and bringing up the past all the time ..... past is gone , think of the future ...... is it really worth dwelling on?
2006-06-14 01:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by helen b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not good that you dont live your life happily
its not good that your kids are growing in such a distructive enviroment, and they might get disrespectfull to you when they are older.
because right now they are seeign your husband being disrespectfull to you and they might think it is normal to act that way
i would suggest you go councelling.
good luck and love your children and yourself
2006-06-14 01:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Gail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ask yourself, Is this healthy??!! Is this good for the children to grow up in??? Think of yourself and the children. Take care.
2006-06-14 00:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋