2006-06-14 00:16:41 · 20 answers · asked by aparna 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I know my mother didn't work until we were all in school. Then she wanted something outside of the house that earned her an income to contribute to the extras in life. Then it became a necessity.
Did read a series of books based in the future that makes motherhood a profession, ladies would apply for professional motherhood status and receive a stipend from the government. This including homeschooling and responsibility for any mischief that the kids would get in. Really when you get down to it being a mom is the most difficult and also the most important job of them all.
2006-06-14 00:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you can afford daycare and if the daycare is good and you WANT to work then so be it.
What has happened in society is that we are witnessing life on the complete opposite end of the spectrum than the typical 1950s lifestyle.
Back then, a woman didn't have much choice in life but to stay home with the children and be a homemaker.
NOW, it's like a woman doesn't have much choice but to get a daycare provider and hike her @@@ straight back to work a couple of weeks after she has a child.
I know from watching the struggle my friends have gone through when they wanted to stay home with their kids. One of them comes from a super religioius familiy and was encouraged. But the other two were actually RIDICULED for even thinking about it.
I think that society today needs to realize that it doesn't have to be one or the other?
Whatever fulfills you, so long as you aren't neglecting yourself OR your children is perfectly OK!
As for me, I do not have any children yet. But, I don't work. I keep the house currently and when I do have children I'm going to stay home with them.
My husband sees this as a full time job even with us not having children yet. There is a set amount of money in the budget which is strictly for things that I want and another portion set aside into a retirement account.
I'm lucky to have such a great husband. That makes all the difference I think.
2006-06-14 01:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Dhara 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are all about the paycheck/ the money. You don't get paid money for raising you own kids. Love from your kids don't pay the bills, but in the long run it pays the heart. If your kids grows up to be decent people, and always make sure that their mom or dad which ever raised them is taken care of than that is payment enough for working that full time job of raising your kids.
Not all people understand what it takes to raise a child. They think feeding them and clothing them is how you take care of them. So not all parents are full time parents they are part time, only providing the minimum of what they can provide. Like a company they provide more for full time employees than they do part time.
2006-06-20 12:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tarabeara 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nowadays single person earning will not satisfy day today needs and considering raising a child is a full time job, I dont think majority of the women think in that way, it will be the responsibility of the parents to bring the child up. Dont you think you also want to come up in the society, get recognised and know more about what's happening outside your home. But one thing is there till the tender age between 3-4 yrs mothers care has to be there. In the urban, after 40 days of delivery mother goes to work and in joint family somebody is there to look after the baby.
2006-06-14 00:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Raj 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, technically it should be a part time jobs these days, especially after breastfeeding, because although it may come as a shock, men are capable of looking after their children too!!!
women want jobs for independence, money, fulfillment not just from motherhood, to develop an interest, to complete a lifelong dream....many many reasons. i think it is perfectly respectable and understandable if a woman does not want to work, and wants to be a full time mother, the important thing is having the choice between the options.
2006-06-14 02:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by jungle bunny 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No one can do both. Wheather 2006 or 3080. Either you are with your children or not, but you cannot be at two places at once. This aplies to both fathers and mothers.
Feminists claim they can do both by working, and putting their children in daycare. The truth is though, someone else is watching your children for 8 hours plus. Women who claim putting their children in a daycare is raising them are crediting fathers who are never home, and still claim they are doing their job.
The pride with feminism to outdo men has destroyed the family, and is hurting children. Many feminists claim they work to show the world their abilities. This is the pride I am referring to. Why should the world's view of you be more important than your children's well being? This is no better than the father who will not stay home, just to prove to his "buddies" that he is a man.
2006-06-14 03:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by man_id_unknown 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I chose to stay home and raise my children. It has been the most rewarding thing I could ever imagine. I wouldn't go back and change it if I could. Everyone has different priorities though,so I don't have a problem with mom's that choose to or have to work. I'm just happy that I had the choice.
2006-06-14 00:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by zoya 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your question provides for financial security being a given, women might STILL feel guilty about staying home with their children because society's overall message to her is that she is lazy and not contributing as much as could. This is, of course, ridiculous, but America is a very competitive, goal-driven country, and American women are very liberated. Sure, they have ENOUGH money, but if she worked, they could buy that new boat, etc... Your average young American male expects his wife to work and may subtly express this message of worthlessness to her if she doesn't.
2006-06-14 02:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about all those other mothers,but I enjoy staying home and raising my kids.My man goes out and makes the money for us.He may leave the house and go to a job but their is no difference.My job keeps me home and I love every minute of it.I know females that work and go to school and they are only doing it to get away from their kids.My kids love me being home with them and I love it to.
2006-06-20 05:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by socute2sexy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do we want to work???? I know if I could stay home with my children I would and I loved it when I did. I already work full time with my children and it's a good thing I love what I do. Because as working moms we work two full time jobs to (generally speaking) dad's one full time job.
2006-06-14 07:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by kukkeeme 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋